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10 years in Thailand and still single

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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby Yohan » Mon Feb 02, 2015 9:04 am

DDuana wrote: What is the point of staying in Asia if you are not chasing tails? You can do everything else you do there in America and have much better job opportunities. And then you can save up and visit Thailand for the fun and sun.


I don't think, USA is offering 'better job opportunities', my daughter (50/50 Europe-Japan) and her husband (Asian-American) left USA/Canada for good after trying it out for about 8 years and settled down finally, welcome back to Japan. Everything here in Japan is much easier and better organized compared to Northern America.

I agree with you however that Thailand is good for fun and sun for the Western foreign man, however Drronnie is NOT a foreigner in Thailand, he prefers Thailand to Europe. - However ordinary men are not treated much better by local women compared to Western countries. What counts, as I explained already in my previous posting in this thread, is money.

In Thailand for a relationship between men and women often money is demanded out of outdated tradition, bride price and similar nonsense, which I think should be outlawed. Women in Thailand are often working less but earning more money than men, depends on connections, parents etc. etc.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby MarcosZeitola » Mon Feb 02, 2015 9:05 am

Drronnie, why are you always talking about how you are single in Thailand, then say you don't intend to go anywhere else? I am curious now what you look like, how your social skills are and if you have a group of friends you hang out with at times. All those are factors in your success. It could be that you simply aren't very outgoing, lack a certain charisma, have a certain inherent shyness holding you back or simply aim for a certain type of women that is hard to attain?

Whatever your problem is, it's likely nothing leaving Thailand can't fix. Chances are you would do great in the Philippines, but you are so focused on Thailand you are unwilling to consider relocating again. Why is that? Maybe you expected that because you are half-Thai, things will be easier in Thailand and you'll do better by default. This does not seem to be the case, so it may be wise for you to reconsider your options. You don't live forever, and I don't know exactly what you want out of life or what your ambitions are, but if you cannot get a woman in Thailand and getting a woman is of value to you, then get one somewhere else. :wink:
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby Yohan » Mon Feb 02, 2015 9:11 am

Well, Drronnie is THAI, so of course he wants to live in Thailand, which he considers as more convenient for him than his former life in Europe.

Thailand is better for him than Philippines, but I would recommend him to visit Philippines, and look around a little bit in other Asian countries (Cambodia, Myanmar, Vietnam, Indonesia etc. etc.) as well. It is not difficult to bring a foreign wife into Thailand, if you have Thai nationality or long-stay permit.

Thai women can be quite difficult for a long term relationship. They often demand either a high 'bride-price' for their parents, and if not, they are divorced with children etc. etc. and of course, not everybody is into sex and short time.

I also noticed that WinstonWu with this forum is not much interested into Thailand, despite Thailand has a bad reputation as a sex-heaven in USA.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby MarcosZeitola » Mon Feb 02, 2015 9:26 am

Yohan wrote:Well, Drronnie is THAI, so of course he wants to live in Thailand, which he considers as more convenient for him than his former life in Europe.

Thailand is better for him than Philippines, but I would recommend him to visit Philippines, and look around a little bit in other Asian countries (Cambodia, Myanmar, Vietnam, Indonesia etc. etc.) as well. It is not difficult to bring a foreign wife into Thailand, if you have Thai nationality or long-stay permit.


True. He should think outside the box. Ten years of being single (which he does not seem to enjoy given the fact he keeps bringing it up in every thread) should be more then enough for Drronnie to draw his own conclusions about Thai women and dating culture. There's a world out there and if he's half-Thai, half-white, chances are he has a certain "exotic" look to him that many women might appreciate. There's more to life then just money, and there will be women drawn to other aspects of his person besides money. Also, what is only a moderate income in Thailand may be gigantic in Cambodia en the Philippines, so that would definitely boost his market value.

Yohan wrote:Thai women can be quite difficult for a long term relationship. They often demand either a high 'bride-price' for their parents, and if not, they are divorced with children etc. etc. and of course, not everybody is into sex and short time.


Sounds very hard to deal with. At least when you go to the Philippines you have plenty of options, and you will not have to settle for used goods. Any young foreigner to settle for a bargirl with two kids really underestimated his own potential.

Yohan wrote:I also noticed that WinstonWu with this forum is not much interested into Thailand, despite Thailand has a bad reputation as a sex-heaven in USA.


Maybe Winston would be interested in it for that reason, but there's plenty of members who aren't interested in sleeping with hoes and cheap skanks, let alone date them like some fools here do, and deal with their issues and attitudes. Still, given the target audience, he should look into it a bit more. Especially for the older and more well-to-do expats and sex tourists.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Mon Feb 02, 2015 6:58 pm

If your having trouble in thailand you wont have much better in PI. Youll have to do something extreme like go to India or just become richer. Neither of which you sound like your willing. The last thing you want to do is pack your bags and go to PI and then start complaining there LOL
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby MarcosZeitola » Mon Feb 02, 2015 8:42 pm

newlifeinphilippines wrote:If your having trouble in thailand you wont have much better in PI. Youll have to do something extreme like go to India or just become richer. Neither of which you sound like your willing. The last thing you want to do is pack your bags and go to PI and then start complaining there LOL


He could at least give a try. Just a vacation, a trip, to see what it's like. He won't know if he doesn't experience it, and his experiences don't necessarily have to be the same as ours, because he is a very different person. Maybe he will do better then you, who knows? Only way to find out is to hop a plane and see for himself.

