So her baby daddy left her after the birth of their daughter because his pride and ego made it difficult for him to be seen with a woman who is fat and ugly... but a foreign suitor is not supposed to or expected to display the same ego or hold her to the same standards? Preposterous. This is not an uncommon thing, no doubt, but it is uncommon to see it so bluntly and shamelessly spelled out like this. Damn!publicduende wrote:
I've known a woman from our village who married an American man. She was in her early twenties at the time of their marriage whereas he was in his late sixties. She had two children by two different Filipino fathers, a boy and a girl. This woman was known locally to be a bit wild, a bit easy to get, and she was not particularly attractive either. But the American man married her anyway, and not only did he take her, he also legally adopted her two kids and flew them all to America with his new wife, where he now raises her kids as his own. I know many such stories. In one, a Belgian man married what is very obviously a bar girl, and brought her and her son back to his home country. The woman is very trashy looking, has various tattoos and has the sort of rough face that tells you she used to be a prostitute and likely will not age well. I would see the trashy wife and her morbidly obese Belgian husband on my timeline sometimes, as we have a mutual friend. By now the woman and her husband live in Europe and the woman looks so out of place in the fancy establishments her husband takes her to, it's painful to the eyes... Neither of these men ever had children of their own by their new wives, and given their age and the bitchy nature of their wives, I doubt they get an awful lot of action anyway. They pay for children that are not theirs, raise these children as their own, and in return get bossed around by a woman of questionable origins, far past her prime and never that attractive to begin with.
If living in the Philippines for as long as I have has taught me anything, it has to be that foreign men often really suck at finding a high quality wife. Or not even high quality; they even struggle to find anything half-way decent. In a way, the ones who marry a young, not-too-pretty girl are not bad off at all, as long as the girl is at least reasonable attractive and has a good personality to match. Someone fresh, young, unspoilt. But many of the men, instead, perhaps even the majority of them, end up with women who look so rough even the poorest of rice farmers on harvest day wouldn't pay a dime for their time. Girls who are known in their towns as the village bicycle, prostitutes, "entertainers", "exotic dancers", and most of them single mothers. These men are ridiculed by Filipino men and women alike, usually behind their backs. They're not respected by their in-laws, nor by their peers back home, and they are often the butt of jokes.
I do not know, why any man who knows his value, knows his options, would not weigh them beforehand and aim a little higher. Single mothers are almost always, as a rule of thumb, to be avoided. Obese girls? Forget about it. You could easily get a girl who, while not exactly Miss Universe material, is at the very least fit and slender, or somewhat curvy. There are some men who are perhaps too picky for their own good, but they are in the minority. The majority of men seems to not be picky at all. And if it was just for sex, sure, why not? But to actually marry the lowest of the lowest hanging fruits... that truly baffles me every single time.