A Filipino's perspective on "Happier Abroad".

[Johnny1975]

From the mind of Ginger :



Thank you for labeling me as well Banano. - Passive aggressive. No introspection.

I guess there is simply no escaping the fact that I am female. - Passive aggressive. Playing the victim.

Oh well, I know even if I say exactly the same thing men say, someone would always burn me and resort to personal attack because I happen to be female. - Playing the victim. Appealing for sympathy.

Thank you for exposing yourself as a paranoid misogynist who likes to twist other person's words to validate your fears. I really hope for your sake you cross paths with at least one good female in your life who you don't feel the need to put under your paranoid scrutiny. - Passive aggressive.

You still have not addressed why you are singling me out but is too afraid to address male forumers who is saying same thing as I said re validity of OP's claim and his authenticity. Are you sure you are just not bullying me because you are a misogynist? C'mon if you got enough balls to be fair and be man enough, address everything squarely, but I guess you simply got issues. Oh well. - Playing the victim. Passive aggressive.



Enough already. Just ban this troll. This is exactly what we're trying to get away from, and yet this monstrosity of a female is still here.

[Ginger]

From the mind of Ginger :



Thank you for labeling me as well Banano. - Passive aggressive. No introspection.

I guess there is simply no escaping the fact that I am female. - Passive aggressive. Playing the victim.

Oh well, I know even if I say exactly the same thing men say, someone would always burn me and resort to personal attack because I happen to be female. - Playing the victim. Appealing for sympathy.

Thank you for exposing yourself as a paranoid misogynist who likes to twist other person's words to validate your fears. I really hope for your sake you cross paths with at least one good female in your life who you don't feel the need to put under your paranoid scrutiny. - Passive aggressive.


You still have not addressed why you are singling me out but is too afraid to address male forumers who is saying same thing as I said re validity of OP's claim and his authenticity. Are you sure you are just not bullying me because you are a misogynist? C'mon if you got enough balls to be fair and be man enough, address everything squarely, but I guess you simply got issues. Oh well. - Playing the victim. Passive aggressive.



Enough already. Just ban this troll. This is exactly what we're trying to get away from, and yet this monstrosity of a female is still here.

Hmmm someone seems to be out of medications.

Who are the 'we' that you are talking to/talking about? What else are the voices telling you?

Dude, seek psychiatric help. Please. Do it. You are not gonna address your issues by projecting on me.

This is the last time I will play this 'attention seeking game' of yours.

[Johnny1975]

Just get rid of this Ginger character. She's a disgusting piece of filth.

[Ginger]

I lived in America for 6 months and from what I saw, American women are more genuine, intelligent, and less materialistic when compared to Filipina women. America certainly has a lot of problems and it is far from a "dating paradise" but I was at least able to get an FWB with an older woman. She was no beauty queen and could probably afford to lose 50kg, but I did not have to spend a cent on her besides the occasional dinner.

I don't know whether the OP is in fact a native Filipino, an AW, an HA member or former member faking it - and frankly it doesn't matter. The statement I found interesting is the one above. The OP clearly prefers an older woman who is 100+ pounds overweight, simply because he didn't have to pay for anything other than dinner. And he's right! If you want an old, obese woman who has financial means then America is the place for you. If you require a woman (young, good looking or otherwise) who needs nothing from you (other than your good looks) the Philippines and most of the rest of the 3rd world probably is not for you.

Frankly, this statement makes me wonder if the OP knows something about gold digging himself!

Well the OP said he does have 8 gold digger pinay friends/acquaintances...Maybe it's a case of birds of the same feather flock together thing

[Ginger]

I lived in America for 6 months and from what I saw, American women are more genuine, intelligent, and less materialistic when compared to Filipina women. America certainly has a lot of problems and it is far from a "dating paradise" but I was at least able to get an FWB with an older woman. She was no beauty queen and could probably afford to lose 50kg, but I did not have to spend a cent on her besides the occasional dinner.

I don't know whether the OP is in fact a native Filipino, an AW, an HA member or former member faking it - and frankly it doesn't matter. The statement I found interesting is the one above. The OP clearly prefers an older woman who is 100+ pounds overweight, simply because he didn't have to pay for anything other than dinner. And he's right! If you want an old, obese woman who has financial means then America is the place for you. If you require a woman (young, good looking or otherwise) who needs nothing from you (other than your good looks) the Philippines and most of the rest of the 3rd world probably is not for you.

