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Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

What's your story? Discussions your reasons for going abroad.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by YourTrustedAdvisor » September 16th, 2016, 9:30 pm

Winston wrote: My weight is the same. It refuses to change. If I go back to China I will lose some though. China is happier, Taiwan is miserable and repressed.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Kradmelder » September 16th, 2016, 11:15 pm

Winston wrote:
YourTrustedAdvisor wrote:
Winston wrote: This one is about the great and famous Russian novelist Fyodor Dostoyevsky, who wrote epics such as "War and Peace".
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Winston! How's the weight loss program going?

Dostoyevsky never wrote "War and Peace"!

It was Tolstoy!

Take care, buddy! :D

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Thanks. I fixed that. My weight is the same. It refuses to change. If I go back to China I will lose some though. China is happier, Taiwan is miserable and repressed.

Whose "trusted advisor" are you? And who are you anyway? You act like you know me and care about me. And you've appointed yourself someone's advisor too it seems. lol
Of course Taiwan would be repressed. They have 1.4 billion Chinamen trying to eradicate their existence as a nation and make them into just more Chinamen. Actually they don't even acknowledge their existence. Taiwan must feel like a big fat chick is sitting on your face and you are trying to breath. Like any nation acknowledges Taiwan and China will not acknowledge you.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Winston » September 17th, 2016, 2:37 am

El_Caudillo wrote:Winston, the guy who makes these videos is Alan de Botton - a famous Swiss-English lecturer, author and TV presenter. I have been watching him for some time - this is one of my favourite vids of his
Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.

He also seems to have never left the West. He assumes all couples all over the world are the same. And that men and women are at equal fault for everything. He's obviously never been to the Philippines, where girls are simple and easygoing and do not argue about little things. I hate narrow guys who think western couples represent the whole world or that his experiences speak for everybody. That's very narrow and arrogant and untrue as well. He can only speak for himself, not for others.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by The_Adventurer » September 18th, 2016, 7:09 am

Winston wrote: Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.
I've never seen these peaceful couples, perhaps, except in the Philippines. Nowhere else have I ever seen them. Being non confrontational is a huge part of their culture. Here in China there's no such thing. Not only do they argue all the time, but they are frakking loud!! I won't even get into the slapping each other around in the streets.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by El_Caudillo » September 18th, 2016, 8:59 am

Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.

He also seems to have never left the West. He assumes all couples all over the world are the same. And that men and women are at equal fault for everything. He's obviously never been to the Philippines, where girls are simple and easygoing and do not argue about little things. I hate narrow guys who think western couples represent the whole world or that his experiences speak for everybody. That's very narrow and arrogant and untrue as well. He can only speak for himself, not for others.
In De Botton's case I'm not very interested in his original work, but I do think he is good at presenting the basic ideas of Western philosophers. Sure we can criticize him for being limited to the West in his viewpoints...although I'm sure he dabbles in some Eastern philosophy. I'm not sure that's a reason to hate him. No one man can give us all the wisdom we need of course. I have experience from many places in South America, Oceania and Asia for example. Perhaps I would make some breakthroughs in my knowledge, experience in the Philippines and Japan. But to be honest I think it could destroy me....I'm not suggesting I have much wisdom anyway.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Jonny Law » September 18th, 2016, 9:09 am

The_Adventurer wrote:
Winston wrote: Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.
I've never seen these peaceful couples, perhaps, except in the Philippines. Nowhere else have I ever seen them. Being non confrontational is a huge part of their culture. Here in China there's no such thing. Not only do they argue all the time, but they are frakking loud!! I won't even get into the slapping each other around in the streets.

I AGREE!!!

Philippines is the one place I recommend for relationships.

Thailand women are only good for pump-and-dumps. I have been in Thailand for about 5 months. I cannot tell the difference a Thai prostitute and a regular Thai girl. They are still much better than American women. Just watch you money with a Thai woman.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Wolfeye » September 18th, 2016, 1:22 pm

For me it was resources- transportation, tickets for it, funds for that, passport (possibly VISA or citizenship & all the paperwork for that- even finding what is needed for that). That seems to be largely cleared away & now I'm just tying up some loose ends.

Going to try to get in better shape, learn some language of some form (I'll likely take some stuff with me & might even get into a language school), and get going. I have a little bit of an issue finding the "first steps." I had a problem with finding where to look for anything- nowhere to ask about the subject. I had some money issues that seem to be clearing up. Might leave this November.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Winston » December 15th, 2016, 11:37 am

Maybe this book will help some of you who want to go abroad but don't.



