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Why Western Men Travel To Asia

Postby Taco » September 19th, 2014, 10:25 pm

Just to clarify, this article used to apply to all East Asian women. In my opinion, it now only applies to women from the Southern Philippines.

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Re: Why Western Men Travel To Asia

Postby MrMan » September 19th, 2014, 11:14 pm

Taco wrote:Just to clarify, this article used to apply to all East Asian women. In my opinion, it now only applies to women from the Southern Philippines.

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The article overstates it's case.

If a woman is Asian, even a woman who grows up in a patriarchal, conservative culture, that doesn't mean that she's going to be good with money, never turn her husband down for sex, or let him hold the reigns of the family. Even if she was taught that all those things were good (or picked up the idea from her cultural background and life experience), she is still a woman. A man has to assert himself a bit, preferably early on, to draw the boundaries and make sure she knows to treat him with respect, that he holds the reigns of the family, and maybe even that he expects her to meet his sexual needs. I might have agreed with the sex part if I'd read the article in the first year or two of marriage, but after the baby is born, she may tell you she's tired. If she has it drilled into her that meeting her husband's needs is very important though early on, that may help her be diligent about it after she heals up after the babies.

It is an advantage to marry a woman who embraces good ethics about being a wife. That's an advantage over the typical American girl. There are some girls who embrace a traditional concept of what it is to be a wife. You could look in certain church subcultures or ethnic subcultures. The Amish probably have plenty of girls like this. :) If you marry an Asian who embraces traditional gender roles, that belief system is a good place to start from.

We all have certain 'scripts' that we follow. If you marry an Asian, she'll have a 'script' from how she was raised and how her parents acted and scripts from what she saw in society. My wife grew up until her teen or pre-teen years with a male head of household who she said gambled and wasn't the real bread-winner, and a step mother who supported the family but can be kind of loud. But she spent time with other relatives after that, and that is not the 'national script' for how a marriage is supposed to be. If you marry, you aren't necessarily locked in to being married to a younger copy of your mother-in-law, fortunately. Individuals are different, and woman can choose to make a conscious effort to depart from the script they've been given if it was a bad one, just like we can.

Still, it is an advantage if you see your prospective wife was raised in a stable home where the man is the leader and the wife submits to him and serves him and the family well.

Also, my wife grew up doing people's laundry. She worked as a shop-keeper in middle school and sold snacks she cooked herself to pay for her high school tuition. She's a hard worker. There can be an advantage in marrying a poor or middle class girl over marrying into what in Asia would be considered a well-to-do family. If you marry a woman who has developed the 'skill' of telling other people to do things by asking her maid to do chores and her laundry, your experience may not be as good as if you marry a girl who grew up working hard.
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Postby KokujinKrusader » September 19th, 2014, 11:21 pm

Yeah, the article really generalized too much, though I would say that Asian women > Western women even if it is only for looks (as a general rule).
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Postby Yohan » September 20th, 2014, 10:36 am

This article is somewhat exaggerated about the quality of Asian women compared to Western women.

It ignores the fact that Western laws are strongly pro-feminist, treating men as 2nd class citizens, but women are protected like children and are entitled to princess behavior - only demanding from men without any intention to give anything in return.

Family values are mostly gone in Western countries - cheating men, even the own husband, is considered as normal, abortion is a woman right and an accepted life-style. Girls as young as 11 are demanding contraceptives and parents do not even have the right to be informed.
Women who are acting violently against men are admired as strong and independent and prostitution is female empowerment.

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This kind of behavior by females is not supported anywhere in Asia.

If you bring Asian women into the Western world, they learn quickly and change their behavior and finally they are nothing better than Western women. If you want an Asian woman, you have to find her in Asia and relocate yourself to Asia.
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Postby steve55 » September 20th, 2014, 11:19 am

I've dated Asian women all my life and of course I've had several serious relationships with them (Chinese, Vietnamese , Filipina etc) and I can attest that this article in "general" is 100% true and accurate. Excellent article.
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Postby Banano » September 20th, 2014, 12:02 pm

steve55 wrote:I've dated Asian women all my life and of course I've had several serious relationships with them (Chinese, Vietnamese , Filipina etc) and I can attest that this article in "general" is 100% true and accurate. Excellent article.



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Postby KokujinKrusader » September 20th, 2014, 4:58 pm

Yohan wrote:This kind of behavior by females is not supported anywhere in Asia.

If you bring Asian women into the Western world, they learn quickly and change their behavior and finally they are nothing better than Western women. If you want an Asian woman, you have to find her in Asia and relocate yourself to Asia.


In general, based on what I have experienced, seen, and read, I have to cosign this.
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Postby zboy1 » September 20th, 2014, 6:09 pm

KokujinKrusader wrote:
Yohan wrote:This kind of behavior by females is not supported anywhere in Asia.

If you bring Asian women into the Western world, they learn quickly and change their behavior and finally they are nothing better than Western women. If you want an Asian woman, you have to find her in Asia and relocate yourself to Asia.


In general, based on what I have experienced, seen, and read, I have to cosign this.


This, times a thousand!

Yup, once an 'Asian women' becomes Westernized...forget about it!
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