Frankly, this statement makes me wonder if the OP knows something about gold digging himself!

Well the OP said he does have 8 gold digger pinay friends/acquaintances...Maybe it's a case of birds of the same feather flock together thing

[lavezzi]

some men beleive in the lie that god created the world in 7 days when they want to be loved by jesus, other men beleive in the lie that age doesnt matter when it comes to attraction in SE asia when they want to be loved by a filipina.

Plenty of women around the world prefer status to same-age when choosing a man. Forty year age gaps are common in the Middle East, for example. Status is attractive to women. And in many countries the night-club douche does not have status.

Most of us do not care about drippy adolescent puppy love the way you seem to. Loyalty, caring dedication and sexual love is enough.

And you are off on your 7 day quip as well. If God created the world, and He is God, why couldn't it have been done in seven days? And if God didn't create the world, why is it ordered and functioning? Where has order ever arisen on its own, spontaneously?

Think before you post.

love is not an emotion. emotion is simply a way of expression. people do not understand emotion, they think out of their confusion that if at one random moment in time they are feeling emotion for whatever reason, there is some kind of significance in that. there is no significance within this world. full stop. everything in it is simply a series of deterministic effects. romanticism is just the formation of the expression of emotion which correlates with female humans by random coincidence. there is no order on earth, especially not in the way your holy book says there is. how would you define the order? Big Sky Daddy God made the world this way? He is just a simple projection of man. there is an ecosystem which is orderly, but this simply settled itself over time. life formation is completely random. it just looks orderly because we are used to it, it is totally chaotic. when you search for a way to explain chaos or put it into order, confusion can only result. this is why you are still unhappy. you have not realized the insignificance of everything you can see, other than the fact it is seen. abandon Big Daddy and stand on your own two feet. there is to need for imaginatory consolation, as there is nothing to be afraid of.

[davewe]

But how tempted do u think young hotties anywhere will be to go for very unattractive guys much older than themselves if they don't see a pot of gold behind that guy.

You do understand that the core underlying purpose of this attitude is feminist and designed to keep men in their place. "Act your age," "They're only interested in you for money," etc. only exist to keep mature and successful men in line. As Jester points out in many cultures older men-younger women is standard and throughout time and history it's the norm, or at least a norm.

I also agree with Jester's previous comment that many women are attracted to status. Kissinger used to say that power was the greatest aphrodesiac. Now with status and power a woman may think comes money. It's up to the man to find a non-greedy woman and limit that thinking. It's not up to me to become impoverished to test a woman's love. It's up to me to live the life I wish to live, bring her into it, limit her expectations, and then stick to my limits.

Every man with any experience uses what he has to attract women. The tall guy knows that some women are attracted to him just because he's tall. He may be a complete moron but he can use that fluke of genetics to his benefit. Same with the pretty boy, the large physique guy, the smart guy, the funny guy, the good character guy, the successful guy, etc. I don't know why a guy who uses his status in life to get women is any less viable than a guy who uses his height or purdy face. If anything it is more viable, cause the guy had to work to get status; no one has to work hard to be tall.

But no matter what you used to get the girl you have to expand upon it to keep her. No lifelong partnership can be based just on your being tall; nor can it just be based on your status or cash. Sooner or later you have to discover if she loves you for you (whatever that means to you) and build upon that. That is if that is the type of relationship you want. If you're just looking for short-term, then what does it matter if you use height, muscles, or perceived status to meet your needs?

Here's a moment of honesty. There are plenty of disadvantages to getting older, foremost the knowledge that the end is closer than the beginning. Why shouldn't I use the few perceived advantages I have to my benefit? If someone wants to make a moral judgement about me or how I got a girl - why should I care?

But still I believe we should be cheering these guys on - not putting them down. That's the role of AWs.

[Rock]

Plenty of women around the world prefer status to same-age when choosing a man. Forty year age gaps are common in the Middle East, for example. Status is attractive to women. And in many countries the night-club douche does not have status.

Really? Which country/ies in the Middle East? Tell me cus I wanna go there. And when u say common, do u mean something like 50% of men, 10% of men, or say 1% of men achieve such gaps with faithful partners at least once in their lifetimes? This is very interesting!

