You talk about pride and honor as if you still live in the days of knights and samurai, even when those days are long gone. Speaking of knights, they f***ed around a lot in the Middle East, the many light-skinned blue- and green eyed people living in the Levantine Area of Syria for example says enough. Those dudes had bastard children all over the place, in the East and West alike.Tsar wrote:I watch X movies so I have a good idea of what I should do.MarcosZeitola wrote:A man ought to have some sort of experience when he marries, so that he knows what he's doing and he is not as inexperienced as his wife-to-be.
It's not exactly about remaining pure. It's about maintaining my honor and pride. If I lose my v-card to any girl at this point, especially if I pay for it or she slept around, it makes me less of a man. When a teenage boy loses it he could boast about it even if the girl was with other guys. When a man marries a virgin girl it is a source of pride and honorable. Being with a virgin girl is a rite of passage for becoming a man. Even teenage boys that are with an attractive virgin girl would have more pride and be able to get the most admiration from his peers for getting something exclusive.MarcosZeitola wrote:There's no such thing as "male purity", unless you believe in all those 'no sex before marriage' pledges some Evangelical Christians take. It's a thing aimed at girls. For a man to engage in such beliefs is unmanly. Anti-masculine to the core. First you learn how to ride a bike, then you teach her. How is she going to think of your sexual prowess when you come after one or two minutes on your first night? She'll lose her respect for you right there and then and consider herself a fool for marrying a man who doesn't know what the hell he's doing. Not something that makes a girl moist, my friend. Just saying.
I don't want marry just any woman. I don't want to be with just any woman. I want to be with a woman that allows me feel special, gives me pride, and preserves my honor.
I can't gain any sexual experience beforehand without ruining my pride and honor. Experience with socializing is something I would work on but it's difficult when no one wants to really be a friend, at least no one I know in reality in America.MarcosZeitola wrote:If you gain some experience beforehand it will greatly increase your chances at finding a wife either way. You will gain some skill, which all men ought to do, and the social interactions required to find a life companion is something one can only learn through practice, trial and error. Remember that.
Sleeping with a girl does not make you lose honor or pride, that's an absolutely retarded believe and I wonder where the hell you got that from... and to say you know how to do things simply because you watch some porn is the biggest bullshit as well. Practice makes perfect, and your best bet is to gain some practice beforehand. It will do wonders to your confidence. Especially considering the fact that you say you are not very outgoing yourself.
Are you sure this 'pride and honor' story of yours isn't just an excuse for you to not take action locally? If you really are as handsome as you claim to be it should not be all that difficult for you to find girls and experiment a little. This is only healthy and vital for the development of young men. Do not deny yourself this thing, that you rightfully described as "a right of passage".