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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by FutureHorizon » December 19th, 2016, 12:16 am

What an excellent share thanks Winston.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by johnexpert » February 7th, 2017, 8:53 am

This is an excellent share thanks Winston. Keep sharing such useful shares. There are many reasons behind this. Some of them don't go due to financial issues while some of them are not eligible to go. I live in London working in employment and recruitment agencies Ruislip UK. :)

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by traveller » March 12th, 2017, 10:09 pm

Winston wrote:I don't think this has been brought up yet, so I'll be the first to do it.

I don't understand something. Why is it that so many of you guys here always praise and cheer the concept of going abroad for a better love life and more natural lifestyle, yet you just talk about it for years and never actually do it?

Isn't that illogical? What is the real reason for that? I know you guys will say "I don't have the money" or "I have obligations to take care of first", but come on, how can it take years? I mean, even if you work a minimum wage job, you could save up $800 for a plane ticket in two months if you wanted to. And if it were a life or death emergency, you could get out of the USA tomorrow if you had to.

So what's the real excuse? Is it fear, procrastination, laziness, or addiction to misery? Any idea?

Now, I'm not just talking about moving abroad, I'm talking about traveling abroad for a few weeks too. A lot of you don't even do that, even though it would only cost a few thousand dollars.

It's strange how so many can talk about it and want to do it, yet never do it. You guys know who you are, and I don't mean to try to blame you, but I think there must be some kind of "deep emotional block" underneath all the excuses, that's preventing you guys from doing what you want. If so, isn't it important to identify it so that it can be removed? Perhaps we can help trace the root causes here. This is obviously important, because it's affecting a large percentage of you guys. So we need to find out the real underlying cause. Don't you agree?

Any suggestions as to how we can do this?
I have autism and am very poor. Also, very few other countries have Medicare, Medicaid, Social Security, Disability income, and such. In many other countries, if you can not work due to disability (autism, alzheimer's, cerebral palsy, spina bifita, polio, Down's syndrome, wheelchair bound, etc), you'll starve and be homeless.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Winston » October 31st, 2017, 10:24 am

Check this out guys. My friend kairosan is promoting this program for those of you who can't afford to buy an international plane ticket to go abroad. It teaches you how to take advantage of loopholes in frequent flyer miles so that you can buy $1000 plane tickets for $20. Maybe this will help some of you to go abroad?

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by Bao3niang » November 1st, 2017, 2:21 am

As for myself, I'm somewhere in the middle of the road. I am fully aware of the fact that happiness isn't found in the West, especially the Anglo-Saxon nations, but I'm not the kind with a never-rending sense of wanderlust. I'm definitely not one of those serial travelers and men who constantly date women for the sake of 'experiences.' My goal is to find a place where I can put down some roots and have someone I'm committed to. I like to travel and see new places (though I'm not interested in certain parts of the world), but my true sense of fulfillment comes from a simple and peaceful life. I don't crave excitement for the sake of finding excitement. If I had to choose between being a chronic nomad versus being someone with a simple family life, I'd definitely choose the latter. Perhaps I'll have a renewed approach to things further down the road, but not before my key objectives are met early on in life. At the end of the day, I'd rather tell myself that I was right to have kept things simple and found a simple sense of fulfillment, rather than having had a taste of almost everything, yet ended up with nothing.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by TruthSeeker » November 1st, 2017, 10:15 am

Winston wrote:Check this out guys. My friend kairosan is promoting this program for those of you who can't afford to buy an international plane ticket to go abroad. It teaches you how to take advantage of loopholes in frequent flyer miles so that you can buy $1000 plane tickets for $20. Maybe this will help some of you to go abroad?

viewtopic.php?f=1&t=11668&p=300730#p300730
flyfreeacademy.com has low safe rating on scamadviser
https://www.scamadviser.com/is-flyfreea ... -safe.html

I tried to find the price of the "course" these people are hawking but couldn't easily find it (you need to provide an email address). I watched part of the video and the way it is supposed to work is you apply for credit cards and do your "normal" spending through these cards to accumulate points to get free flights. But that's a no brainer. You can already do that without a course.

The danger here is that someone will apply for these credit cards and then drown in debt, high interest rates and service charges.

And the other thing is your plane ticket is only a small fraction of your travel expenses. What about when you get there? You have to pay accommodation, transportation, meals and other expenses.

There are no free lunches.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Post by TruthSeeker » November 1st, 2017, 10:28 am

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