I remember, from one of ur previous posts that u r some sort of prodigy or genius able to attend uni as a younger kid. So maybe u r on to something I've missed out on in my travels and expat experiences. So please share.

But also let me share one example of why I am skeptical that women in any culture would be happy with such a match. In the book, "White Massai" author talks about how some young girls are chosen to be paired with certain much older men of high status as if this is a fairly common feature of Massai tradition. But author also discusses the issue a bit from the perspective of the girls directly involved. The ones who get chosen for such pairings are often horrified, very sad that they lose the chance to be with a more age appropriate person who they can develop genuine feelings for as a man and lover.

[Rock]

[davewe]

Don’t you get it? It’s not my attitude. It’s what I’ve observed directly and indirectly in my travels and life experiences. This has nothing to do with feminism. Young and attractive humans (male or female) are not naturally attracted to old and unattractive humans (male and female) in most cases. It’s human nature and cuts both ways.

Life isn't a sociological experiment and the fact that you say it ain't so or you haven't seen it doesn't make it untrue. Even on a board like this whose demographic skews a bit younger, there are a number of middle aged guys with younger gfs/wives. Yet whenever they give their experiences they're slammed. There are boards devoted to travel and expatting with demographics a bit older populated by scores of men in older-younger relationships. So I simply have to wonder why it's such a big deal? What's it to you? How do you younger guys lose out if I and a few others manage to do what you have decided we either can't do or shouldn't do?

When you start talking about what is and isn't human nature you enter the Twilight Zone for me. A generation or two ago people in interracial or multicultural relationships were considered to be engaged in something unnatural also. I remember hearing that term thrown around plenty back then. It's nonsensical. What's natural for me (or anyone else) is what I decide I wish to do and can do.

As to my marriages/divorces or how many gfs I have now or have had in the past - I'm a little creeped out that you have kept such interest in my social life But the only reason you know about my past is that I am honest about it; some of you might consider doing the same. We've all had successes and failures and it's one of the things that has led most of us to search abroad for a different life, more happiness, and a better (or at least different) quality of woman.

As Jester pointed out more humorously that I can, a common theme here is "Don't go abroad. Don't date someone attractive. You can't go abroad, you don't speak a foreign language. There are narcos. Date a granny."

Common sense tells me that some members here have such a closed mind on this topic that further discussion is a waste. But I don't always show common sense. So here's a nice article from a new blog I like that details what the writer calls the May-December relationship. It's written from a Philippines perspective but much is applicable to other cultures.

http://lifebeyondthesea.com/?p=2273

[Banano]

If women prefer older men then how come AW dont go for old men, they have all the choice right?

in fact AW go for younger men, think all those cougars and Ive done quite a few western women in 30s and 40s while their useless hubbies play video games or go fishing

when theres freedom of choice everyone prefers younger partner


davewe

you have cash and that is your edge, nothing wrong with it ,

[OutWest]

From the mind of Ginger :



Thank you for labeling me as well Banano. - Passive aggressive. No introspection.

I guess there is simply no escaping the fact that I am female. - Passive aggressive. Playing the victim.

Oh well, I know even if I say exactly the same thing men say, someone would always burn me and resort to personal attack because I happen to be female. - Playing the victim. Appealing for sympathy.

Thank you for exposing yourself as a paranoid misogynist who likes to twist other person's words to validate your fears. I really hope for your sake you cross paths with at least one good female in your life who you don't feel the need to put under your paranoid scrutiny. - Passive aggressive.

You still have not addressed why you are singling me out but is too afraid to address male forumers who is saying same thing as I said re validity of OP's claim and his authenticity. Are you sure you are just not bullying me because you are a misogynist? C'mon if you got enough balls to be fair and be man enough, address everything squarely, but I guess you simply got issues. Oh well. - Playing the victim. Passive aggressive.



Enough already. Just ban this troll. This is exactly what we're trying to get away from, and yet this monstrosity of a female is still here.

Have you lived in the Philippines or even spent time here? On what basis do you evaluate claims one way or the other?
The original post seemed rather dubious to me overall, but beyond his original post, he has not seen fit to defend his claims in any way, though you are putting a lot of energy into defending what you do not even know. If he had made such claims to my face I would have been surprised but interested in his experiences because they seem so extreme, and so unlike the experience of myself as well as most of the Filipino men I know.