Some men are actually capable of getting women sans money, purely on the merit of their personality, their appearance, charisma or raw sex appeal. Granted, OP does not sound like that type of man but who knows, what might not work in Thailand could work in PI. You of all people knows what a new scenery, a new culture and a fresh start can do to a man's outlook on life! I know the power of a clean slate. New surroundings. A new adventure. After ten years of being single, what does Drronnie have to lose? ;)
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Mon Feb 02, 2015 9:03 pm

I just think if he has this much trouble being half thai in thailand then there is no way he will find value in PI which is only easy if you are rich and/or good looking or picking up easy sluts.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again so thats why i recommend india which is nothing like thailand or PI or indonesia.

He sounds very poor. The amount of money required for a vacation of any value would leave him broke and destitute. Even I can't afford to do a vacation of any value and im not anywhere as poor as him. I say he should try India where they dont care about money, or go home to america and find better work and regroup or try a new strategy in thailand like day gaming mall girls or something. Whatever he is doing is not working. hes probably not doing anything in thailand probably not even dating sites so that is why he is failing.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby Yohan » Tue Feb 03, 2015 5:24 am

newlifeinphilippines wrote:If your having trouble in thailand you wont have much better in PI


I don't think so, Thailand and Philippines, these are 2 very different countries.

Thailand is better than Philippines considering its living quality, income, security, housing, shopping etc. etc.
We (all our family members are Europe/Japanese or USA-Canada/Japanese) are visiting Thailand since many years for our vacation, we have our own rooms there, but no private connection with Thai people.

Considering women, Thailand is a strange country.

I find women in Philippines much more communicative, modest and much more faithful towards men, including foreign men.

Thailand has a remarkably bad reputation in regard of prostitution, but why? Of course not all women living in Thailand are prostitutes.

Even Thai women who are interested into a long-term relationship are obviously first of all into demanding money - but not always for themselves, they just distribute it for other family members, even if these family members are not poor at all to show how rich the new boyfriend is. Call it a bride price or whatever... money is money.

Further Thai women are obsessed with buying and collecting gold, gems and semiprecious stones. Thai women are good with entertaining men and persistently asking while in a relationship very skillfully for - little by little - more and more - financial favors in return for it. They really know how to 'play' with men.

If you find a Thai woman, who is not into nightlife at all and is available without financial demands, it means she is not accepted by Thai men - out of various reasons, but it does not mean she is a bad choice for foreigners. It's about problems at home, orphans, divorced with children (often from different fathers who don't care).
What is a 'used item' for many Thai men, does not mean it is 'broken down' for the foreign man.

Some foreign men are truly happy in Thailand, often over decades with the same Thai woman. However many are disappointed, they lost a lot of money, found nobody for a long term relationship, were cheated, but anyway they got some nice time with sex in return for it - still better than in Western countries if you ask me.

It is said, that Thai women in Bangkok are often acting similar to Chinese women from the large cities in mainland China, demanding the man should provide everything, house, car etc. etc... and in case he cannot, or cannot do it any longer, they just leave him.

About Drronnie, I think he is too much into Thai women who are living in Bangkok. - While living in Thailand is easy for him, as he has no visa/job restrictions, he should jump over his cultural Thai barrier and look around in other Asian countries for a foreign (but Asian) faithful female companion.

Unlike many Thai men, he has a good knowledge of other languages, so why not?
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Feb 03, 2015 5:36 am

I just dont think the leap is as big as you think yohan. If a guy can't get a thai woman in 10 years and he is half thai there is no way in hell he will do good in PI. Even i struggled in PI and im white and young and rich.

Yohan what was your opinion of indian women compared to thai women and philippine women?
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby Yohan » Tue Feb 03, 2015 8:53 am

I am visiting both, Philippines and Thailand several times every year and I find Philippines much nicer than Thailand - it is much easier to communicate with Filipinos than with Thai. However Philippines has a lot of problems otherwise.

Different people, different opinion... There is no answer to such topics, just opinions....

About India I cannot really comment, but I read terrible things about dowry fraud
http://www.498a.org/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dowry_law_in_India

India has remarkably feminist friendly laws, which can create big problems for a groom/husband and his parents. Men are also often attacked by women in the street out of trivial matters despite train cars and buses are half for men and half for women - not really such a man-friendly society.

Sri Lanka seems to be nicer and more friendly towards men, also to foreign men.
There are also Indian people in Malaysia, but they are rather seclusive, no idea how to approach them.

I have seen some nice pictures of Bangladesh of the non-Muslim women and also of Myanmar. Maybe better than India?
Not sure, I really don't know.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby newlifeinphilippines » Tue Feb 03, 2015 9:06 am

bangledesh and myanmar are definitely not good countries to go to.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby Yohan » Tue Feb 03, 2015 12:54 pm

newlifeinphilippines wrote:bangledesh and myanmar are definitely not good countries to go to.


Why not? Myanmar is a beautiful country with very nice people. For sure worth a trip for some weeks.

The problem is more in missing accomodation, and all what is for tourists is often overpriced. After long isolation, Myanmar need urgent investments.
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby drronnie » Tue Feb 03, 2015 12:58 pm

I think living I Thailand itself is an improvement in the quality in itself. Everywhere I meet friendly people, the food is good, and there is always something going on 24 hours a day. Happier Abroad does not necessarily have to mean to get a relationship with a woman.

The point of my post is to find out why everyone always assumes that one goes to Asia and chase tail. I would rather live here single than live in Europe in a relationship
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Re: 10 years in Thailand and still single

Postby hammanta » Tue Feb 03, 2015 1:42 pm

drronnie wrote:I think living I Thailand itself is an improvement in the quality in itself. Everywhere I meet friendly people, the food is good, and there is always something going on 24 hours a day. Happier Abroad does not necessarily have to mean to get a relationship with a woman.

The point of my post is to find out why everyone always assumes that one goes to Asia and chase tail. I would rather live here single than live in Europe in a relationship


Most assume on Happierabroad that the only reason to go abroad is women. I mean come on, who cares about culture, society, history, scenery, social life, slower pace, etc. ; )
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