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Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby MattHanson1990 » April 8th, 2016, 1:26 am

The more time I've spent outside the US Matrix, the more I realize that Americans have black and white thinking. They were not conditioned to see any gray areas. Conditioning people with all or nothing thinking was designed to keep us in the box and not think outside the box. Also, the lifestyle in America does appear to be black and white, but in some places I've seen gray. Black and white thinking is especially prevalent in Americans who rarely/never travel. Based on observations during these past few months, I'm going to list some examples on how Americans were conditioned with this kind of thinking.

First thing that comes to mind is that Americans were taught to believe that there's only one way to live. And that is to go to school to memorize useless data that we don't use in the real world, slave away at your job, and buy useless junk. If it's not that, then you end up as a bum living on the streets. For instance, my dad told me that getting an IT job is the only way I'd live on my own and that there's no other path to do so. In a sense yes, but in a sense no. Yeah, getting an IT job would be ideal for living the American Nightmare. I am good with computers but I'd rather have a more fulfilling life instead of having a mind numbing routine where I'm tied to one location. And why stay in the US when it's clearly going down the toilet?

Secondly, Americans have absolute statements on what an adult has or does. In America, "adult" really translates to a soulless conformist machine. For example, that one bitch I finally got rid of in September 2014 said that a real adult has a car. And then my sister told me that an adult has a contract phone from Verizon Wireless. It's the keeping up with the Jones' mentality. As you see, Americans judge their lives on what useless junk they buy and how much income they make. Now, as I mentioned before, there is SOME truth to this, but this only applies when you're partaking in the American Nightmare.

Last but not least, people in the US Matrix were taught that America is "the world", and nothing beyond its borders is any different. They assume that people all over the world are the same as themselves. One might tell another that their family will be the only people in the world who will help them out if they hit rock bottom. And they'll also tell you that it's a cold cruel world out there. Americans also assume that the aforementioned examples above apply everywhere. However, anyone who's spent time abroad, even in Mexico, will notice that it is not true for the most part. But there are a few of America's problems that do happen overseas like corruption and crime since those problems have always been part of human history. However, more contemporary problems like human disconnection don't occur most places overseas.

So you see, the culture has conditioned us with this all or nothing way of thinking. And it does not allow us to think outside the box because in America, life is all about going from box to box and ending in a box. The more time a person spends time overseas, the more he or she realizes how black and white America is and that most of the world is gray. But American culture has these stereotypes on what a person is based on if they're being a conformist or not. America looks down on nonconformists and free spirits, and that's why those people like us are Happier Abroad. So don't listen to naysayers who tell you there's only one way to live life. Just vote with your feet and leave America.

Oh, and there's one thing I forgot. Another good example of America's black and white mentality is the stereotype about women overseas just wanting to use American men for a green card or US citizenship. In particular, American women will tell you this. And this is partly because they don't like to be compared to foreign women; it'll show them how selfish and low quality they are to their counterparts overseas. Plus, the news media caters to feminazis, white knights, and manginas.
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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby IraqVet2003 » April 8th, 2016, 4:39 am

Matt, I like to add to your list that America's "black-or white" or "all or nothing mentality" extends to politics. The U.S. with it's two party system Democrats vs. Republicans (which I have come to think are two sides of the same coin) makes it hard if not impossible to vote for a decent candidate. Not to mention, you can barely run as an Independent, Green Party, etc.
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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby IraqVet2003 » April 8th, 2016, 4:40 am

MattHanson1990 wrote:The more time I've spent outside the US Matrix, the more I realize that Americans have black and white thinking. They were not conditioned to see any gray areas. Conditioning people with all or nothing thinking was designed to keep us in the box and not think outside the box. Also, the lifestyle in America does appear to be black and white, but in some places I've seen gray. Black and white thinking is especially prevalent in Americans who rarely/never travel. Based on observations during these past few months, I'm going to list some examples on how Americans were conditioned with this kind of thinking.

First thing that comes to mind is that Americans were taught to believe that there's only one way to live. And that is to go to school to memorize useless data that we don't use in the real world, slave away at your job, and buy useless junk. If it's not that, then you end up as a bum living on the streets. For instance, my dad told me that getting an IT job is the only way I'd live on my own and that there's no other path to do so. In a sense yes, but in a sense no. Yeah, getting an IT job would be ideal for living the American Nightmare. I am good with computers but I'd rather have a more fulfilling life instead of having a mind numbing routine where I'm tied to one location. And why stay in the US when it's clearly going down the toilet?