I find some significant minority of Filipinas to have overall desirable qualities for potential mates. Whatever that percentage, it is quite a bit larger than in the USA, and possibly larger than the percentage of good quality men int the USA, which might be 5% on a lucky day.

If you are living the life here, such debates are silly.

Outwest
Misamis Oriental, Mindanao

[abcdavid01]

Could it be a cultural thing? There was a high infant mortality rate in many cultures throughout history, so it was necessary for women to start having kids ASAP. Men don't have that biological clock, so it wasn't an issue. They spent a few more years on anything from tribal duties to getting university degrees in the Renaissance before getting married. Now Western culture is suffering a mass delusion due to Feminism that women's biological clock doesn't exist and they can do the things men did like go to university and put off having a family. Of course this totally messes up demography and it'll come back to bite the whole culture very soon. Even as soon as a decade when my parents generation retires and there's no one to fund entitlements. Happening world wide too.

[OutWest]

Don’t you get it? It’s not my attitude. It’s what I’ve observed directly and indirectly in my travels and life experiences. This has nothing to do with feminism. Young and attractive humans (male or female) are not naturally attracted to old and unattractive humans (male and female) in most cases. It’s human nature and cuts both ways.

Life isn't a sociological experiment and the fact that you say it ain't so or you haven't seen it doesn't make it untrue. Even on a board like this whose demographic skews a bit younger, there are a number of middle aged guys with younger gfs/wives. Yet whenever they give their experiences they're slammed. There are boards devoted to travel and expatting with demographics a bit older populated by scores of men in older-younger relationships. So I simply have to wonder why it's such a big deal? What's it to you? How do you younger guys lose out if I and a few others manage to do what you have decided we either can't do or shouldn't do?

When you start talking about what is and isn't human nature you enter the Twilight Zone for me. A generation or two ago people in interracial or multicultural relationships were considered to be engaged in something unnatural also. I remember hearing that term thrown around plenty back then. It's nonsensical. What's natural for me (or anyone else) is what I decide I wish to do and can do.

As to my marriages/divorces or how many gfs I have now or have had in the past - I'm a little creeped out that you have kept such interest in my social life But the only reason you know about my past is that I am honest about it; some of you might consider doing the same. We've all had successes and failures and it's one of the things that has led most of us to search abroad for a different life, more happiness, and a better (or at least different) quality of woman.

As Jester pointed out more humorously that I can, a common theme here is "Don't go abroad. Don't date someone attractive. You can't go abroad, you don't speak a foreign language. There are narcos. Date a granny."

Common sense tells me that some members here have such a closed mind on this topic that further discussion is a waste. But I don't always show common sense. So here's a nice article from a new blog I like that details what the writer calls the May-December relationship. It's written from a Philippines perspective but much is applicable to other cultures.

http://lifebeyondthesea.com/?p=2273

I used to think that travel enlightened people. I am no longer sure of that. It simply means they have more experience and may may not be able to gather any wisdom from that experience.

There is a reason why around the world, many cultures tend to view young men as foolish.

But you are right, the tone is quite negative and displays a hostile reaction to the direct experience of men who seem to be succeeding at outlier endeavors.

I think such men in their success touch on something in others, especially young men. It is called FEAR. As if the success of another man somehow exposes their own insecurities.

I live an outlier life. I am not interested in achieving what is normal. I live in out of the way Mindanao, with pretty wife who is really great company. Most men would call her HOT.

Surprisingly, younger American men are more troubled by my success than are Young American women. Most younger American women can kinda see my point of view. Men under 40 are very troubled by what they see with me. It is just not right! As if I am operating within a paradigm they completely cannot fathom and they find it very troubling, and they are also jealous as hell.

Well they are right about one thing- I am operating within a paradigm they cannot fathom, and I am not going to waste my time educating them past their insecure reactions.


Outwest

[abcdavid01]

I am not going to waste my time educating them past their insecure reactions.

Really? Why not? Why not adopt a "spread the love" policy and lead more people to this site and its ideas? Allow others the same happiness you have achieved? Who cares if their offensiveness only derives from ignorance? It sounds like good karma.