Good observations. However, I've never met a Russian woman who asked me to bring her to the US, oddly enough.
Here is my list of pros and cons of Russian women that I wrote up long ago:
The pros and cons of Russian women, according to me
In my view, here are the pros and cons of Russian women based the strong patterns I've experienced and observed. Not all of them have both of the pros and cons below of course. Some have more of the pros and others have more of the cons, to varying degrees. But the more you know and get involved with Russian women, the more these patterns below become prevalent and repeat consistently.
Pros:
- They are among the most beautiful women in the world. They look very feminine, skinny, have top-notch taste in clothes, and know how to look good. Unlike American women, they know how to maximize their looks with skirts and high heels. Modern American women, on the other hand, tend to dislike wearing skirts nowadays, unless they are city girls.
- Not only are they beautiful, but very approachable, sociable, communicative, and inclusive to strangers as well. They are very comfortable with talking to strangers, and they really enjoy meeting new people, especially foreigners. It is so easy to get dates in Russia and make friends, that one can never really be lonely. Russians in general are very inclusive of strangers, and very likely to invite them somewhere or spend time with them. In fact, it is hard to find time to be alone in Russia, as privacy is not as respected as in the West.
- They have a modest sweet disposition that makes you more comfortable around them, and makes them more approachable. It’s a pleasant, refreshing difference from the self-righteous “I don’t need you� attitude of modern Western women.
- Russian women tend to be very curious by nature, so curious in fact that they will even go out with guys they aren't really interested in, just out of curiosity (though not usually more than once or twice, especially if the guy they aren't interested in starts trying to get intimate).
- They are very intelligent and educated, have a good knowledge of history (more so than Western women for sure), and usually speak more than one language. Usually German is their second language, which many speak even better than English for some reason. (No one really knows why though, and it's strange that German, a country that killed millions of Russians, would be so popular in Russia.)
- They enjoy compliments, are easy to flatter, and are impressed when a guy is persistent in his love for them.
Cons:
- They tend to be more greedy than women of the rest of the world, in several ways:
a) They are not ashamed to ask a man for presents or money. (Not all Russian women do this, but more Russian women have asked me for things, than ever in my whole life anywhere else. Guaranteed. There is no arguing or rationalizing it away.)
b) Unlike American or Asian women, they will gladly take presents (even if they are expensive) from a man they aren't interested in and don't really like. Though American women are not as approachable to strangers and are more paranoid of them, they won't usually accept gifts from a man they aren't interested in, even if they want the gift. That's because Russian women LOVE to take, and have no shame in it, but in fact are proud of it.
c) They don't see a balance between taking and giving. And they strongly prefer taking over giving. Comparatively speaking, American women try to keep a 50/50 balance between taking and giving, with their partner, and Asian women prefer to give more than take. But Russian women are the opposite, for they strongly prefer taking more than giving. I have hundreds of examples to prove this, even from simple everyday events in Russia, and people I know who have lived in Moscow for 9 years or more agree with this too.
d) They have a clear hypocrisy and double standard in this area as well. Russian women are very economical and frugal with THEIR own money, but if you are a foreign man, you are NOT allowed to be economical or frugal with YOUR money around them. If you are, they will call you "greedy" and look at you with this hypnotic gaze that tries to induce guilt and shame in you. It's kind of creepy, but I've had that hypnotic shame-inducing gaze directed at me many times, and it is powerful indeed. But afterwards, I am repulsed by it for it is very manipulating in nature.
In short, they don't like to spend their own money, but they LOVE spending other people's money. This is very sad but true. I wish it wasn't true though.
But nevertheless, it is a CLEAR double standard. If you confront them about this, though will not try to logically defend it, but instead become angry and defensive, claiming that as women, they have a "right" to be economical, ungenerous and expect men to be generous to them. They see it within their right to have a "taker mentality" which they see no shame in.
In fact, they are infamous for constantly putting you in situations that require you to spend money. And sadly, many Russian women judge a man by how freely he spends and how generous he is, rather than by his personality or character.
In Russia, a man can be economical, (and they have to, as not everyone is super rich) as long as he doesn't APPEAR to be economical. Deep down, they don't wish to spend all their money either, but they can't let the women see that. Russian men have tactful ways of getting around this. They may hide their money and show an empty wallet, or look for excuses not to go to places where they will have to spend a lot of money.
- They have an unusual morbid desire to receive presents. It's kind of shallow I know, but somehow they get off on it like an acid trip or drug. In fact, when I'm at a store or mall with a Russian girl, I can sense that her thoughts are "Why doesn't he offer to buy me a present? When will he do so? Why doesn't he? He should!" which makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable.
The problem though, even if you’re a nice man, is that buying a Russian woman a present isn’t going to satisfy her desire for them. Instead, it will only fuel her desire for them more, as she will ask and expect more and more without end. That’s how desire works in human nature. Getting your desire doesn’t end them, but in fact makes them grow even more. (e.g. if you won a million dollars right now, you’d be happy for a while, but it wouldn’t be long before you thought “wouldn’t it be nice to have ten million dollars, I could do so much more with ten million!�) Therefore, nothing good comes out of it, unless you like being an eternal sugar daddy.
