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The church line is BS everywhere. All religions are controlled by Satan. It should be a warning sign if they go to church & can't see there is something wrong there.
I can understand how you've come to this conclusion. There are 6 million (plus) cell phone towers world wide. This is one mass weapon against humanity. The easiest to control w/ it are the talking ass females who are always using these devices. Ppl scoff at me when I say this; but I'm older than cell phones. I see the diff. before & after. You can only microwave your brain for so long before things go south.
Human nature is a disease and a GOOD religion is the cure. If you are part of an ultra-Orthodox Jewish community or a traditional Anabaptist community, then you don't have to be a psychopath.
Support morality, support Islam.
Yeah I had a bar girl steal $100 from my wallet once while I was in the shower. She sat on the toilet and there was a wall between the toilet and the shower, which allowed her to do it quickly. She only needed a few seconds. I didn't know she could do it that fast. My pants were on top of the toilet tank, with my wallet in it. They don't usually do that to me though. That was the first time.
Why did you leave your cash in your luggage rather than on you?
Do you mean that he confessed to it later on? You said he apologized for it right?
You know, if you don't want to get scammed or used, just be firm about it in the beginning and let them know somehow. Act like a cheapskate and tightwad, and tell them it's not your policy to lend money. Or tell them you are not going to play Santa Claus. If they fail, they won't try again. That's what I found. It's a good way to filter them out.
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I am unsure about which country you are talking now. USA? Philippines?
Yes, dreaming .. what you write here can be said about almost every country and about many people in this world. There is everywhere theft, robbery, scam etc.
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I've noticed one interesting thing. If an American guy goes to the Philippines ( and Thailand)and gets ripped off and then expresses his frustrations online, he gets no compassion. He gets shat upon even more after that. The response would be:
Americans and other Westerners swear on their mothers' grave that nothing like this ever happened to them while there and that they've been living there for 50 years and that the locals are so angelic, they don't urinate or defecate and just fly like fairies from flower to flower.
Then they attack the poor guy with " you dum--a-s" expletives or come up with complex cosmological theories of subjective perception and the outside world being just a reflection of the inside of that man.
Then, some Filipinos ( or Thais)- either locally based or stateside based- attack the poor guy online too, calling him all kinds of names and throwing a few F bombs and telling him not to come back, because it was foreigners ( or Americans) who f_cked up the country, and now it is that way. Behind them, seconding the are angry baritone voices of their American( or other Western) husbands and boyfriends teaching him about cultural awareness and telling that he needs to be more sensitive. That it was his lack of cultural sensitivities that cause the whole thing in the first place.
If the same guy goes to Russia and gets ripped off there, he can have millions of cubic tons of compassion online. No problemo! Americans and other Westerners are now calling Russians every kind of racist name ( it's OK, they are white, you see- they look like us, and we hate ourselves because we are all racists) and threatening to unleash a nuclear holocaust against Russia, Ukraine and all the other goddamn commie bastards out there.
They start calling the Russians thieving, scheming hoes and make fun of them calling all them Ivans and frothing at the mouth in the process. If some poor Russian girl would join in the discussion, she would be flamed, and angry, self righteous US ex military members of the board would tell her to go back to Russia and to kiss Putin's as#. That the US ICBMs in the silos are awaiting their launch and that soon, Russians will be made into chicken Kiev with a new Pentagon missile.
If it was a Ukrainian girl that ripped off the poor American, the answer is again "same fu-king s-it" and that Ukrainians are Russian commies and deserve to be nuked for what they did to the American compatriot. Ah, why such different responses?
Because of the white guilt of the Western male. He has been taught by the media that all evil in the world has been caused by white people and that all non white people are victims and cannot be evil or dishonest or racist. It's just an impossibility. Hence, if an Asian mistreats a white person, it's always the white person's fault. But if it's a white person mistreats the white person, then the tables are even and it's time to hate back.
