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Where do you find non-materialistic girls in Asia?

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Where do you find non-materialistic girls in Asia?

Postby Winston » Thu Nov 13, 2008 8:29 am

Where do you find non-materialistic girls in Asia?

Momopi? Ladislav?

I find that if you tell most Chinese or Taiwanese girls that you're non-materialistic and above that shit, they get turned off and think you're a strange freak.

Do you advise churches? Spiritual groups? New Age groups? Backpacker clubs? The thing is, most of the girls there are just looking for friends and move super slow and aren't into romance much.
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Postby momopi » Thu Nov 13, 2008 6:28 pm

Just speaking from personal experience, the ones who can afford the church-volunteer or perpetual student lifestyle, are from more wealthy Taiwanese families. They can support their kids to do volunteer work for the Church, going to seminars and religious training, or go back to school for a 2nd degree.

These kids usually hook up with kids from other wealthy Taiwanese families, and when they get married, their parents buy them a new house and increase their allowance. In return the married couple pop kids to keep the grandparents happy.

I've been to 2 such weddings this year in Los Angeles. None of them (bride or groom) has a "real job", and their new house in Diamond Bar cost over a million dollars.

Kids from poor-er families cannot possibly afford such, and must work their butt off to maintain middle-income lifestyle in urban cities. If you tell them that you're not interested in making money, well, probably not what they're looking for. You could always find exceptions in the music/artist scene, of course.

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Postby Winston » Thu Nov 13, 2008 6:37 pm

I don't tell them, "I'm not interested in making money." I just say that I do not judge people by their career or economic status. Nor do I deem another person worthless without a job or that the purpose of life is to work hard. That sort of goes over their head.

Everyone takes what money they can get and everyone will work hard at what they love. But not everyone will work hard just for the sake of working hard. It's a matter of values. If I love acting, I will work hard for a performance, even though I'm not making anything from it. But if I hate accounting, I won't work hard if I have a job as an accountant, even if I'm making good money at it, but the Chinese mentality is to work hard and sweat just for the virtue of it, not in "doing what you love regardless of the consequences".
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Postby Winston » Thu Nov 13, 2008 9:06 pm

By the way momopi, remember when we were in that art gallery next to the beach in LA eating oerdeuves with yuppies and snobs, and we met this cute Asian lady who asked us some qualifying questions that you said were designed to gauge our financial status?

What were those questions again? Do you remember?

It was also funny when you told me that the reason yuppies in LA acted overly optimistic was because they had a sheltered easy life. lol
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Postby ladislav » Fri Nov 14, 2008 5:36 pm

I would say Japan. But you need money to just maintain a normal lifestyle there. The girls would not ask ou for money directly but everything will end up costing you an arm and a leg.
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Postby momopi » Sat Nov 15, 2008 12:02 am

It's not difficult to gauge someone's income in OC. You simply ask where they live and what they do for work. Median family income in Cota de Caza is $140k, vs. Santa Ana is $40k. People who work in regular jobs will fit into salary brackets. Those who don't fit in sets off alarm bells, for better (if you're a trust fund baby) or worse.

From experience, the most bluntly materialistic people I've delt with here are from the import auto scene. The men are more shady than Vietnamese coffee bars, the cars are fast, and the women even faster. Want to get laid with amateur models with implants? Run a successful import auto magazine featuring different cover girl + centerfold every issue. Don't trust the girls or your business partner(s), and always demand payment up-front.

Disclaimer: I've only dated girls FROM Japan, and not IN Japan.

Japan is like most other industrialized Asian countries, where the capital city is expensive and lesser areas cheaper. Some Japanese girls will never ask their BF's for money, other than expecting you to pay for dinner. A small numer will pimp themselves via enjo kosai through telekura clubs, or private social-networking sites. The "compensation" can be very high. For those who don't know what it means, read here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enjo_k%C5%8Dsai
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telekura
http://www.asian-nation.org/import-racing.shtml

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