I don't care what your gf thinks of my appearance. Most Taiwanese guys are not better looking than me. Hell no. At least not in the smaller cities. A person has to sit down and talk to someone to really judge them.Rock wrote:Wow, this thread is getting out of hand. I've skimmed through the last couple pages of exchanges and will just throw out a few off the cuff thoughts. I may return at a later time to give a more thorough response.
- I agree that a lot of white guys have very bad taste (according to my own standards). Here in Thailand, its really in your face. Young decent looking guys in Banglamphoo hanging out with nasty looking dark girls from the sticks of Issan. But, I do see some with quality too. Sometimes, I see these guys with innocent looking stunners from Chula or Bangkok U around the malls. And today, I met, through a mutual friend, a mixed (half German half Thai) 24 year old photo model chick who frequently hooks up with young farang and is currently with a big Aussie dude. As with many Luk Kreung, she was quite stunning in person as well as in the photos she showed me. In Taiwan too, some of the white guys choose gals who are not very impressive according to my own taste. But I have seen some real hotties with black guys. But hey, my taste is different too. The Taiwanese girls I like the most physically would probably be considered very attractive facially but somewhat overweight by the majority of local Taiwan guys.
- Good thing about Thai for someone like you Winston is that you can find a wide variety, spec wise, of low cost P4P in places like Pattaya while you slowly build-up your local language and social skills and hopefully succeed in moving into more mainstream Thai circles. I believe for many Thais, your Chinese appearance brings you closer to them than regular whites/blacks/arabs/etc. In fact, I've heard very often that Thais absolutely hate Indians (there is a large disporia here) and lump a lot of middle easterners in with them. If you do partak in P4P, you really should be very discreet abut it if you wanna hang in respectable circles. Do it the way Thai guys do, not typical foreigners. If you act like many white farang parading their rental girls around town, you will may find yourself shunned by polite society once the word gets around.
- Taiwan is a dating paradise for some. For others, its a dating hell, no better than the States. First thing I wanna make clear. I believe its a younger man's country. The average Joes I refer to tend to be white beta male types in the 25-35 year old range. A lot of Taiwan gals wanna try-out white guys. But of these, many do not intend to get serious. In fact, they often have local boyfriends. Of course, once things get going, its hard to control feelings (I've got a related story about my tenant which will come out in the interview highlights I post). Winston, no matter how western you feel, you are not a white guy so you do not appeal to these types. As for the gals who want ABCs, I understand they are quite picky about height, looks, dress, etc. So you fall out of their spec range too.
- If you asked some black Americans, they might tell you that Iceland is a sexual paradise with all kinds of blond girls offering up their booty for short term no strings attached fun. But for average Joe whities, it would be a sexual dessert. So the formula depends on both the person and place. Its not like any guy can do well in a given country.
- When I get back to Taiwan, I will discuss some of your questions w/my girlfriend and friend in Spain and post their feedback. I will also ask for their honest opinion about your appearance if you want me to (let me know).
- If I were you but unattached, I would give-up on Taiwan and focus on areas where I might be considered the most attractive as a prospective mate. Here's a few guesses:
BEST: Phils, 2nd and 3rd tier urban China, Vietnam, certain parts of Lat Am. I would add Thai for shorter term relationships.
WORST: Fully developed East Asia, Mongolia, developed English speaking world.
Besides, women are not usually good at relating to guys' problems and issues. They cannot emphasize or relate to us and how we are treated. Some even think that guys have it easy. Many girls also do not like to admit anything negative and avoid it.
But you can ask your girlfriend if an asian guy with a white western personality, behavior and communication style would be seen as weird in Taiwan though.
Age is not the problem with me. When I was 17, Taiwanese did not talk to strangers either, or make eye contact with them. A few girls liked me, but they were poor and of darker skin.
Even though Taiwanese girls are picky, there must be many who are simple and humble and not that judgmental. There were many such types in my Generation X. Not so much with Generation Y.
The problem though, is meeting them. Most here are not comfortable meeting people they don't know. So it's hard to break the ice, without some connecting activity.
So even if there are many nice girls out there who would like me, "breaking the ice" and meeting them is still the main barrier.
It could also be, metaphysically speaking, that my critical writings about Taiwan and East Asians in general, have sort of created a "bad karma" for me with Taiwan that affects my luck and energy there, since after all, everything we do is an expression of "energy" that comes back to us in some way.