I know couples all over the map on this one. The girl works, the girl doesn't work, she works 2 jobs, she works to help her husband, she works to earn for her own needs. Every couple has to make that decision for themselves.Johnny1975 wrote:Although I understand the reasons for not wanting her to work, I disagree. If she has a job, it gives her something to do and then you have more stuff to talk about. If you're going to spend your life with someone, there has to be more to discuss than the dishes or how cute her nose is. Also, it gives her an outlet for her personality and keeps her busy.
Filipinas in the main are hard working and industrious. Beyond money issues, they want to have stuff to do. My wife spent the first year she was in the US cleaning, cook, re-organizing the house, etc. Ultimately she ran out of things to do and became bored. Boredom is as dangerous as the fear she will become Westernized by working with westerners and collecting a paycheck. So she went to work, did a great job and got promoted.
However, not 2 weeks go by before she complains about the job (and the nature of working in the US in general) and wants to quit. I tell her fine, quit - we don't need the money. But then I add, "What are you going to do at home to keep from getting bored?" So far she keeps working, but I don't expect it to last for too much longer.