So, it's time for some plain speaking. The Philippines as well as Russia and even Costa Rica are highly corrupt societies with a large number of cheats, crooks, users, criminals, freeloaders etc. And an American is fair game in those countries. Plus being a foreigner anywhere is no fun.
Anybody who goes to the Philippines needs to be thoroughly briefed. There are so many boards now that describe scams that go on there. You must read them, otherwise you become a victim. And don't expect much compassion from Asian people anywhere. For them to admit something bad is to lose face. For their apologist Western allies ( husband an boyfriends) to do that is to be racist. So, there is rage coming back from the screen at you.
Magically changing into compassion and arrogant indignation at the perpetrator if it is some FSU country. Here, no problem.
OP, so my response to you is this- sorry for what happened to you there. No it is not your fault. You fell victim to the rottenness of the Philippine society and the schemes that take place there. And trust me, Filipinos cheat and lie to each other, too. They deadbeat each other and steal and rob. They use anyone who is naive and nice. The good people that I know there, the honest and kind ones got used as well. And those foreigners who live there often become crooks and cheats too. The level of corruption, dishonesty etc is very high.
In the US, you know the game and the rules and you don't get ripped off. But many immigrants who come to the US, who don't speak English also get used and scammed. Because they don't know the rules. The same goes for the Philippines. And Russia, etc.
Hope you didn't lose more than a couple of thousand dollars to those crooks.
If you don't have any interest in the Philippine culture ( the way I do- with me it's an obsession), then, there is no reason for you to go there again. But you can warn others on www.cebuliving.com- subscribe to forums and go into the scam section. I do it all the time.
A brain is a terrible thing to wash!
I'm sorry about your bad experience here. I think the most effective way to appreciate country at its best is to choose an area that suits you best, never trust people with your stuff (most especially your emotions) and not get involved with anyone or anything too much. The most important thing is just to get a bit of look and taste of the most interesting stuff for you and then, that's it. Mostly it's just a matter of who you choose to interact with, what you share and what you choose to feel about it.
If you really dislike the country that much, the best way is to just leave and go somewhere else that will make you happy. It's not "Happier Abroad" if you will go back just to bear the environment that you hate, again, just to use your previous bad experience and culture shock (which seems to me is just your strong hate for the customs and its people) to use and maybe exploit someone/something else that had nothing to do with what you experienced and how you felt.
Certainly not quite true on Living in Cebu where one tale of woe begets a dozen others. There's guys there who post hundreds if not thousands of complaints. Of course they don't leave the country - can't imagine why not
Here's a story, for what it's worth. I am old enough to remember a time when people did not lock their doors - literally. In my suburban neighborhood as a teen no one locked their houses or cars. It seems like a different world. One summer there was a series of burglaries in my neighborhood, including our house. Paranoia swept the neighborhood and from then on everyone locked their doors.
This does NOT make the thieves not culpable. Of course they were. They still broke the law and did what society deems to be illegal and immoral. But that summer we learned at least a little bit about the need (and responsibility) to protect ourselves. When you go abroad you have to be an adult. You have to know that there are bad people out there and protect yourself. Just complaining after the fact when you didn't lock your door, euphemistically speaking, isn't enough.
So when I read those posts on Living in Cebu in the majority of cases, the guy was a dumbass, sometimes hysterically so. That doesn't make the liar/scammer/thief not culpable. But that also does not make the guy not a dumbass, which sometimes people point out. After being victimized, you can either complain about the injustice or change your own behavior. Guys who do the former end up being victimized often; those who do the latter, learn and grow.
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My wife's former Filipino manager was dating a hooker and he didn't know it until she stole all the stuff out of his apartment.
Also, my wife used to have a small loan company and an American expat borrowed some money and now refuses to pay her.
Disputes over money and property in the Philippines are very common and often require a visit to the Barangay Captain who acts as a mediator since no one has money for a lawyer or claims court.