MarcosZeitola wrote:publicduende wrote:MarcosZeitola wrote:Meanwhile I am 23 and already found and married my perfect Asian lady.
At least the guy has plans. Its good to always have plans and something to dream about\hope for. Without that we'd all go insane sooner or later.
Well, good for you. I assume you're from the US (Spain?) and living in the Philippines with your girl. That's all it takes, at the end of the day. A bit of initiative and the courage to drop the anti-world attitude and chill.
I am European and met a Filipina girl two years my junior on the internet. We met and fell in love. Now we are married and we have a daughter together. I am working hard to be able to buy a bigger house for us to live in, but the cost of housing and living in the provinces there is quite doable to say the least. I don't care about Western society all that much and I am not a materialistic person. And here's the catch: neither is my significant other! You hear a lot nastiness here about how all women are the same, blablabla. Maybe a lot of Western women are like that but abroad you can still find women who are different. Having found one of those I an say: yes, it is possible and YES, it is quite enjoyable!
The likes of Elliot Rodger have way more money then me or anyone in my family ever had or ever will have which is why they are so infuriating. All he needed was one ticket to Manila and a few bus rides into the country. It's really not rocket science.
It takes initiative, yes. It takes a chill attitude, yes. And yes, it is doable. Very, very doable. I hope to see more of that optimism here.
I am European (Italian), too. This explains a lot more than you can imagine. From what I have seen and learned on here, scores of US men have been badly burned or even traumatised by the faux-feminist, bitchy attitude of their girls, from high school to divorce court. Whatever they do and say reflect this bitterness and mistrust.
I believe we Europeans, especially us Southern Europeans, are lot more chilled and don't see relating to woman in such a confrontational way. I once heard someone say Americans see relationships like a war that has to be either won (by them) or lost (to the other). Italians see relationships like a dance, to be played and enjoyed together, if for a short time and with a few bad steps every now and then.
That you're only 23 and already married, with a kid and planning to live in the Philippines for good, is quite impressive. I am not being polemic here, but I can't help seeing that, on the "happier abroad" path, you're far ahead of members twice your age.
Felicitaciones por esta nueva etapa tu vida!