She doesn't have to be super virtuous, really. Some are simply shy or insecure. Others are very dutiful to there family, following the "no boyfriends and sex before finishing your studies" rule that seems to be quite popular among all families in the Philippines that display any form of ambition to get ahead in life. Her being super virtuous or overtly religious might even be a drawback as she wouldn't put out. I wouldn't advice going for a girl you met in church or something who may very well be a gigantic prude for all you know.Repatriate wrote:I agree there are quite a few of these super virtuous type women as well. You just have to show a willingness to commit and be a good enough judge of character to make sure it's worth the effort.
My own girlfriend and now wife, is Catholic but not extremely so. She was dutiful towards her family, studying hard to please them. Moved out young to go to a good university far from her family's house, and continued to work on her future there. Her family is honest, hard-working, but sadly in dept because it is expensive even for the middle class to send your children to higher education especially if it's a good university or college.
I've never been screwed over by my in-laws, ever. They are honest people. When I met my father-in-law for the first time he asked me what my intentions are with his daughter. I told her I love her and see her as a part of my future, and that in time I would marry her. He then gave me his blessing and we've been on very good terms ever since. He told me he was uncertain about us at first but since I was handsome and his wife loved the idea of mestiza grandchildren he had kept an open mind. Then when we met we became friends and all was fine. They have been advising me financially and helping me fro there on out, and warned me on which people to trust and which people not to, how to avoid being scammed and what an acceptable price is for any given service. If I would rent a car, for example, they would tell me the price THEY would pay for it, and if I am charged more I know how to negotiate so that I too pay the Filipino price, not the "rich stupid Americano price".
Filipino's are not always honest, it is true. But if you have connections they can help you navigate in the country without getting to broke. Your stay will be a lot cheaper that way. I pay what Filipino's pay, and some doctors even charge us less because they like me. It's all about keeping a watchful eye, being around the right people and a healthy dose of luck doesn't hurt either. But of course we must not forget that in a third world country, strangers will occasionally try to get a little extra out of you for being foreign. Annoying? Sure, but if I am entirely honest I would probably do the same thing if I were in their shoes.
My advice to everyone here whining of how "dishonest" Filipino's are? Don't be stupid. They only get to screw you over if you are stupid or gullible, and you'll wise up quick enough if you're not a fool. If you don't, better head home.