The type of girl you describe is one who works, makes her own money, travels around and likely had her fair share of (short-lived?) relationships. She's not that young anymore (21+) and not a virgin. Her family may have been either too liberal, or too strict, but whatever their conviction they were wealthy enough to provide her with the opportunity to study, work, travel and attain independence.Ghost wrote:I had been talking recently to a middle class Filipina working in Singapore. There were a lot of issues with her, such as her making more money, having traveled more than I have, and most importantly her past made her un-marriageable in my eyes.
The money thing alone bothered me a lot. She was decently attractive, and was really pining for me, but how I am ever supposed to accept a girl who has so much of her own money to do things like travel? She was also being picky by choosing me, because she wanted a particular type of white guy. I told her to be open-minded about finding an Asian man, but she refused to listen to that. (You're always somebody's alpha...just not in the West more than likely.)
If you wanted a friends-with-benefits type of thing I could see dating middle class, but otherwise there's too much "independence" there. It would be a nightmare for me for a real relationship.
Now lets assume you meet another girl from a middle class background, but she made the decision not to find work after her study. Her friends and some of her relatives think she's crazy for "giving up on her education", but in spite of her brains and considerable ambition, her dream for herself is to be a stay-at-home mother. She wants nothing more then to raise a family, be a wife and matriarch to a growing family. Her family is no less middle class, her intelligence is no less then your working girl, but this girl wants to take her life in a different direction. She expects you to bring home the bacon. Nannies, daycare and the hustle and stress of city life are not her ideal.
I would not marry a career-oriented woman in a million years. You probably dodged a bullet. The highest quality women are the ones who put their focus on family first. Building that sort of legacy is a far more stable, admirable and lasting investment. My wife is an amazing mother, in no small part because she is physically there. This allows her to bond with our children very well. It's a beautiful thing to see, really moving, how close she is with our daughter. A girl with nothing but dollar bills in her eyes will never understand.