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Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby YourTrustedAdvisor » Fri Sep 16, 2016 8:30 pm

Winston wrote:My weight is the same. It refuses to change. If I go back to China I will lose some though. China is happier, Taiwan is miserable and repressed.


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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby Kradmelder » Fri Sep 16, 2016 10:15 pm

Winston wrote:
YourTrustedAdvisor wrote:
Winston wrote:This one is about the great and famous Russian novelist Fyodor Dostoyevsky, who wrote epics such as "War and Peace".



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Winston! How's the weight loss program going?

Dostoyevsky never wrote "War and Peace"!

It was Tolstoy!

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Thanks. I fixed that. My weight is the same. It refuses to change. If I go back to China I will lose some though. China is happier, Taiwan is miserable and repressed.

Whose "trusted advisor" are you? And who are you anyway? You act like you know me and care about me. And you've appointed yourself someone's advisor too it seems. lol


Of course Taiwan would be repressed. They have 1.4 billion Chinamen trying to eradicate their existence as a nation and make them into just more Chinamen. Actually they don't even acknowledge their existence. Taiwan must feel like a big fat chick is sitting on your face and you are trying to breath. Like any nation acknowledges Taiwan and China will not acknowledge you.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby Winston » Sat Sep 17, 2016 1:37 am

El_Caudillo wrote:Winston, the guy who makes these videos is Alan de Botton - a famous Swiss-English lecturer, author and TV presenter. I have been watching him for some time - this is one of my favourite vids of his


Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.

He also seems to have never left the West. He assumes all couples all over the world are the same. And that men and women are at equal fault for everything. He's obviously never been to the Philippines, where girls are simple and easygoing and do not argue about little things. I hate narrow guys who think western couples represent the whole world or that his experiences speak for everybody. That's very narrow and arrogant and untrue as well. He can only speak for himself, not for others.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby The_Adventurer » Sun Sep 18, 2016 6:09 am

Winston wrote:Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.


I've never seen these peaceful couples, perhaps, except in the Philippines. Nowhere else have I ever seen them. Being non confrontational is a huge part of their culture. Here in China there's no such thing. Not only do they argue all the time, but they are frakking loud!! I won't even get into the slapping each other around in the streets.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby El_Caudillo » Sun Sep 18, 2016 7:59 am

Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.

He also seems to have never left the West. He assumes all couples all over the world are the same. And that men and women are at equal fault for everything. He's obviously never been to the Philippines, where girls are simple and easygoing and do not argue about little things. I hate narrow guys who think western couples represent the whole world or that his experiences speak for everybody. That's very narrow and arrogant and untrue as well. He can only speak for himself, not for others.


In De Botton's case I'm not very interested in his original work, but I do think he is good at presenting the basic ideas of Western philosophers. Sure we can criticize him for being limited to the West in his viewpoints...although I'm sure he dabbles in some Eastern philosophy. I'm not sure that's a reason to hate him. No one man can give us all the wisdom we need of course. I have experience from many places in South America, Oceania and Asia for example. Perhaps I would make some breakthroughs in my knowledge, experience in the Philippines and Japan. But to be honest I think it could destroy me....I'm not suggesting I have much wisdom anyway.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby Jonny Law » Sun Sep 18, 2016 8:09 am

The_Adventurer wrote:
Winston wrote:Have you seen his videos on relationships? They are very pessimistic and grim and narrow. He repeats the same thing over and over again. He assumes that all couples argue everyday and are unhappy and dissatisfied. Just because he's never had a peaceful relationship doesn't mean no one else has. There are couples that live together peacefully and happily without arguing everyday.


I've never seen these peaceful couples, perhaps, except in the Philippines. Nowhere else have I ever seen them. Being non confrontational is a huge part of their culture. Here in China there's no such thing. Not only do they argue all the time, but they are frakking loud!! I won't even get into the slapping each other around in the streets.



I AGREE!!!

Philippines is the one place I recommend for relationships.

Thailand women are only good for pump-and-dumps. I have been in Thailand for about 5 months. I cannot tell the difference a Thai prostitute and a regular Thai girl. They are still much better than American women. Just watch you money with a Thai woman.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby Wolfeye » Sun Sep 18, 2016 12:22 pm

For me it was resources- transportation, tickets for it, funds for that, passport (possibly VISA or citizenship & all the paperwork for that- even finding what is needed for that). That seems to be largely cleared away & now I'm just tying up some loose ends.

Going to try to get in better shape, learn some language of some form (I'll likely take some stuff with me & might even get into a language school), and get going. I have a little bit of an issue finding the "first steps." I had a problem with finding where to look for anything- nowhere to ask about the subject. I had some money issues that seem to be clearing up. Might leave this November.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby Winston » Thu Dec 15, 2016 10:37 am

Maybe this book will help some of you who want to go abroad but don't.

https://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Gremlin-Revised-Surprisingly-ebook/dp/B001ODEPM6/

Taming Your Gremlin (Revised Edition): A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way
by Rick Carson (Author)

This is a completely updated edition of the 1983 classic that introduced a powerful method for gaining freedom from self-defeating behaviors and beliefs. Rick Carson, creator of the renowned Gremlin-Taming™ Method, has revised the book to include fresh interactive activities, real-life vignettes we can all identify with, and new loathsome gremlins ripe for taming. Carson blends his laid-back style, Taoist wisdom, the Zen Theory of Change, and sound psychology in an easy-to-understand, unique, and practical system for banishing the nemesis within. Among the things you will learn are:

* Techniques for getting a sliver of light between the natural you and the monster of your mind.
* The extraordinary power of simply noticing and playing with options.
* Six keys to maintaining emotional balance amid upheaval.

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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby FutureHorizon » Sun Dec 18, 2016 11:16 pm

What an excellent share thanks Winston.
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby johnexpert » Tue Feb 07, 2017 7:53 am

This is an excellent share thanks Winston. Keep sharing such useful shares. There are many reasons behind this. Some of them don't go due to financial issues while some of them are not eligible to go. I live in London working in employment and recruitment agencies Ruislip UK. :)
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Re: Why do many of you want to go abroad but never do?

Postby traveller » Sun Mar 12, 2017 9:09 pm

Winston wrote:I don't think this has been brought up yet, so I'll be the first to do it.

I don't understand something. Why is it that so many of you guys here always praise and cheer the concept of going abroad for a better love life and more natural lifestyle, yet you just talk about it for years and never actually do it?

Isn't that illogical? What is the real reason for that? I know you guys will say "I don't have the money" or "I have obligations to take care of first", but come on, how can it take years? I mean, even if you work a minimum wage job, you could save up $800 for a plane ticket in two months if you wanted to. And if it were a life or death emergency, you could get out of the USA tomorrow if you had to.

So what's the real excuse? Is it fear, procrastination, laziness, or addiction to misery? Any idea?

Now, I'm not just talking about moving abroad, I'm talking about traveling abroad for a few weeks too. A lot of you don't even do that, even though it would only cost a few thousand dollars.

It's strange how so many can talk about it and want to do it, yet never do it. You guys know who you are, and I don't mean to try to blame you, but I think there must be some kind of "deep emotional block" underneath all the excuses, that's preventing you guys from doing what you want. If so, isn't it important to identify it so that it can be removed? Perhaps we can help trace the root causes here. This is obviously important, because it's affecting a large percentage of you guys. So we need to find out the real underlying cause. Don't you agree?

Any suggestions as to how we can do this?


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