Banano wrote:Is it true that if you have filipina gf or wife her whole family tries to mooch off you in some way, be it dinners, gifts or money?
How common is this?
If she brings chaperone on the first date it would be fair for that person to pay for everything or else you should pretend to go to the bathroom and slip away leaving them with a huge bill to pay, next time I go PH and she brings entourage that exactly what Im gonna do.
This occurs usually with the weaker minded and emotional troubled men. I myself at times have fallen under this classification as well. Hey love, or the thought of love can make us weak, I understand that.
But if you set boundaries from the start and set her in her place, then you should be fine. That's the advice from a friend of mine who has been married to a filipina for 5 or so years. He told his future wife before they got married that he wasn't gonna provide for her family. If she wanted to help them she needed to get a job. That's what she did and they are still very happily married and her family treats them really well whenever they come to visit.
As far as chaperones on a date, I don't have a problem unless they bring several. I ran into that with my current girl but her and her friends paid for everything, even mine. She brought friends because she was cautious of me and very conservative.
If she brings a friend or two once, maybe even twice ok, but if it seems to be every occasion, then I'd drop her. Plus if she asked for money in any kind of way then I'd be quite skeptical. Taxi's and on a date alone then pay for her, at least in the getting to know her stage.