Repatriate wrote:Girls update:
Online girl dating is going good so far. I have this weekend all lined up starting tomorrow with meet ups. The biggest problem thus far is that i'm fairly sure i'm talking with decent girls with real jobs and most of them are only available on weekend. I've encountered this issue in Bangkok before too but it's way easier to get around there than it is here. So even though i'm pretty centrally located for some girls it's still like 45 min away minimum. I have to pick the "favorites" and schedule other girls the next weekend after. That leaves kind of a gap in my weekdays where there's not a lot going on right now.
Any idea on how to surmount this logistical weekend scheduling issue here?
Btw there's still a lot of scammers online, most of them are pretty obvious but one girl that contacted me insisted I meet her at this one particular place off makati ave. not too far from the red light district at P. Burgos. That set off giant alarm bells. I get the funny feeling that if someone goes along with that they might be walking into something bad. I told her no way and that was the end of that.
The scammers are usually really obvious poor liars with bad profiles and don't have good communication skills but this scenario straight up sounds like some kind of planned ambush.
There must be a lot of idiots online who fall for it for them to be so brazen.
Some ideas to save precious time. Go in stages and do your best to filter before even meeting them since Metro Manila is challenging to get around.
1. Filter online dating sites to get a short list who you get to know better by phone and text (I think you've already done that).
2. Do your best to get FB profile from her and/or cam with her. If you do that step, you will get a better idea of what they look like and can filter out additional ones who don't meet your personal physical spec preferences. Likewise (w/cam) she can get a better idea of what you look like to make sure you are real and that she wants to meet you.
3. You need to get some use of the weekdays. So with girls left from 2 above, try to convince them to meet you for a snap coffee date (10-30 minutes) right before or after her work. The goal of the first meeting should be to see if there is any chemistry in persona and usually that is apparent within seconds to minutes of a face-to-face contact. Study a map of Metro Manila which includes MRT, LRT, light rail, etc. and find out where she works and lives to coordinate a meet-up. Usually, you can find an SM Mall fairly close (or she can suggest one) and you just need to know its name (eg SM Marikina, SM Makati, etc.). For the ones in Quezon City and Valenzuela (where Ginger was from lol), Trinoma next to SM North is a good choice cus it's at end of MRT line.
4. If she wants to bring someone, limit it to just one other person (say you are shy) and you can pick-up one simple coffee or drink for both of them but not food (mguy might suggest you insist on Dutch treat but I don't see the problem with paying around 100 Pesos or less each). If she brings someone without asking you first, that's a bad sign IMO.
5. For girls who wanna come Makati, Glorietta or SM Makati is good (if they come on MRT since it's close to Ayala). Perhaps you could meet in front of Hard Rock Cafe since there is only one. Otherwise, almost everyone knows Greenbelt which is just 10 min walk from Ayala MRT and you could suggest Starbucks Greenbelt 3 which is nice outdoor area near chapel. If they work nights in call-center, that can be good if they can meet you during their break or right before/after shift since traffic is so much better during wee hours and taxis can get you places fast.
6. After you've managed to meet them, your list will become even smaller which is good. And of course you will be getting new leads in pipeline if you keep up online activity so it's a process. Now for the ones you like, you've gotta determine whether or not they are interested back and whether or not they have any deal breaker type behaviors. Some may be too busy with work and family, others might have other guy(s) in background, etc. Now as mguy will probably tell you, they will have their own tests and games. Some may play cool or hard-to-get in hopes you show you are really interested.
7. Poor girls are to be avoided unless she somehow managed to get acceptable education, decent values, and is not at all desperate. It happens, there are some diamonds among poor. Likewise, the very rich are suspect and may have a lot of the traits we so hate. But again, it's possible to find a very nice and down-to-earth girl from rich family. Somethings ultimately boil down to individual - she may be a gem while her sister is a bitch from hell.
8. If you connect well with the girl, don't over think the other stuff too much. That's what matters the most.
9. Sure, there are lots of scammers and gold diggers in Phils. including the online space. But they are not like at all shrewd like Russians. Most will behave as if they expect you to be as dumb as rocks. And they will move quickly. So it's actually quite easy to detect these and weed em right out.
10. I have done very little of this in Phils so far. But you can also work some cold approaches like mguy showed you. The advantage of this if you are picky about appearance is that there are no surprises like you can get from dating site and even FB photos.
11. As much as possible, learn the jeepney routes. Why? Not to save money cus taxis are cheap there. But often during busier traffic times (4-9 pm), rainy period, you won't be able to get a taxi if your life depended on it or it might require spending like 2 hours in a mall queue. Jeepneys go most everywhere on larger streets and are 24/7.
Some of it is pretty funny though. I haven't received bible passages or anything too weird but it's odd how some girls here just pour their hearts out in txt. A few girls talked at length about their day at work, headaches, food she ate, shows she watched, what she wants to do, etc.. with me totally unprompted. I barely know these girls too. I would think it was some kind of scam if it weren't the majority of girls i'm txting doing this.
