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Discuss culture, living, traveling, relocating, dating or anything related to Latin America, Mexico, or Central America.
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I first talked to Jennifer through Colombian Cupid. I met her during my vacation to Colombia in March, and we had sex twice during that week. When I came back to Bogota this past July to teach English, I started seeing her every weekend. I could tell she was the type to bounce from gringo from gringo, so I never really thought of her as anything more than a f*** buddy. But I enjoyed spending time with her. It was completely drama free. She let me do things to her that I've only seen in porn. On top of all this, she's around an 8 or 9 on a scale to 10. With dim lights, you could say she's a 10. Sometimes I even enjoyed conversations with her. She gave me the girlfriend experience without all the baggage. There were no arguments, no nagging, no jealousy. Just drinks, sex, dinner, and fun. She was almost always reliable, and ready to see me at the drop of a hat, the click of the send button on WhatsApp. She always stroked my ego and made me feel like a king.
But as I said, I never really considered her as anything more than someone to spend time with and have sex with on the weekends. I probably made her feel like we were in a relationship at one point, yet I was still actively pursuing other women. I had sex with 4 other women during the time I was seeing Jennifer. One of those women was her friend that randomly added me on facebook. A few days after that encounter, Jennifer blocked me on WhatsApp and Facebook. I thought she'd found out what happened. Out of curiousity, I sent her a message via SMS, playing dumb and saying I'm sorry if I had offended her somehow, and that I'd like to talk. She sent me a message back saying a guy from Australia, who'd she'd met in the past, was coming to live in Bogota in two months and that she could not see me anymore.
Although I'd never thought of Jennifer as a potential girlfriend or long term relationship, I felt disappointed. It wasn't oneinitis, though. I've experienced oneinitis, this was something different. I had a lot of good times and great memories with Jennifer, and this all came to an abrupt and completely unexpected end. I wasn't surprised.. and I was surprised. Rationally speaking, it was only a matter of time before this would happen, and I knew that from the beginning. But, for some reason I was shocked emotionally. The entire time I was seeing Jennifer, I never really thought I'd miss her when it came time to split paths. But when she was gone, I felt like I had an emotional void that needed to be filled.
Although I'm sure it won't be difficult to find a replacement, I think the hardest part about these types of things is, you know you'll never really have the exact same relationship with someone else. You can replace them, but you can't replicate them. This is true in the workplace too. Once and employee leaves, you can hire a new one. The new one may be better or worse, but won't be the same.
I'm sure Jennifer's replacement will unique in her own way. She'll bring something different, something new and exciting that Jennifer did not. She also won't be able to be replicated. But sometimes I can't help but miss Jennifer. My memories of her are actually more pleasant than any actual long term relationships I've had. After all, what's better than getting the consistent girlfriend experience without all the baggage of being in a relationship?
I'm just not sure how to address your post here, because she wasn't even your girlfriend. On a poor ass teacher salary it limits what you can accomplish. That's why I make my money in the States and travel specifically looking for high end tail with visas. Finding above average poor chicas to screw is super easy.
Now IF you are wanting a woman that puts you first I can explain those signs for you. Your whatsapp should be filled with te amo and lots of emotion throughout the day. She's going to want to drag you around all her family and friends.
If you are depressed you lost one of your 5 f**k buddies, then I'm not sure what to tell you. Go f**k another girl I guess.
Okay I'm not exactly crying myself to sleep looking at her pictures... It's just nice to have a reliable girl (never flaked) to bang on demand for free. I am only teaching to make a little extra spending money, but my savings is financing most of my adventures down here. But it's already getting old so it might be time to head back to the states and back to reality soon.
travelsouth is your experience in Latin America particularly in Bogota? Other parts of Colombia? Other parts of Latin America? If you know of any smaller, more conservative towns, I'd like to hear about them. I have a list of a few small towns outside of Bogota that are just a few hours on a bus, but I'm not sure where to take my first shot. I want to meet more traditional latin women.
At first I vacationed in Latin America to learn about these girls and just have a good time. Now I just travel to pull some high level chica that could be good long-term for me. You have to figure out what your goal is and set it. If you just want to bang latinas you can do that on paid time off, weekends, and holidays.