droid wrote:cdnFA wrote:droid wrote:
Have you been out of your township?
Yes, I've lived in 3 places that at one time were in different countries, and among 2 languages.
Please clarify that
cdnFA wrote:
Also the people I get information from actually live overseas often for many years as do the people who comment on their comments.
An individual's observation doesn't mean shit. One can easily get one woman who spent a lot of time in Japan saying that sexism is a serious issue and another who says it isn't a problem at all. This is why my opinion which is based on more of a meta study, a collection of many views of those who were there, it is more value than a "I was there and I know everything" attitude.
Hell one can just look on HA. The f***ed up views some people have of their own countries is staggering and completely at odds with reality.
But yeah I get it, the views of those who have lived overseas even long than you don't matter, only yours matter.
Let me ask you this, why should I take the view of you and a few others over that of many other non HAers who have the same experiences as you do.
Considering this is a forum where/of
All girls date thugs with AK 47s
To get married will lead to your wife cheating on you this a black guy who will eventually rape you in prison, "this is marriage"
All marriage ends in divorce because "I've seen it" even though the stats don't bear that out.
Women only marry bad boys [err no]
To open a door for a woman is to guarantee scorn and abuse [never happened to me, never seen it happen although I am sure it does once in a blue moon]
Flat Earthers
Space Jews
White people going to Venus next.
The unibomber as a credible source.
Hitler was just a nice man picked on by that bad man Churchill.
Over and over people who have lived in Japan and China point out that they have a curiosity factor which is perfectly reasonable. If a Chinese person would walk around Pickle Lake or Hants Harbour they would get eyeballed pretty hard also. Duh.
Just because someone is looking at the oddball doesn't mean they want to f**k you. If I see some guy who towers over me I'm 6'2, I will look at him. I don't want to f**k him.
Just because some girls are giggling at the stupid foreigner who is getting soaked because he doesn't have an umbrella and lend him one of theirs doesn't mean they want to f**k you.
Also plenty of girls in the public service industry are nice to me. Actually pretty much all of them. That story above about the girl who runs a store with husband and father... if that is amazing to you, there is something wrong with you. I get treated with respect even though I am a big fat socially crippled slob when I conduct my business.
I take my opinions from many sources, as much as possible. Anything I get from HA, I take with a huge degree of scepticism.
The simple flaw with that is assuming those who are reporting from abroad don't have other sources as you do.
I only asked because the impression you give is that of a basement dweller that -precisely- tries to build this know-it-all stance with third hand information at best, if not just from that basement computer.
As far as the women attention part, it is obvious this whole thing is not just about getting your d*ck wet, don't be dishonest. Read Winston's introductory material.
I don't know why you're here if things are so dandy for you. I agree some guys go overboard with their paranoid mindset but doing HA hate just for sport doesn't do your fake balanced-view any favors either, it puts you right in the same wild raving category.
Your flaw can apply to anyone who lives overseas and speaks of their experiences.
I'll give you a real life example of how the researching basement dweller who collects observations is better than one person, aside from the above on how people so drastically get their own countries so off base.
Apparently according to one guy I know who taught in Thailand for 5 or 6 years and 1 year in Korea.
All Thailand schools are completely honest, they have never screwed over anyone because HE hasn't seen it.
No such thing as Thai wives using their husbands as ATM machines and never ever did a foreigner end up dead. Never happened.
Ditto for S Korean schools, all completely honest and deliver on contracts, the Canadian government has a warning about this but he was there, so he knows better than the Canadian government [cue in some comment about space jews here I guess]
The stuff he was telling me in person did not jive very well with standard opinions of others who were also over there.
One sees that a lot. There goes the theory that one those who lived over there have the right to speak because they don't agree and if 1 guy says Burmese have tails and everyone says they don't, I'll go with everyone else on that even those I've never met a Burmese. [Woman not cat, my example makes no sense if we are talking cats]
I don't think there is anything wrong with pointing out that when someone has an observation that there are others who hold very different views. However the whole, ohh she looked at me, she so horny...the idea of the guy who thinks every girl who remotely acknowledges him wants to f**k him, that isn't just an expat thing it's a guy thing, not every guy but still. For me to suggest that some people might be reading too much into a situation, you just need to be human for that.
Also the entire field of history is based on the idea that one can obtain information from second hand sources. If you have to have been there or STFU you might as well close down the whole field. Actually especially in the classics one is better off with following secondary sources rather than primary unless you are actually quite knowledgeable because the primary documents are pretty misleading and questionable at times.
So yeah basement dweller who uses many sources over one guy's opinion any time. What makes your voice so special over anyone else.
Also my approach is not so prone for observation bias. All I know is that among the under 30 crowd there isn't nearly as many fatties as some people suggest around here.
I remember when I was first looking into this, it seemed Japan was some sort of charisma man paradise where the women line up at the airport to f**k you. However I dug in a bit deeper and got information from others who *lived there also* and found a more nuanced view of the topic including some commentators *Who lived there* who actually approached the subject in a more thoughtful manner.
Things are not so dandy for me over here. That FA stands for forever alone. Last year my date count unpaid would be 0 and I am assuming my current situation will cluster f**k. I came here to gather more information. I found some information but there is just so much that deserves disgust here, stuff that ruins what could be a very useful forum.
I am not talking about our conversation BTW but I think you know this.
