anamericaninbangkok wrote:manly5000 wrote:SilverEnergy wrote:This thread is pathetic and sad.....grief!
There are books on how to pick up strippers.
Totally. I can't believe the owner of Happier Abroad is talking about falling in love with western strippers.
I think this place has finally jumped the shark.
The truth is, Winston had a great idea when he initially started HA. It's still a great idea. But aside from his Filipina and the occasional whore (or not so occasional), I don't think he's got laid very often. Like one other person astutely noted, a stripper is just a half a step away from being a whore.
Also, living in the U.S. isn't living Happier Abroad IMO. If you were living in the PI getting laid regularly and were married or had a bevy of beauties I doubt you would have made this thread.
So...it comes as no surprise to me that he's smitten with the first hot-looking woman who gives him a couple of hours of sweet looks, whether phony or not. I'm sorry to say that but I seriously doubt many will disagree.
With the exception of religion, getting laid by at least some of the women you meet is important. Getting a giggle or smile out of them is nice but if you're not getting laid, you're relegated to the non-threatening or buddy position.
Let me try to give you the larger perspective again, since as usual, you see things from a very NARROW perspective and do not see the bigger or deeper picture.
First, you can't fault a man for falling for a beautiful girl. We are creatures of emotional, and love is blind. Emotions subdue logic. Why do you think the whole planet of Vulcan in Star Trek decided to purge themselves of emotions?
In one original Star Trek episode called "Requiem for Methuselah", Captain Kirk falls madly in love with a female android who is not even human. He knows it is wrong and silly to do that, but he does it anyway because he is in love.
Even the smartest and strongest men can be privy to that. You just don't understand human nature.
Second, if you really want to know, I've banged nearly 100 women in my lifetime. Most were whores yeah, but about 10 or 15 were non-hoes. That's not too bad. Most of them were good experiences that I would gladly repeat again.
I can get laid regularly in the Philippines, but I got tired of the heat, humidity, pollution and lack of nature there. I also didn't like that I was only allowed to date the poorest girls. And Murphy's Law affected me too.
But this was true of most expats too, including you if you were there.
You aren't better than anyone else. You aren't even better than Steve R. I'll bet money that you did NOT get laid in Thailand anymore than he did. You don't have looks or charm or charisma to seduce girls. I'll bet money that if you asked that pork stall girl out, she'd reject you. I know SE Asian girls very well and can read their body language. Hers said she was not into you.
Your wife is not hot by anyone's standards here either. You are big and macho looking, so you'd be the standard type in Russia and would probably do better there.
Everyone misses home sometimes. The US is good for nature. We all agreed on that. I'm big on nature, so... you get the point.
Even Rock is arriving in the US next week. Why don't any of you chide him for it? Because I look easier to pick on and look like a pushover with a victim vibe?
The reason I'm smitten by this stripper isn't just because she's a hot girl. She has kind eyes and a personality that's different from the rest. None of the strippers in Vegas are like her. Probably because Vegas is a hustling town of bad people, whereas Carson City is a small town that is slower paced. In small towns, people are nicer, kinder and more warm and friendly. So she, being a small town girl, may just be nicer than the strippers in larger cities such as Vegas. You know-it-all guys forgot to take that into account.
Plus she's blonde, and I always dreamed of having a blonde girlfriend like her since 1979 when I had my first crush on one. Deep down I feel very sad that the dream never came true. So this girl represents a lost dream from long long ago. And that has a special place in my heart.
Now, if I have a thing for blondes, spending time in the Philippines, even getting laid there regularly, isn't going to fulfill my blonde fantasy. You understand that don't you?
A guy who has had a lot of Asian chicks could easily fantasize about white chicks since he does not have access to them. You know how it is. I shouldn't have to explain this.
Just because a guy isn't getting laid doesn't mean there's something wrong with him. Lots of nice guys don't get laid, such as Falcon. Some guys are too nice that they have an asexual vibe that does not arouse sexual attraction in women. Some girls in Russia said that I was like that too. They called it "lack of sexuality".
Plus, girls aren't that easy to lay. They are hardwired to seek a relationship first, then the sex comes later.
AiB, you don't seem to have much experience in human relations with women, or else your views on them wouldn't be so narrow. Guys with lots of social experience don't have such narrow views like you do. You seem like a typical know-it-all expat who does not have the substance to back up the attitude.
I've talked to guys who really understand women, and guys who don't but just act like know-it-alls. The guys that understand them certainly don't have the narrow views that you do.