Re: Most dateless men won't consider going abroad? Why?
This post was back from when I joined the forum. I'll share my guesses and opinions.Winston wrote: ↑November 15th, 2008, 10:34 amHi all,
Momopi told me recently that most dateless men in America will not consider going abroad, that's why this site doesn't appeal to most people, even if its message and claims are true.
If that's so, then why are most dateless men in the US unwilling to go overseas? Any theories or explanations?
I thought wanting to travel was part of human nature?
In the US, it seems like there are a lot of people who don't really care much for living overseas. Some don't want to even travel overseas. It seems like some people think the US is the best country in the world and much of the rest of the world is poor, people sitting out in the hot sun starving while flies go up their noses and plant larvae like they used to show in videos of starving kids in Africa to raise funds in the 1980's.
Going overseas is scary for a lot of people. The ancestors of a lot of white Americans were pioneers, but after several generations, people can become rather settled. Traveling abroad to date, work, etc. is too adventurous for a lot of people.
There are also practical issues. Some men may think women in their own countries are difficult enough, and that overcoming cultural and language difficulties would be difficult. There is also the practical issue of dating a woman so far away. If a long distance relationship is hard with a woman who lives a couple of hours away, dating a girl in Russia, South America, or Asia might be even more difficult.
There are also people who view going overseas to find a wife from a poorer country (e.g. a white finding a Filippina) in a negative light, like all the women over there just want to get a Greencard and move to the US. Either the woman is seen as scamming the man for a Greencard or else the man is seen as taking advantage of a poor girl who doesn't really want to marry him, but choose to do so to rescue herself from living in some lousy place that is not the US.
Another reason is that a lot of men do not realize some of the problems with their own culture. They watch movies where women being independent and not submissive is seen as a positive thing. They may not have experienced the upside to women having a more traditional, submissive attitude. They may not appreciate the idea of marrying a virgin, or a woman coming from a culture where divorce is heavily frowned upon. They may not appreciate a woman being trained as a little girl or as a teenager to cook, clean, and take care of the home. Some cultures instill a very positive attitude in women toward getting married, having children, taking care of their husbands, cooking, etc. The culture in the US does not value these things as much. If a woman decides to be a housewife, she is looked down on. There are also cultures where women do all kinds of work but also value taking care of the home and having a family. I think a lot of American men are just ignorant of these things that are largely absent from US culture, and so they don't appreciate the value of finding a wife from abroad. I am not saying that women who value such things do not exist in the US or other western countries, but they seem to be a smaller percentage than in some other countries.