globe-trotter wrote:MrBlueLight wrote:OP: When I fail in the Philippines, it is definitely not my fault, it is the country's fault. And when I fail at anything, it is everyone else's fault!
There is a saying that if you can't get laid (for free) in the Philippines, you should shoot yourself.
A cute Pinay just left my place after a round of hot passion. I am in Manila btw.
High five to starchild5. That model girl looks good! I hope you didn't just befriend her, but that you actually managed to get inside that cute missus
Getting laid in the Philippines for free felt as distant to me as hitting Powerball-- in other words, it's felt like a remote dream. I didn't even consider the possibility.
- It takes me like a month just to start getting a remote sense of what makes a country tick if I go in cold (no online pipelining, connections from overseas locals, etc.). If you don't wanna do P4P or quasi P4P (think Africa, Haiti, other local much poorer than Phils), then it's very unlikely that you will hit the ground running with the ladies unless you have some kind of strong edge. You will need weeks if not months to figure out whether or not you can date attractive normal girls and if so, how you can go about it.
- I don't fully agree with Winston or Taco that Philippines is a country full of young women who smile, make eye contact with you, or even flirt. That may very well happen frequently in parts of Russia/CIS or areas of LatAm. But young Filipinas, especially when away from their comfortable group tend to be shy about interacting with strangers, especially foreign males who don't speak their first language. Even in Angeles City bars, girls are sometimes shy or even afraid of customers. In general service job roles, the local are very polite, patient, and extremely tolerant when dealing with irate complainers. They really have a sweet side to them. It's really very different from Thailand where the anger often just seethes below the surface. And yes, the really attractive guys may get lots of glances from girls here and there. But many of the good looking girls often still have bfs who are just average or worse and vice versa. Flirting does not equal dates does not equal intimacy. You may get one or more without the other(s).
- As for age, most couples you see about anywhere in the world are comprised of people of similar age. Tell me if you know any exceptions to this rule cus I have yet to witness or read about one. BUT, in some countries, high age gaps are a lot more achievable than in others. In Philippines, I do see the odd mismatched couple, much older guy with girl who is not only young but also cute to quite attractive. I've seen it with young Filipinas matched with local guys, Asian foreigners, middle eastern foreigners, and even white or black foreigners. Even more commonly, you will see a more 'native' looking young local girl with a very old white guy. The sense I get about Filipinas so far is that even if they are initially motivated for financial reasons to be with such a guy, they can develop genuine feelings for him over time. Many province girls seem very simple and easy to please. There focus is on the guy's attitude and how he treats her as a person. This contrasts sharply from the vibe I get in other areas where I've observed such age gap unions involving westerner guys and local women - Thailand, DR, Colombia, Brazil, etc.
- Personally, I have been able to genuinely attract women here who's mirror equivalents in USA would not have given me the time of day 10 years ago or more. Taiwan was my Happier Abroad watershed country and I am fluent in the language there. But now I believe I can do better here in Philippines if the components for comparison are the girls age, appearance, and genuine feelings for me. This belief is based on my long term experience living and traveling in all three countries.
- If you don't wanna invest any time, make any effort, or adapt yourself to special circumstances of a country AND you have no relevant edge AND you hope to get instant attention, dates, and/or sex from the local ladies then all I can tell you is that you are on the wrong planet!
The hotels in cebu are way cheaper than manila. I was actually living in a hotel cheaper long term in cebu than what you pay for your condo.
It's my personal observation, that it is incredibly easy for just about anyone to get with a cute Filipina (or multiple!) and that all it takes is for you to interact with people, talk to them and socialize. Starchild has it right.
