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Re: EVERY filipina girl I have talked to online has done thi

Postby Zambales » October 21st, 2015, 7:52 pm

davewe wrote:
Zambales wrote:

I take 'no' it isn't a word in your vocabulary. Becoming a 'yes man' in this game is like making a rod for your own back. Lunacy indeed. You do know that these crisis' they have can be fictitious?


So let me see if I get what you are saying. If you post in your dating profile some inane statement about not doling out money to the girl's family that makes you a "no man" and covers you for life.

Whether you say yes or no to a request from your spouse is gonna be based on your decision at the time - not because you said so in an Internet dating profile years before.

But if Mentor thinks this is a winning strategy he should go for it and get back to us in a few years and tell us whether it still works on his wife. Of course that implies that he ever has a relationship with a Filipina - which seems unlikely.


As I said previously it isn't foolproof but it will filter out the majority of scammers so long as you emphasise this point again so she fully understands. After all, the bottom line is to find a Filipina who wants you for who you are and not what you can do financially for her and her family. If a scammer knows you won't be giving out money, she most likely isn't going to waste her time on you. She'll just move on to the plethora of men elsewhere on the dating site who are quite happy to open their wallet for her.
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Re: EVERY filipina girl I have talked to online has done thi

Postby davewe » October 22nd, 2015, 2:26 am

Zambales wrote:
davewe wrote:
Zambales wrote:

I take 'no' it isn't a word in your vocabulary. Becoming a 'yes man' in this game is like making a rod for your own back. Lunacy indeed. You do know that these crisis' they have can be fictitious?


So let me see if I get what you are saying. If you post in your dating profile some inane statement about not doling out money to the girl's family that makes you a "no man" and covers you for life.

Whether you say yes or no to a request from your spouse is gonna be based on your decision at the time - not because you said so in an Internet dating profile years before.

But if Mentor thinks this is a winning strategy he should go for it and get back to us in a few years and tell us whether it still works on his wife. Of course that implies that he ever has a relationship with a Filipina - which seems unlikely.


As I said previously it isn't foolproof but it will filter out the majority of scammers so long as you emphasise this point again so she fully understands. After all, the bottom line is to find a Filipina who wants you for who you are and not what you can do financially for her and her family. If a scammer knows you won't be giving out money, she most likely isn't going to waste her time on you. She'll just move on to the plethora of men elsewhere on the dating site who are quite happy to open their wallet for her.


These strike me as two very different issues: online scammers; and women who want a genuine relationship but will want to help their family in the future.

A skilled scammer will not give a damn about what you write on your profile. Saying something like "no scammers" in your profile will be meaningless since no one wants to be scammed. Some girls online know how to play the men and some are quite skilled. Every guy who goes online in the Philippines will encounter some. Your only defense is not based on your profile - just your actions. The moment a girl asks for money you say no and block her. End of story.

But Mentor's interest (and he posted this on other threads) was in meeting women for a LTR who would never want to help their families. Such women in the Philippines are rare if not non-existent and again a warning on a dating profile will prove meaningless after the LTR begins.
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Re: EVERY filipina girl I have talked to online has done thi

Postby OutWest » October 22nd, 2015, 4:29 am

davewe wrote:
Zambales wrote:
davewe wrote:
Zambales wrote:

I take 'no' it isn't a word in your vocabulary. Becoming a 'yes man' in this game is like making a rod for your own back. Lunacy indeed. You do know that these crisis' they have can be fictitious?


So let me see if I get what you are saying. If you post in your dating profile some inane statement about not doling out money to the girl's family that makes you a "no man" and covers you for life.

Whether you say yes or no to a request from your spouse is gonna be based on your decision at the time - not because you said so in an Internet dating profile years before.

But if Mentor thinks this is a winning strategy he should go for it and get back to us in a few years and tell us whether it still works on his wife. Of course that implies that he ever has a relationship with a Filipina - which seems unlikely.


As I said previously it isn't foolproof but it will filter out the majority of scammers so long as you emphasise this point again so she fully understands. After all, the bottom line is to find a Filipina who wants you for who you are and not what you can do financially for her and her family. If a scammer knows you won't be giving out money, she most likely isn't going to waste her time on you. She'll just move on to the plethora of men elsewhere on the dating site who are quite happy to open their wallet for her.


These strike me as two very different issues: online scammers; and women who want a genuine relationship but will want to help their family in the future.

A skilled scammer will not give a damn about what you write on your profile. Saying something like "no scammers" in your profile will be meaningless since no one wants to be scammed. Some girls online know how to play the men and some are quite skilled. Every guy who goes online in the Philippines will encounter some. Your only defense is not based on your profile - just your actions. The moment a girl asks for money you say no and block her. End of story.

But Mentor's interest (and he posted this on other threads) was in meeting women for a LTR who would never want to help their families. Such women in the Philippines are rare if not non-existent and again a warning on a dating profile will prove meaningless after the LTR begins.



When you think of it...assuming a man finds a girl who is the best thing that ever happened to him, but her family? They can go screw themselves. I know this type well over the years, fortunately, most of them never make it overseas. They are just looking for a hole in the mattress to hump. I actually enjoy seeing them suffer various misfortunes, and in the Philippines, I will never help them under ant circumstances. You see, when they suffer some misfortune, " they can go screw themselves". Without exception, they are arrogant degenerate pirics who richly deserve whatever fate overtakes them.
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Re: Re:

Postby mentor » October 22nd, 2015, 6:56 am

MarcosZeitola wrote:
mentor wrote:No safe place for men, in this planet?
If they are easy to divorce, I don' think they differ much from western girls.

