This is a matter of personal tastes. I personally don't attach much value to virginity, mainly because it's almost impossible for a modern girl (as it is for a boy) to resist the curiosity of having sex with a peer, with hormones screaming high, lots of peer pressure, continuous Internet and media titillation and the kinds of liberal families we have now. Most Italian kids lose their virginity at 14, and that's what they are at ease to state to a survey. It used to be around 16/17 when I was a teenager. So, whoever desires a virgin without passing for a paedophile is better off running to a rural place in Asia or the Middle East. And in that case, they would still have to pay the hefty price of a 18, 19 or 20 years old who doesn't know much about modern life, a relationships and all its facets.Émigré wrote:Some guys would rather have a loveless life if they can't have a relationship that doesn't meet their expectations. I can honestly say I couldn't stay in a relationship with a woman who didn't wait until the wedding. I'm assuming All_That_Is_Man is also expecting a virgin which is a high expectation. It is hard enough getting into any relationship, narrow it down to a beautiful woman, and narrowing it further to a virgin. That is like going for the gold in dating Olympics. The main point is never drop out of the race and eventually you will make it to the finish line and get the prize. The best relationship.
And this takes me to the other point: I have never had a virgin (well, only once when I was 16, but I was a virgin too, so that doesn't count ) and I would never think of having a fling or start a relationship with one. I like a woman who knows how to have sex -> knows how to please a man and how she likes/wants to be pleased. If sex is indeed a language, I wouldn't like to have to teach my girlfriend/wife how to speak before I start speaking to her.
What I do value is honesty. A young woman who says: sure, I had a few men, before, but it's who I love and my sexual life will be with you and you only (well, bar whatever "special games" we might enjoy having ) from now on. There are many more aspects to look for and cherish in a young woman. Virginity is probably not one of them.