Winston wrote:Those are great reasons. However, what if you get tired of your wife? What if the sex gets boring and you can't get hard anymore? Most women also suck in bed and aren't passionate like in the movies.
What do you do then? Is the solution to try to marry the hottest woman so you don't lose your sexual desire for her?
A man is also decreasing in hotness over time.
As far as physical attraction goes, it's kind of like a frog and boiling water. Take a 20-year-old man and ask him what he'd think of having sex for years with a 50-year-old round woman with wrinkles and sagging arms. Like a frog dropped in boiling water, he might avoid that situation. If you put a frog in boiling water, they say they jump away to avoid it. (I've never tried.) But if you put a frog in a pot and slowly turn up the heat, they say he'll stay there until he's boiled.
Gradually, the woman you marry ages and you gradually get used to it. I used to be really turned off by fat arms on a woman, I mean even slightly fat that other guys wouldn't care about on a young woman. I still don't like it. My wife doesn't have fat arms, but probably wouldn't have met up to my standard in my 20's. My wife is very hot for her age, but she's been pregnant several times, and while she's thin, the stomach isn't 100% of what it was in her early 20's when I married her. (Of course, I did that to her.
) But I'm cool with it.
When I was single, a married Korean man was telling me before you marry, looks are very important to you, but after you marry, character issues become much more important. I agree.
But I'm glad I married one of those women who stays thin over the years. She put on a little weight for pregnancy, not huge amounts. I'm fatter than she is.
Something to keep in mind is that a wife is a person you love and grow to love more and more over the years. She's not just a hot body. Her having a hot body is good. But it's much better to marry an 8 for looks who is submissive, respectful, loving, meets her husbands needs, cooks, is a good mother, etc. than a 10 who is hard to get along with, nags, argues, tries to control, etc.
On the sexual side, there is something to be said for quantity. If you can have sex night after night with a woman who learns what you like, there are some advantages to that just from a sexual fulfillment (aside from moral) perspective than going around mongering, spending nights of trying to find someone to hook up with. If you sleep with a loose woman or prostitute, she's been with all these other guys and has their diseases. It's just gross.
