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Discuss culture, living, traveling, relocating, dating or anything related to Russia, Ukraine, or the former Soviet Republics.
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If you've ever been to Eastern Europe or Russia the first thing you notice is how serious everyone is.
Why Russians Do Not Smile At You
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Here in Lithuania people don't smile at strangers period. Most Lithuanians only smile at you when they get to know you and see you are a genuine person without bad intentions. In my first time here I thought most people were rude but then I began to understand once my friends here told me about it. In a way I consider it my detox from the matrix.
So they only smile when they have something genuinely to so smile or laugh about. It makes perfect sense. I don't smile much either unless I have a great day or found something funny. Whenever I have to fake a smile for a family picture, it feels forced. To the average Russian, smiling Americans probably look like the Joker or The Ghastly Grinner from Are You Afraid of the Dark?
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I also don't understand the hallow"Are you having a great day?" question at checkout counters in the US since they really don't care if you are having a good day or not. The only time I take it serious is when family or friends ask me. A message for cashiers: Don't say "Are you having a great day?" if you don't mean it.
Unfortunately, it can be a matter of keeping their jobs. Corporate culture removes the choice to be fake or genuine and trains people to be fake automatically. It becomes ingrained and will follow people outside of the workplace.
A few places are like that, actually. I remember an Irish guy's post on America & one of the things he mentioned was that people were always saying "You never smile." He reasoned that at least when he smiled, you knew it was a real smile. Another thing he mentioned was that massive amount of advertisements on T.V. (I think he made specific additional reference to all the medical commercials).
That article in the link is shockingly like me. One time when I was in high school, I was in a good mood & walking down the hall. A friend of a friend that I got along with too asked "Hey, are you alright?" And I said "Yeah, why do you ask?" And he said "You looked like you were going to f***ing kill somebody." Maybe it's a slavic thing?