steve55 wrote:My best friend has been in brazil almost 1 month now. Although he has always known that its easier dating abroad than the US, (from his limited travels to Mexico and one trip to Europe), he always thought my views about how bad the US is for dating was very exaggerated and not too much different than abroad. Well, NO LONGER! He is a changed man, he is converted!! He no longer thinks my views are exaggerations!
He now says "Steve, man, you have been right all along. Women here (in Brazil) flirt more, initiate eye contact, are sweet to your approaches , more easy going towards meeting men, etc etc". In fact, I even recall my video chat with him after his first few days there, he said that a hot brazilian girl was staring him down on the train!! He didn't know what to do as he's never had that happen before. Lol. When does that ever happen in America ? I experienced a lot of that in the Philippines myself.
Anyways, my friend has dated 9 women while in Brazil in just 3-4 weeks !!! He said most were 7-10's on a scale of 1-10!!! Most were mid 20's to mid 30's. He said several were drop dead gorgeous and the best looking he has ever had in his entire life . He said that most of these women were so hot, that if they were in the US, he wouldn't have a chance in hell to date them. Lol. Also, most were middle class or better and half had very professional jobs. One was even a university professor, one owned a lot of land and was well off! He can't believe what is possible in Brazil. This from a rather short 5'7" almost 47 yr old man!! Let's face reality, in the US, a hot sexy 30 yr old will have nothing to do with a short, totally bald 47 yr old man.Lol. Because he is a very private person, I cant publish his photo here but you'd see he is very average looking.
(oh, and none were hoes in case you're wondering, he even turned one hot girl down because he suspected she may have been, later he found that she wasn't, opportunity lost, lol ).
MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!
He says that prior to this trip, his beliefs about why foreign women loved Americans so much leaned heavily towards the American cultural stereotypical belief that these foreign women for the most part are after your green card or money. Well, after getting to REALLY know these women, he does not believe this anymore. He said to me "Steve, you are right. It's not about green card or money, there is a huge shortage of men here, not to mention men who will be faithful and be committed to family as us American/western men tend to be". This is what the women have told him. Ya see, he has been there long enough and dated enough to learn what drives these women. He said that he learned that most just want a good man who will treat them well. Men there just don't treat the women well and just arnt into the family husband role. He doesn't say that a man having a good job and income plays no role at all, of course not. He just says that now he believes it's only a small part of their motivation to date American/western men. (But lets face it, American women care more about material lifestyle than foreign women).
Anyways, this story is a perfect example of why I regret that I wasted away here in the dating hell of the US of gay, and missed out on the opportunity for finding a wife sooner while I was younger (as I've always wanted). My friend says that if he was living in South America , he feels he would have found a woman to marry a long time ago, a very long time ago. He is also marriage minded too. Fact is, Women are sooooooooo different abroad than here. Abroad, women want men, NEED men, they flirt, they make eye contact, they are sweet and kind when you cold approach them (unlike in America where they feel molested or bothered by the attempt). My friend said it's day and night difference. He averages about 1 date every 4 months here in the US (and they are usually overweight or in their 40's with kids in tow) and me, well, I haven't had a date in the US of gay in three years and not by choice. Admittedly, if I was willing to lower my standards and date fat women, I probably could have had some dates by now.) Yet I can get 10 dates a week in any other country. And my best friend is now experiencing the same thing!! Women here in the US are hard to meet, unapproachable, stay in cliques, don't even care about having a man, (at least nothing like foreign women do), and the ones that arnt fat are too hard to get as every guy wants them so they think they are goddesses. It doesn't help if you are in your mid 40's either. Abroad, todos es no problemo!
So, this is big news because my best friend who never was a believer about how much easier the dating scene is abroad compared to the US is a changed man! He says "Steve, you are right man, you are right" ! He has motivated me to re double my efforts to spread the word (through my site) to help other men realize how good they can do outside America. Most men will choose to rot in lonliness than to get off their asses and go see what's outside the US of gay. Ive come to the conclusion that most American men are truly LAZY. I have another friend who also is in his mid 40's and is lucky to have a date once a year with a fatty even at that, yet he withers away in his lonliness in the US of gay. I know he isn't happy, but h doesn't listen to what I tell him. he even speaks Spanish for whatever reason, he never wants to travel abroad. I don't get it. The only thing I can think stops him is that he may have bought into the American cultural brainwashing that these women are only into you for your green card and money. Well, you can lead a horse to water, but apparently that's it.
A few photos from my friend that he took at one of the US games at the world cup
Is Brazil actually expensive in general?