Tsar wrote:I agree that your scenario would be bizarre. I speak properly without slang. I don't use complex words that someone couldn't understand. I always talk at the level the other person can easily understand.
That's good, then. It's still a big step however for a sixteen year old girl to go from inexperienced schoolgirl to someone's wife in such a short period of time. Just like how for you, even when you are much older, it's quite a leap from "late twenties virgin who never dated" to someone's husband, a father, someone's rock and support. That's a lot of responsibility to jump into with no prior experience.
Tsar wrote:I wouldn't throw myself at a girl. I have code of honor but that doesn't mean I am entirely honorable and I'm not a pushover.
In what ways are you not entirely honorable, and how would this affect the way you act around a potential girlfriend\wife? Also isn't it very pressuring for your first girlfriend\love to also be a partner for life? It's a very all-or-nothing scenario it seems.
Why is you remaining a virgin "honorable", when in other aspects you are willing to be less then honorable if needs be?
Tsar wrote:I wouldn't tell her I have a lot of money because I don't want a gold-digger.
So what would you tell her, then, to get her attention? How would you make her interested in you? How would you woo her, make her fall for you? That's something that is very daunting for any man, let alone a man with no experience in the field.
Tsar wrote:I might want my ideal girl but I'm not desperate and I'm not desperate for any girl.
I think you are. I think most of us are. You see cute girls as a single guy and as all men, you have your desires, your wants and needs. You see a beautiful young girl at her peak and you want that body in your bed. It's nature, man. We all have these feelings. It'll lessen once you settle down with your one-and-only, but parts it of it will always linger.
You say you aren't desperate but I think you are, at least to a degree. I know I was when I was younger and had no girlfriend. I felt something was missing. There was a gap that needed to be filled, and it did not fill until I met the girl who now is my wife. If you weren't desperate at least on some level you would not have made this thread. You starting this topic tells me you are desperate for a girl. It's in the title, even! You are lonely. And there's no shame in being lonely. Just be honest. We've all been there.
Now that we've established that you are lonely. And that you need companionship in your life. Friendship would be a good way to start. Even if you would find your perfect girl, you would still need some friends to talk to on a regular basis. Some people can function perfectly without them but you feeling lonely tells me you are not one of them. Without immediately expecting love or romance, and while you continue to work on improving yourself and achieving independence, my advice is for you to try and make some friends as well. In real life, that is. Go out a bit, drink a bit, live a little. Pick up a sport or an activity. Trust me: you will feel a lot less lonely. Which is a good start as it would put you in a more positive and hopefully more productive mood.