- Though they are feminine, they are not romantic and don't believe in the concept or romance, deeming it to be of a child's fantasy, and unrealistic. They don't even like romantic or tender men, but instead prefer big strong men with money, strength, and power. Rather than do something romantic on a date, they prefer to do something that involves spending money (not theirs of course, but the man's). Deep down, they are cold, hard, strong willed, untrusting, cynical and pessimistic (though they are playful and fun-loving as well). And not to cross the line, but during sex they have a reputation for being robotic and unfeeling (as depicted in the movie "The Birthday Girl" with Nicole Kidman).
- They are so stubborn and strong willed, that they will never admit that they are wrong or apologize for their mistakes. Even if you show them every reason and fact that they were wrong, they will not admit it. That cold, resilient willpower of theirs (the same one that defeated Hitler and Napoleon) will never succumb. They'd rather argue for hours or even destroy the relationship, than admit that they were wrong.
- And sadly, they are very changeable and don't stick through thick and thin. In fact, the divorce rate in Russia is very high, arguably the highest in the world, somewhere around 60 to 70 percent depending on the study you read. Some studies show that divorce in Russia is even higher than in America (though other sources dispute it). But regardless, they may get with you fast, but they can leave you fast too, and often coldheartedly. In fact, this study found Russians to be the quickest to marry and quickest to divorce:
http://www.divorcereform.org/nonus.html It seems as though Russians don't tend to honor fidelity and commitment. Often, such virtues are merely lip service. Therefore, I wouldn’t exactly bank my hopes on finding a long term mate there of good marriage material. It’s possible of course, just difficult.
Conclusion:
Based on the pros and cons of Russian women that I listed above, I conclude the following. Russian women and I do have a great natural chemistry in our communication styles and personalities. They like my personality (though some of them tell me that I am cute, I don't really buy it) and my communication style jives well with theirs. Russian women and I have a lot in common - we love to laugh at silly corny things, we are easily amused, we are very curious by nature, we love meeting new people, we are comfortable talking to strangers, we are pessimists who know how to have fun, we love travel and foreign cultures, we love history and literature, we love trying new things, we love to flirt, etc. They love my silly sense of humor, laugh easily, and are easily amused. And they enjoy my flirting, flattery, and the way I charm them, which works well with them.
However, when it comes to conflict in personal values, it starts to create a rift between us. I am economical and frugal, and I don't believe in being judged by how "freely" I spend or how "generous" I am. (and I can't just be generous once, I have to generous constantly without end or limit for them) I also am big on fairness, and don't agree with the double standard that they can be stingy with me, but I cannot be frugal around them. That's a pet peeve with me. I don't believe in the relationship of me being a total giver while them being a total taker. I also despise that they are so ungiving toward me, and won't do much to help me or try to make me happy. Like them though, I am also very strong willed and stubborn, and hence I don't easily compromise on my values either.
Now don't get me wrong. I am giving and generous, especially to those I like or love, but what Russian women want is too one-sided for me. In my home society, people don't take something without trying to offer something in return (e.g. money, gifts, services, favors, affection, etc). But in Russian female mentality, they strongly want to take without the balance of at least trying to offer something in return.
Around them, when they want me to spend money or pay for something I don't want to, I am caught between a rock and a hard place - on one hand if I refuse to spend a lot or buy what they want, then they will call me "greedy" and look at me with angry shame-inducing gazes. But on the other hand, I can't just do whatever they want and give them everything they want either. There has to be a line. I can't just surrender all my resources to their will, or else my vacation will end shortly and I will have to fly back home (and no, usually they won't even be a good friend and let me stay over their place if I can't pay for a hotel). Plus, even if I did, I'd feel like I'm sacrificing my self-dignity, which would be a shame to myself. So either way, I lose. I hate such situations.
They are also not as romantic as I want women to be, nor as gentle either. And, I don't know if it's my looks or race, but they aren't as passionate toward me as I am toward them when it comes to sex. So I often feel unfulfilled and unsatisfied with them. But they seem very open and uninhibited with regard to touching, rubbing, and kissing more so than Western women are to me. I do notice though that they don't tend to like Asian men that much, even though they may deny it and say race doesn't matter. Perhaps in Eastern Russia, which is more Asianized, it's different, but my experience has to do with Western Russia.
And of course, with such an unusually high divorce rate, arguably the highest in the world, it’s unwise for me to invest my heart and emotions on finding a life partner there. It’s possible of course, but very difficult and against the odds.
Therefore, in conclusion I'd have to say that my chemistry with Russian women is mostly a surface chemistry and behavior, rather than a soulful chemistry, bond, or connection. So I'd have to conclude that in short, Russian women are good for short term fun, but not for long term relationships.