Secondly, Americans have absolute statements on what an adult has or does. In America, "adult" really translates to a soulless conformist machine. For example, that one bitch I finally got rid of in September 2014 said that a real adult has a car. And then my sister told me that an adult has a contract phone from Verizon Wireless. It's the keeping up with the Jones' mentality. As you see, Americans judge their lives on what useless junk they buy and how much income they make. Now, as I mentioned before, there is SOME truth to this, but this only applies when you're partaking in the American Nightmare.

Last but not least, people in the US Matrix were taught that America is "the world", and nothing beyond its borders is any different. They assume that people all over the world are the same as themselves. One might tell another that their family will be the only people in the world who will help them out if they hit rock bottom. And they'll also tell you that it's a cold cruel world out there. Americans also assume that the aforementioned examples above apply everywhere. However, anyone who's spent time abroad, even in Mexico, will notice that it is not true for the most part. But there are a few of America's problems that do happen overseas like corruption and crime since those problems have always been part of human history. However, more contemporary problems like human disconnection don't occur most places overseas.

So you see, the culture has conditioned us with this all or nothing way of thinking. And it does not allow us to think outside the box because in America, life is all about going from box to box and ending in a box. The more time a person spends time overseas, the more he or she realizes how black and white America is and that most of the world is gray. But American culture has these stereotypes on what a person is based on if they're being a conformist or not. America looks down on nonconformists and free spirits, and that's why those people like us are Happier Abroad. So don't listen to naysayers who tell you there's only one way to live life. Just vote with your feet and leave America.

Oh, and there's one thing I forgot. Another good example of America's black and white mentality is the stereotype about women overseas just wanting to use American men for a green card or US citizenship. In particular, American women will tell you this. And this is partly because they don't like to be compared to foreign women; it'll show them how selfish and low quality they are to their counterparts overseas. Plus, the news media caters to feminazis, white knights, and manginas.


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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby Wolfeye » April 8th, 2016, 6:13 am

Good post! I've heard that this is also a narcissistic trait (they see themselves as "THE VERY BEST" or "THE VERY WORST" & there's no concept of anything else). I think a major part of the "conformism" here & the disdain for more or less anything that's not is a part of that. They either feel snubbed that someone isn't doing exactly or almost like what they're inclined toward or they feel like someone is going to "steal their spotlight" by doing the "approved thing." Can't be right, though- since agreement equals defeat to them or nothing's good enough for them. Certainly they're not going to act like you're their equal. So it's kind of chasing a mirage to begin with.

It seems quite a bit has to do with Puritanical bullshit from hundreds of years ago. As I understand it, the Puritans were the Christian version of Wahhabism. These were NOT quite the "free birds" that people picture the "American Founding Fathers" as. It actually seems those were more the "Hillbillies" that oddly enough are looked down on today at the same time as being exactly the people that the general population would champion for their "guerrilla fighting" & "patriotism." Everyone loves a "gun nut" when it looks like the government employees are going to act like nutcases with their guns- ever notice that?

These were arrogant lunatics that nothing was ever good enough for, that's why everything was a sin to them. They had "zero tolerance policies" with all kinds of shit & felt superior to whoever they were going after. It seems they made themselves the trash of the New World & wrote history as it suited them from there. Having a "live to work" mentality was one of their things, too. They seem to have thought that work was God's appointed mission for you in life & that it would bring you salvation, as well as thinking that enjoyment was a sin. So if you weren't working, you were deviating from God's mission AND might just be up to enjoyment. Sounds like the undercurrent of this country, doesn't it? No one outright says that the guy going to the liquor store is worse than the guy going to the book store, but the demeanor is there- so are the knee-jerk assessments & all the actions based on that foundation.

When someone "pings" on a cliche, they are usually too lazy to revamp their assessment of the situation or too arrogant to catch their own mistakes- f**k whoever it impacts. They believe so heavily in the concept that terrorists are out to get them, but don't consider anything outside of an Arab with a bomb to be that kind of influence. As such, they have cases of cops killing little kids when they break into the wrong house & people scrambling to act like a defense attorney for the same person that might just kill them next. It's weird that it doesn't bother them, since nearly everything is seen as a crime or in the "worst-case scenario"- sometimes in stark contrast to what actually happens (like thinking "What if a bad guy did that?" when someone did something that would have been an injustice in a totally different situation with different conditions).
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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby E Irizarry R&B Singer » April 9th, 2016, 5:39 am