I hope their culture to make them stay loyal and avoid divorce at all cost, even if they live in country with such 'bad' freedoms.


It is legally impossible to divorce in the Philippines. So if you go there, and get married by Filipino law, that means you cannot get divorced. You may get an annulment of marriage, but this takes up to twenty years and is so expensive most couples don't go through with it.

If you don't want to divorce, there are only two nations in the world where you do not have this risk: Vatican City, and the Philippines. For this, you will have to relocate and actually live inside the Philippines however. Outside of the Philippines, a Filipina can still divorce you. But stay there and it will be impossible.

So, there is a "safe place" for men who do not want to get divorced. But you don't want to go there, so no use in telling you. ;)


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Re: EVERY filipina girl I have talked to online has done thi

Postby Zambales » October 22nd, 2015, 9:12 am

davewe wrote:
Zambales wrote:
davewe wrote:
Zambales wrote:

I take 'no' it isn't a word in your vocabulary. Becoming a 'yes man' in this game is like making a rod for your own back. Lunacy indeed. You do know that these crisis' they have can be fictitious?


So let me see if I get what you are saying. If you post in your dating profile some inane statement about not doling out money to the girl's family that makes you a "no man" and covers you for life.

Whether you say yes or no to a request from your spouse is gonna be based on your decision at the time - not because you said so in an Internet dating profile years before.

But if Mentor thinks this is a winning strategy he should go for it and get back to us in a few years and tell us whether it still works on his wife. Of course that implies that he ever has a relationship with a Filipina - which seems unlikely.


As I said previously it isn't foolproof but it will filter out the majority of scammers so long as you emphasise this point again so she fully understands. After all, the bottom line is to find a Filipina who wants you for who you are and not what you can do financially for her and her family. If a scammer knows you won't be giving out money, she most likely isn't going to waste her time on you. She'll just move on to the plethora of men elsewhere on the dating site who are quite happy to open their wallet for her.


These strike me as two very different issues: online scammers; and women who want a genuine relationship but will want to help their family in the future.

A skilled scammer will not give a damn about what you write on your profile. Saying something like "no scammers" in your profile will be meaningless since no one wants to be scammed. Some girls online know how to play the men and some are quite skilled. Every guy who goes online in the Philippines will encounter some. Your only defense is not based on your profile - just your actions. The moment a girl asks for money you say no and block her. End of story.

But Mentor's interest (and he posted this on other threads) was in meeting women for a LTR who would never want to help their families. Such women in the Philippines are rare if not non-existent and again a warning on a dating profile will prove meaningless after the LTR begins.


Ever met those type of guys who think with their dicks instead of their brains? There's plenty on the dating sites who are oblivious to scammers because they're too fixated on the beauty of the women. These are the types who'll send money over at a drop of a hat and they're the main reason why scammers exist in abundance.

But you're right about Pinays helping out their family, but saying that, us western guys are under no obligation to be doing it for them. Our responsibility lies with the woman we choose to marry and the family we have by them, and nobody else.

And don't think that all scammers ask for money straight away. My ex didn't ask for any until TWO YEARS down the line. Some are very clever, perceiving themselves to be the model partner - and they don't mind waiting several years, so long as they snare their victim in the end.
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Re: Re:

Postby Yohan » October 22nd, 2015, 2:40 pm

MarcosZeitola wrote:It is legally impossible to divorce in the Philippines. So if you go there, and get married by Filipino law, that means you cannot get divorced. You may get an annulment of marriage, but this takes up to twenty years and is so expensive most couples don't go through with it.
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So, there is a "safe place" for men who do not want to get divorced. But you don't want to go there, so no use in telling you.


Unfortunately not really such a safe place, especially not for a foreign husband.
To be legally a single again is merely a question of money donation for the Church and some paperwork.

This procedure is rather similar to Western countries, the Church donation is replaced by lawyer fees.
Otherwise I see very little difference.

There are many in Philippines who cannot be divorced legally, as there is no divorce in the Philippine law - but as they have no money to regulate their personal affairs, they decide to live separately far away from each other, often after some years without contact they do not even know their whereabouts anymore.

And there are many other men and women of course, also still 'married' under similar circumstances, who will replace the husband or wife he or she left some years ago.

This is NOT the way of life of the upper/middle class families in Philippines of course who can afford to pay, but this is how it is done among the poor.

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In case of a foreign husband it depends often on the law of the country of the foreign husband. Most feminist Western countries do not accept the legality of non-existing divorce in the Philippines.

If he is for example from Australia and despite he is living in Philippines and she is a Filipina and has never been in Australia, she can nevertheless file for divorce in Australia and rip off his overseas assets. Some lawyers in Australia are specialists for such international divorce cases, especially if the Australian man has some money in his Australian banking accounts or retirement investments to take away from him.
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Re: EVERY filipina girl I have talked to online has done thi

Postby realityofphilippines » July 24th, 2017, 6:10 am

As Most Filipinas are Gold Diggers, Liars, Cheaters and Scamsters who make it terrible for the innocent ones. Few examples and reasons why can be seen under https://truephilippines.tumblr.com/
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