xiongmao wrote:kai1275 wrote:
Living in China for 2-3 years is very f***ing hard though. You might need to go outside from time to time for sanity reasons.
Yeah, learn from my experiences guys. I lasted 4 months in China. I'll end up going mad in Bangkok as well. It takes a special type of person to live here long time. I met a guy who'd been here 15 years. He was crazy. The advice he gave me was just laugh at every stupid thing that happens to me out here.
Well that was just as well because two days ago I had to wade through over a foot of water to get to my hotel. Tonight's bus journey home was like that movie Speed 2: Cruise Control, but with buses instead of boats. At one point the bus actually got wedged against the wall of the SkyTrain viaduct. And I got home to find my room full of flying ants - the little guys who live in my bathroom have been busy. I don't know how much more insanity I can take. On top of that we have Guangzhou-like levels of humidity since the mother of all rainstorms.
I wouldn't do the fake degree thing. I don't know about China but in Thailand a foreigner got jail time for doing that.
As to girls, getting emotionally attached to females is dangerous. I've found the only way I can shift them from my brain is by finding a better girl, or they find somebody else. Clingy girls are hazardous in the extreme.
There are loads of options out there though. In Bangkok everyone seems to be single. Every time I log into Thai Love Links I see 100, maybe 1000 girls I've never seen before. I wish I'd worked my way through my dating bucket list before I started seriously looking for The One.
Xiongmao - I wouldn't take your advice if someone paid me. About the only things you've done with any success is left the UK and bitched and moaned.
You bailed on China and you're ready to bail on Thailand. You are right. It does take a certain type of person to live abroad. Why are you incapable of doing so when so many others can? Have you ever any thought to why you can't handle living in China or Thailand and you can't even seem to find a woman in a place where it's easy as flipping a light switch if you're even semi-successful?
I offered to meet with you. Nothing. No worries, I have plenty to do. Online dating is not the only answer nor would I say it is an answer. The reason you see so many women online is because they're poor or they want a way out. Can you not hook up with a chick who has a life of her own, who could support you if God forbid something happened to you, or find one that has a personality? Did you ever think maybe you expect too much or you are the problem?
I keep saying these things to you but it seems like you're scared of doing things differently. So you get the same result. I told you, LEARN THAI - you quit. I told you, give it time, all you do is bitch about the women, bitch about this, bitch about that. Negativity and complete bullshit gets you nowhere.
If you don't want to believe me, then believe the other guys who know Thailand. Maybe the guy who's been here 15 years is on to something when he says to laugh things off. He may be crazy, maybe not, but you're the one guy I read that is constantly complaining. If you don't want to take anyone's advice and you don't like living in other countries, why did you leave home? One of two things is going to happen: either you're going to GET IT or you're going to give up and go home, which is my guess.
Here's the thing - get your mind right and things don't matter as much. As long as you're above ground, making an honest living, you're not being cheated out of a large sum of money, getting thrown in jail for something you didn't do, or knocking up several chicks at once, life is good.
Two days ago you had to wade through a foot of water to get to your hotel - SO WHAT? Is it that big of a f***ing deal? If this sort of thing or flying ants are that big of a deal, just go home already. f**k me man, I'd hate to have you with me on a trip to Guyana or in the jungles of Myanmar, or in the the Congo or somewhere like this, you'd be crying like a little bitch.
MAGNUM - I understand you're hurting but fake degrees are not the answer. The chances of going to jail are slim but you're missing the bigger picture. Tell the girl BYE-BYE. Grow some balls, understand you'll have other women, and tell her good bye. Seriously. You're going to get a fake degree to stay there, you're not going to Japan because of her, her family doesn't like you. Oh well, FIND SOMEONE WORTHY.
The good thing about Asia is you can f**k the pain away with a little money. Believe me, a couple of weeks of non-stop f***ing sexy girls will do wonders for a man. You'll get over it. If you dropped 135lbs you're a strong dude - stay strong - this chick isn't the answer and you deserve a woman who is going to take care of you, love you no matter what, and who will know when to draw the line at giving you too much shit. Behind every good man is a good woman - but they MUST be good or you're better off without them.