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Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby MattHanson1990 » March 4th, 2016, 11:28 pm

Slick wrote:Plus in many places of the U.S., there's mainly fifty year old grandmas or high school girls. Not much with the 21 to 49 crowd especially when there's 20 percent more single men than women.


Where I'm at stateside, there are virtually no single women; and even the leftovers get snagged off the market. With that said, the social scene is extremely isolating that making new friends is definitely impossible. Even in churches, people still huddle in their cliques and ignore strangers. And even if you have connecting friends currently living in the area, it won't really open doors for you socially. The best scenario is making superficial acquaintances from a meetup.com event.

In contrast, I lived in Guanajuato, Mexico for a month, and it was like night and day from Los Alamos. People were more humble, down to earth, laid back and non-judgmental, but they tended to be a little reserved or shy. However, making friends was a cakewalk in most cases, and I got 3 dates in a span of less than a month. In fact, I didn't need social circle to make new friends or get dates where I was at in Mexico. But once I built social circles, it really opened doors for me socially.
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby jamesbond » March 5th, 2016, 1:27 am

Slick wrote:Plus in many places of the U.S., there's mainly fifty year old grandmas or high school girls. Not much with the 21 to 49 crowd especially when there's 20 percent more single men than women.


Exactly, I live in the suburbs and all I see are married women (and the occasional single mother). I virtually see NO single women at all, it's like living in the twilight zone! :shock:
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby droid » March 5th, 2016, 3:38 am

jamesbond wrote:
Slick wrote:Plus in many places of the U.S., there's mainly fifty year old grandmas or high school girls. Not much with the 21 to 49 crowd especially when there's 20 percent more single men than women.


Exactly, I live in the suburbs and all I see are married women (and the occasional single mother). I virtually see NO single women at all, it's like living in the twilight zone! :shock:


They turn 18 and instantly go into hiding, by making a burrow in the forest and webbing a silk cocoon around themselves (pupa). Then slowly meta-morph during 30 years to reach their final form and then hatch.

:lol: I'm not making this up
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby Cornfed » March 5th, 2016, 3:55 am

Or to put it another way, a lot of attractive young females go off to become corporate whores of various kinds in major cities, only re-entering suburbia when they are used-up middle-aged cat ladies.
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby jamesbond » March 5th, 2016, 11:40 am

MattHanson1990 wrote:
Slick wrote:Plus in many places of the U.S., there's mainly fifty year old grandmas or high school girls. Not much with the 21 to 49 crowd especially when there's 20 percent more single men than women.


Where I'm at stateside, there are virtually no single women; and even the leftovers get snagged off the market. With that said, the social scene is extremely isolating that making new friends is definitely impossible. Even in churches, people still huddle in their cliques and ignore strangers.


I have gone to some church events in the past and the people were not friendly and only hung out with their establish group of friends. This occurs in churches in America, it's unbelievable. :roll:
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby droid » March 5th, 2016, 4:32 pm

jamesbond wrote:
MattHanson1990 wrote:
Slick wrote:Plus in many places of the U.S., there's mainly fifty year old grandmas or high school girls. Not much with the 21 to 49 crowd especially when there's 20 percent more single men than women.


Where I'm at stateside, there are virtually no single women; and even the leftovers get snagged off the market. With that said, the social scene is extremely isolating that making new friends is definitely impossible. Even in churches, people still huddle in their cliques and ignore strangers.


I have gone to some church events in the past and the people were not friendly and only hung out with their establish group of friends. This occurs in churches in America, it's unbelievable. :roll:


Exactly, i tried that a few times years back, to be a soul 'mark', and it sucked.
And of course, due to the country-wide surplus of chumps, any girl under 160 would easily have her jock, despite talk of spirituality, bible studies etc LMAO

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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby Slick » August 4th, 2016, 3:15 am

jamesbond wrote:They turn 18 and instantly go into hiding, by making a burrow in the forest and webbing a silk cocoon around themselves


Or they hide in a world which they focus on their education and become corporate whores. They continue to hide in that world until they start having kids and start their families.
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby Adama » August 4th, 2016, 11:28 am

jamesbond wrote:
MattHanson1990 wrote:
Slick wrote:Plus in many places of the U.S., there's mainly fifty year old grandmas or high school girls. Not much with the 21 to 49 crowd especially when there's 20 percent more single men than women.


Where I'm at stateside, there are virtually no single women; and even the leftovers get snagged off the market. With that said, the social scene is extremely isolating that making new friends is definitely impossible. Even in churches, people still huddle in their cliques and ignore strangers.


I have gone to some church events in the past and the people were not friendly and only hung out with their establish group of friends. This occurs in churches in America, it's unbelievable. :roll:



That's because you're going to churches full of non-believers (they don't believe the Bible, only what their establishment tells them, which is wrong). Search out a Bible believing church which believes that faith alone in Jesus is what saves, that salvation can't be lost because it is a gift which by definition is not earned and therefore can't be lost, and that it isn't about works of self-righteousness or by keeping the law, but by faith in Christ's sacrifice that washes us free of sin. Go to a church filled with believers, not practitioners of the law.


