I actually don't think this is a winning strategy (and said so in the blog piece) for a few reasons. First, the middle and upper economic classes are small in the Philippines, so the odds are way against you. And would the rare upper-class Filipina want a foreigner, let alone a tight-fisted foreigner - unlikely.MarcosZeitola wrote:mentor wrote:
What I don't understand is why you refuse to consider a girl from a higher social class, with a richer family or perhaps an income of her own. Why she absolutely MUST be a simple poor girl without a job. If money is such a big deal to you and you are so terrified of spending too much on your wife and her family, you should be looking for a different type of girl.
Next, even a girl with a good professional job in the Philippines rarely makes much money. Nurses and teachers make a pittance. A call center operator makes a bit more and if she manages it well can send a few pesos home to her family. So the chances of meeting a cute young Pinay with a job comparable to a Western income - well you have better odds of beating the house in Vegas.
Also, even if a girl has a better off family, do not think that means there are no family members she wants to help.
Then let's consider the following scenario. You meet the girl of your dreams. She has a good job and a family who make enough that they don't require your help. But you want to bring her to your home country. On arrival she has no job or perhaps no means to get a good job. So you're right back at the beginning - and you will have to "help" someone.
What really cracks me up is whether any of you have ever married a Western woman? If so, money is involved - and usually big money. Weddings, houses, remodeling the house, kids, therapy for the kids, divorce, child support, alimony all are standard parts of Western marriage - and all of those cost far more than your Filipina wife or her family will ever cost you.
Now I am an old guy who is into (or at least pretends to be into) financial planning. Before I married I calculated my exact monthly household costs to the dollar. I estimated what an extra person in my household was going to cost: more groceries, clothes, utilities, hell even the family. Guess what (and let's not tell Janet ). My monthly expenses are lower than before we married. Why? Food's lower (she cooks more than I did). Entertainment's lower (I'm not dating spoiled American's anymore). Car expenses are lower - I traded in the car I had to impress people with a more practical car. Plus - she works - and saves pretty much every dime she earns. So my bottom line has never been better, including those occasional efforts to "help" her family.