kai1275 wrote:First off, I lurked here for over 2 years. I never posted because I had nothing useful to offer anyone here. That was my f***ing choice. I kept my f***ing mouth shut and learned, studied, and planned. Now that I have plenty of free time and experience, knowledge, and advice to offer I am sharing it. I chose the China route and there was not much about China here on HA back then.. Lots guys here enjoy what I bring to HA. I am part of that new wave of HA guys and I contribute.
Apparently you don't keep up very well. The old format is pretty much gone. Odbo and the Stormfront trash are gone. Boycott All Women is gone too. The "old" format was trash. The current one is not too radically different, but it is more progressive in mind. It isn't done growing actually but it is changing into a CAN DO type of HA group. Solution oriented. Look at Winston, he is doing talks and seminars now, and actively trying to find ways to spread the word. Others I mentioned are offering advice and information. The past HA was full of fights and took effort to find gems amougst the garbage. It required super thick skin to even stomach reading these forums. You wanna bitch and complain on someone giving a light spanking to Xiongmao? Have you bothered reading anything going back 2 years ago? Come off your misguided nostalgia.
We are trying to get guys to do things and work at it. Nothing good comes by being lazy as f**k, crying, moping, and having a shitty attitude. HA tolerates whatever the posters here are willing to tolerate. The bigots are gone for now, and more changes will follow for sure. I know for a fact I won't be posting here forever. I could be wrong, but I doubt it. Someone younger and newer has to step up and help contribute because things change and HA will always need ground reports, feedback, and advice. Anyone presenting the opposite, should be met with resistance. Winston and Zboy made changes for the sake of the forum a while back and look at the progress! This site is getting more popular by the day! Look at Peter's post about the Alexa ratings!
Your arguments makes no f***ing sense at all. You want people to be more PC and gentle with others, but yet you want some kind of old HA, which was far far meaner than now. No one called his mother a whore or called him fat and useless, but instead called him out on his bullshit. Then you rise like some social worker PC white knight from the ashes. If anything, a guy like you will cause more bigots to rise with your attitude. They see PC and go nuts. Winston hates PC and the mods do too. We can be stern in here and keep it reasonable without ad hominem attacks.
If you cannot handle a little tough talk, just admit it and be done with it. Don't try and bullshit anyone here like we fell off some god damned turnip truck yesterday. If what you are seeing right now, disturbs you because you loved the old guard in here, tough nuts. That shit is old history now. Hardly anyone cares for that useless garbage here anymore, it's been beaten to death.
Oh yeah, and f**k Roosh. I don't read his f***ing site, I don't understand most RooshV references any of you make, but the less Roosh content and comparisons we have to deal with in here, the better. Stop exaggerating shit. No one is forcing PUA and Game junk down anyone's throat in here. I haven't seen a legit PUA thread in here in months.
LOL see what I mean?? Are you sure you're that different from anybody else, if the slightest (polite) criticism is enough to blow your top and let you off on a rant spiked by 4-letter-words? I have appreciated your contributions like everybody else and I hear you loud and clear enough without you having to pose as the forum saviour, or the sole reason why the Alexa ratings are going up. New or old wave doesn't matter. This is a public, unmoderated forum and Winston will cash in whether it's Cornfed going on about evil feminists and manginas or AiB dishing out top-notch expat info on Thailand.
So, relax.
I applaud that f*cking choice of yours, to leave your homeland behind and move to China. You chose to cut the middle man and have a taste of one of the widest culture gaps an American can possibly experience. You found a young wife who adores you and life is sweet. Bravo to you. And bravo to the idea, whoever will apply it, of putting travel reports and factual information about living and dating abroad ahead of any sexist, racist, violent and generally useless ranting. Better save that kundalini up to work, save some money and start putting stamps on that passport.
So now can you tell me what has all this got to bashing and ridiculing a fellow members for just stating their opinions - perhaps incompetently, naively but at least politely (I think XM in question is one of the least foul-mouthed people I've read in here)? Assuming "the truth" exists and the listener is willing to receive it, nevermind follow up on it, are you really afraid such truth will be lost when other posters want to say something that you view as of a lesser quality than what you would expect?
If Winston and the mods, or you when you become one, want to turn off the BS valve for good and turn HA into just another plain (s)expat forum, then XiongMao and posters with less knowledge of Asian cultures and societies may well feel less motivated to contribute, and will probably lurk or leave. Even then, so long this is a public, unmoderated forum and nobody is calling a fellow poster's wife or mom a slut, there's nothing to stop polite opinions from being written and read.
Those who read and interact shall be smart enough to take from that smorgasbord of information, advice, saucy stories and plain crap whatever the hell they want, digest it and shit it away. Like I said before, if AiB's contributions and yours are head and shoulder above the rest, I'm sure any reader worth his brain salt will have already appreciated it and praised you for it. Plain and simple.
For one last time, there's no need to call names and play this tough boy act. To ask members not to insult and ridicule other members for the sake of throwing their weight around, nevermind on a forum that has never had any pretension to be the ultimate authority on expat living or foreign dating, is not "social worker PC white knight" stuff from the ashes. It's simply good manners and common sense, which should probably belong to the realm of any human interaction, whether online and IRL.
After all, if you're keen to write well-thought, top quality material about your travels and your life in China, you can always create your own blog or personal website like AiB has done. Once there, you will set the rules, write and edit your material and moderate the heck out of whatever comments they will attach to it. Or you can post your stuff here and I for one will be pleased to read it. I say just don't fall into the delusion that you're one of the elite few whose posts are read and appreciated.
