hammanta wrote:Jeremy wrote:hammanta wrote:Jeremy wrote:Say I'm there for two and a half weeks. Can I expect to lay a new slender teen or 20-something with an a** everyday? Will girls be following me around the malls due to my look? Or will I be lucky to sleep with one non-pro during my trip?
A lot of Roosh forum members are saying you can't not get laid there as a youngish white guy. One poster claimed random girls from clubs were begging to have their pics taken with him, like he was a celebrity lol.
It really depends on your character. If you are shy, anti-social in your country, the philippines isn't gonna change that completely. If you are afraid to approach girls or don't know what to say or don't wanna internet date, then the philippines isn't gonna be great for you. Don't expect girls to simply bow down to you, start running up to you thinking you are their savior "oh F*** me white man with your giant D***." You will surely be surprised if you have that mind state. And sadly many foreigners do have this.
However, if you are friendly, not a douche, interested in the culture and open to the reality of the philippines, you won't have a problem slaying regular girls. Don't come in with the western mindset. Insulting girls doesn't work here. Being a douche doesn't work here. Being fun and interesting does. You will see Transsexuals everywhere; you will have gay men hit on you; you will see some crazy shit. But make sure you take it objectively and not let it ruin your fun. Dance, sing, be friendly and girls will notice. Being average looking is all you need.
I'm not a hound dog by any means. I'm relatively attractive 5'9", muscular (powerlifter), brown hair blue eyed 24 YO white boy. However, I'm not interested in racking up the number of lays. I much prefer to find that one girl I like and travel around and enjoy the time together. In my 3 trips totaling 2.5 months I've slept with only 5 pinays. But I'm at 100% with the girls I wanted to (3 of which were on the first night).
Most will say you can do so much better and I really can but its not my style. I simply can't fathom those guys who say they slept with 3-4 girls a day. I could never be that big of a douche to ask a girl up to my room after a meal at jollibees. Realistically if you tried you could sleep with a chick a day if you were good with the ladies. If not then a few a week maybe. That's only Manila though, a whole different story for province areas (being a lot harder to get laid, but very easy to meet women).
I only act shy in the west because of how American bitches have treated me over the years. It's like I'm committing some grievous offense by approaching them. Conversely, if I know a girl is likely to behave friendly toward me, I have no problem taking charge.
Like you (and most guys), I desire a romantic connection that goes beyond sex. At the same time, I'll probably "slut it up" a bit as well. Can't really blame me after being denied this basic need for 27 years.
Then you shouldn't have much of a problem there. It's just that so many men read stories on Roosh or NN and expect it to be the same for them. They expect it to be some "sex" paradise where women throw themselves at you and then they get there and realize it takes some effort and not every woman is in awe of your white skin. Don't allow sex to ruin your trip. You will have a terrible time if all you are worried about is trying to get laid every night. Set up some dates online before you come, read up on the culture and places to go, and perhaps try to find other travelers.
Trust me it's so much easier here than it is the west but don't let that over take you. Women are friendly and easy to chat up. Most have good morals and are at least somewhat attractive. Honestly the biggest high for me is the lack of competition. Like I said I'm not a tall guy and in most clubs in the U.S. I'm not even close to the best looking one in there but I have that celebrity feeling all the time in the Philippines. You do at times feel like a rockstar. Use that in a good way to boost your confidence but don't become egotistical as well.
I think you got the right attitude here.
Understand the uniqueness of the Philippines,doesn't get too egotistical and doesn't treat the girls like shit because we can have like a celebrity feeling.
Every time i went to Thailand(keep reading Phils will be better)it was a hard time to come back to France.
You get from a hight position to a quite low one.
You get from having easy interaction,easy smile from women,to women who are defensive,who are not smiling at all.
One of the correct way is to prepare in advance by internet.
In my opinion meeting some few girls,the connection is there so hopefully this will be a start to have more people knowing you.
In Thailand i got some time disapointed because in a way they can be cliquish in BKK.
I could meet some women after chatting but they wouldn't open anymore about their friends or life.
Some clearly told me it's because they don't want to mix friends and in some way keeps farangs and Thais separated.
It shouldn't be the case for the Phils as my comprehension goes.
Maybe having a buddy there,who knows the place or discovering together,will give some help.
My worst problem and still it's there to some extent,is to cope with the changing status you can get in SEA compared to what you have where you live now.
That can be quite difficult to handle.