THe same thing applies when Americans think that every Mixed Race person with one itsy bitsy spider one drop of blood is all Black American. #onedroprule I know.
It's an old adage of slavery so that the Whites could stay "pure" and on top of the non-White slave owners. Sadly, it's practiced by Americans today.
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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby starchild5 » April 9th, 2016, 10:58 am

You described 90% of humanity
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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby Eric » April 9th, 2016, 4:51 pm

Wolfeye wrote:Good post! I've heard that this is also a narcissistic trait (they see themselves as "THE VERY BEST" or "THE VERY WORST" & there's no concept of anything else). I think a major part of the "conformism" here & the disdain for more or less anything that's not is a part of that. They either feel snubbed that someone isn't doing exactly or almost like what they're inclined toward or they feel like someone is going to "steal their spotlight" by doing the "approved thing." Can't be right, though- since agreement equals defeat to them or nothing's good enough for them. Certainly they're not going to act like you're their equal. So it's kind of chasing a mirage to begin with.

It seems quite a bit has to do with Puritanical bullshit from hundreds of years ago. As I understand it, the Puritans were the Christian version of Wahhabism. These were NOT quite the "free birds" that people picture the "American Founding Fathers" as. It actually seems those were more the "Hillbillies" that oddly enough are looked down on today at the same time as being exactly the people that the general population would champion for their "guerrilla fighting" & "patriotism." Everyone loves a "gun nut" when it looks like the government employees are going to act like nutcases with their guns- ever notice that?

These were arrogant lunatics that nothing was ever good enough for, that's why everything was a sin to them. They had "zero tolerance policies" with all kinds of shit & felt superior to whoever they were going after. It seems they made themselves the trash of the New World & wrote history as it suited them from there. Having a "live to work" mentality was one of their things, too. They seem to have thought that work was God's appointed mission for you in life & that it would bring you salvation, as well as thinking that enjoyment was a sin. So if you weren't working, you were deviating from God's mission AND might just be up to enjoyment. Sounds like the undercurrent of this country, doesn't it? No one outright says that the guy going to the liquor store is worse than the guy going to the book store, but the demeanor is there- so are the knee-jerk assessments & all the actions based on that foundation.

When someone "pings" on a cliche, they are usually too lazy to revamp their assessment of the situation or too arrogant to catch their own mistakes- f**k whoever it impacts. They believe so heavily in the concept that terrorists are out to get them, but don't consider anything outside of an Arab with a bomb to be that kind of influence. As such, they have cases of cops killing little kids when they break into the wrong house & people scrambling to act like a defense attorney for the same person that might just kill them next. It's weird that it doesn't bother them, since nearly everything is seen as a crime or in the "worst-case scenario"- sometimes in stark contrast to what actually happens (like thinking "What if a bad guy did that?" when someone did something that would have been an injustice in a totally different situation with different conditions).



These people were so bad that England kicked them out to "inhabit" the new world. No one could stand them. They weren't infact kicked out - but used as work dogs for building the new world. By that time - the English monarch had already been subverted and infiltrated by banking/ secret Religious (Jewish) interests, think (Renaissance...liberalism) - by Rothchild. The Queen of England even convinced herself she was Jewish, and this "English snobbery" and imperialism, which is actually hidden Jewish imperialism which the British are known for, was a millenia long influence of the English people living side by side with a large Jewish population.
The Puritans were used for the purpose of building the New World because that's what they did - they lived to work. That's why they were sent by the English government to do it's bidding in setting up the "New World Order". Ever thought of it that way?
Thank God my family is 4th generation Polish/Slavic & Irish American - imports to this country and not of that original Puritan stock.

Americans have been anti-intellectual and hard-working from the start.
That's why we can be manipulated so easily with Patriotism and work ferver. It's why the industries flourished here, it's why they were all set up here; and people were given the new "American Dream" of working in factories or for large companies and they even let us develop - for a while - a middle class, but even that was hellish. It was full of cut throat competition, laborious work and the manipulations of the American public.
The first thing you can feel when walking into America is the 'manipulation', at least I do. It is not a good feeling. The lies and self-deceptions pile on shortly after.

England still runs everything today.
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Re: Americans have all-or-nothing mentality

Postby Wolfeye » April 11th, 2016, 6:05 am

Eric: Good points! Someone that's already looking to do the same shit that someone else wants would be a more ideal pawn. I think there's also the concept of being "in hock" about life in general. Like they are already on thin ice to begin with or they deserve "both barrels" at all times. Part of that seems like a degree of arrogant false humility.
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