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Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Hero » November 29th, 2014, 1:52 pm

Every time I try to tell one that she's pretty or cute, she denies it. One of them even seemed to get angry when I insisted that she was cute. Why can't they just say "Thank you"?? Modesty is fine but that doesn't mean insulting a guy by rejecting his compliments.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby MrBlueLight » November 29th, 2014, 3:56 pm

"I am ugly, I am fat". Says a cute girl who weighs 90lbs, lol.

But then again, I find the Pinays who accept such compliment as if it's no big deal to all be the entitled egotistical bitches.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Hero » November 29th, 2014, 4:18 pm

MrBlueLight wrote:"I am ugly, I am fat". Says a cute girl who weighs 90lbs, lol.

But then again, I find the Pinays who accept such compliment as if it's no big deal to all be the entitled egotistical bitches.


There's got to be a happy medium between hot girls who think they're ugly, and fat old bitches who think they're hot.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Jester » November 30th, 2014, 9:22 am

I think Flips may be the most modest people on earth. Can be good or bad, depending on situation. I think this is ONE reason they are attracted to American men, hot dogs that we are.

Theoretically, this should make a natural match. Like rocky Balboa removing Adrienne's glasses in "Rocky", making her feel beautiful.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tX8FXgKIPuQ
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But I agree with the OP, for me it is a turnoff if she puts her looks down.

PS Thats MY job :wink:
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby newlifeinphilippines » November 30th, 2014, 9:26 am

some of them will say that but then later once you get to know them you find out its just modest joking and they actually have a huge ego.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby mentor » September 23rd, 2015, 10:49 am

Are there any explanations for this attitude?
If they want just to be real and they does not accept exaggerating, I did not find it so bad.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Hero » September 23rd, 2015, 11:50 am

mentor wrote:Are there any explanations for this attitude?
If they want just to be real and they does not accept exaggerating, I did not find it so bad.

Maybe Filipinas think that a man will be intimidated if the Filipina is too beautiful, smart, talented, or successful.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Johnny1975 » September 23rd, 2015, 6:46 pm

If they're modest, let them be modest. And don't compliment them too much on their looks. Compliment them on their character more. If she says she's ugly, say that you like her particular type of ugliness.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Dragon » September 23rd, 2015, 7:18 pm

I am a terrible person.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby mentor » September 24th, 2015, 7:23 am

Johnny1975 wrote:If they're modest, let them be modest. And don't compliment them too much on their looks. Compliment them on their character more. If she says she's ugly, say that you like her particular type of ugliness.


I think this is a wise tactic.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Johnny1975 » September 24th, 2015, 8:07 am

I've sometimes wondered why men tend to feel the need to let women know how hot they think they are. It's almost like it would be some kind of injustice if she didn't know. I've been trying to get over this need myself and it's actually easy. Just remember that her looks is not her. Her physical body is nothing but a thing that she carries around with her. A gift from God to her, which should then be a gift from her to you. It's her gift, it's not her. It's not to be loved, it's to be enjoyed. If you want to compliment her, compliment her personality so that it will encourage her to seek more compliments by being a good person. Meanwhile, keep your admiration of that thing that she carries around to yourself. It's none of her business really how hot you think she is.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby mentor » September 24th, 2015, 8:19 am

Johnny1975 wrote:I've sometimes wondered why men tend to feel the need to let women know how hot they think they are. It's almost like it would be some kind of injustice if she didn't know. I've been trying to get over this need myself and it's actually easy. Just remember that her looks is not her. Her physical body is nothing but a thing that she carries around with her. A gift from God to her, which should then be a gift from her to you. It's her gift, it's not her. It's not to be loved, it's to be enjoyed. If you want to compliment her, compliment her personality so that it will encourage her to seek more compliments by being a good person. Meanwhile, keep your admiration of that thing that she carries around to yourself. It's none of her business really how hot you think she is.


May be you do not know it, but christian saints who dealt with these things, told the same thing!
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Hero » September 24th, 2015, 11:38 am

Johnny1975 wrote: Her physical body is nothing but a thing that she carries around with her. A gift from God to her, which should then be a gift from her to you. It's her gift, it's not her. It's not to be loved, it's to be enjoyed. If you want to compliment her, compliment her personality so that it will encourage her to seek more compliments by being a good person. Meanwhile, keep your admiration of that thing that she carries around to yourself.

The problem with that kind of thinking is that women use it as an excuse to totally let themselves go and devolve into fat f***ing pigs. Too many women think that their physical appearance shouldn't matter as long as they have a wonderful personality. It's possible to have both inner AND outer beauty.
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby mentor » September 24th, 2015, 12:07 pm

Hero wrote:Every time I try to tell one that she's pretty or cute, she denies it. One of them even seemed to get angry when I insisted that she was cute. Why can't they just say "Thank you"?? Modesty is fine but that doesn't mean insulting a guy by rejecting his compliments.


I wonder, what percentage of filipinas behave like this?
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Re: Why can't Filipinas accept compliments?

Postby Ghost » September 24th, 2015, 1:31 pm

Johnny1975 wrote:If they're modest, let them be modest. And don't compliment them too much on their looks. Compliment them on their character more.


Agreed. Modesty is beautiful.

If she says she's ugly, say that you like her particular type of ugliness.


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