You find one of those churches and they will keep inviting you back to all kinds of events. I've had people I've known for a day invite me to become a camp counselor and other positions within the church. They are always getting together after church to eat together too. And the three that I have been to near me so far have single women in them (although I don't think any of them were made for me).
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby re85with » January 24th, 2017, 6:05 am

I guess in America, if a single guy wants to find a local girl, he would have to attend church, school, or a mall. Maybe he can befriend someone who can help him get a girlfriend. Another option is going on eHarmony or some other domestic dating website. Anyways, I say "good luck" to that single guy.

I, on the other hand, choose to go overseas and find a woman who is feminine, gorgeous, sweet, caring, etc. I can have a girlfriend, wife, or just be friends with different foreign women without any problems. But, if I do the same in America, I would have some problems indeed.

If you go abroad, you would have much freedom to date, marry, or even have sex with different women. Even if a foreign woman knows that you are involved with other women, she probably won't be jealous. Can an American woman do the same if a man is dating her and other women?
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby Mercury » April 17th, 2017, 4:21 pm

Winston wrote:Title: Why there is no real singles scene in America, only Abroad, and how I became the Columbus of the Dating Abroad World

In America everything is geared toward couples and families, not singles. All around you are shops, businesses, entertainment venues, and residential neighborhoods that are designed for couples and families. Even if you go to a restaurant alone, you will be out of place, because everyone else there is not eating alone.


You hit the nail right on the head! And there are even situations where singles are outright forbidden and bluntly turned away! At carnivals and county fairs, some rides, especially the highly popular Zipper, have "No Single Riders" written all over them! And truthfully, Chance Rides, Inc is the absolute most toxic, evil, callous, and cruel company in the Western Hemisphere! They've practically declared war on single people! And from the way they got many Facebook accounts disabled for reviewing them and being against their "No Single Riders" rules, Chance Rides, Inc will blast a single rider to pieces with an RPG attack and order an immediate full nationwide military lockdown before they'll even consider either letting single riders back on the Zipper or pairing the single rider up with someone. And Chance Rides, Inc is the biggest liar in the Western Hemisphere! I've gone as a single rider on the Zipper many times before and can easily say from personal experience that especially a full grown adult riding single on the Zipper can never turn sideways inside those cages and slip his/her legs out from under that lap bar. The extreme vast majority of American carnival ride enthusiasts are toxic, spoiled, and hateful little teenagers. And America is so toxic that God Himself could not pair especially an adult male single rider up with one of those toxic teenagers to go on the Zipper or any carnival ride nationwide.

In America, there is this underlying assumption that if you are an adult, then you already have a partner or family, and are not looking. To "seek a woman to date" is out of flow and against the grain. You are expected to ALREADY have a partner, not to be looking for one. To be in a "seeking mode" is out of place in America. It's weird I know, but that's how it is.

Thus, if you are a single guy in America, you are essentially out of place. Sadly, there is no real "singles scene" in America outside of high school (and fictional Hollywood movies). After high school, every girl seems to be taken, even in college.


In America, when especially women see a guy all by himself, they immediately think by default; "Rapist! Sex predator! Ted Bundy! John Wayne Gacy! Serial killer! Where there's smoke, there's fire!"
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby britishguy19 » May 6th, 2017, 6:45 pm

Its funny reading this, since here in the UK, people tend to think that Americans are more friendly and open. Yet the reality from people living there seems to be the opposite.
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby Man With a Plan » May 6th, 2017, 10:37 pm

britishguy19 wrote:Its funny reading this, since here in the UK, people tend to think that Americans are more friendly and open. Yet the reality from people living there seems to be the opposite.

It's all subjective. I'm sure you and I both would say that the Brits are rather cold and aloof. The same way yanks say their countrymen are too unfriendly. It's just where the pieces fall on any given day.
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby Eric » May 7th, 2017, 5:16 am

What I have a problem with is I have no crew or friends to run with, guys to go out and get some adventures with. Everything I do is by myself.
Where do you meet people??
Its been said that you have to grow up with people here to know a circle of them. If you didnt, you're pretty much f***ed. I'm finding that to be true.

Just on the job is one way, organizations etc. The job thing has to come through..that's only way.
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Re: Why theres no real singles scene in America, only Abroad

Postby jamesbond » May 7th, 2017, 2:21 pm

Winston wrote:In America everything is geared toward couples and families, not singles. All around you are shops, businesses, entertainment venues, and residential neighborhoods that are designed for couples and families. Even if you go to a restaurant alone, you will be out of place, because everyone else there is not eating alone.

In America, there is this underlying assumption that if you are an adult, then you already have a partner or family, and are not looking. To "seek a woman to date" is out of flow and against the grain. You are expected to ALREADY have a partner, not to be looking for one. To be in a "seeking mode" is out of place in America. It's weird I know, but that's how it is.

Thus, if you are a single guy in America, you are essentially out of place. Sadly, there is no real "singles scene" in America outside of high school (and fictional Hollywood movies). After high school, every girl seems to be taken, even in college.

Essentially, there is nothing for a single guy to do, and nowhere to go to meet people. In a typical American town, there isn't a place where a single guy can go to meet available single girls that want to meet men. There are no friendly options to pick up girls that are natural and socially acceptable. Even in bars and clubs, people still huddle into cliques and ignore strangers. They are there to be social with people in their clique, not with strangers.


It does seem as if everything in the US is geared towards married people and children. Other than bars and nightclubs, there is no place for single people to go and meet other people.
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