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Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

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Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by jamesbond » December 26th, 2016, 10:27 pm

It's a fact that intelligent people have fewer friends, this video explains why.


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Re: Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by IraqVet2003 » December 28th, 2016, 5:17 am

jamesbond wrote:It's a fact that intelligent people have fewer friends, this video explains why.


Great post and video!!! I can certainly relate a lot to what it talked about.

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Post by Winston » September 2nd, 2018, 6:45 am

Why intelligent people are more lonely.



10 reasons intelligent people have fewer friends.



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Re: Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by Winston » September 2nd, 2018, 6:48 am

Here's why ironically, truly sociable people who are not afraid to talk to strangers or make eye contact with strangers, hate parties. You would think that people who are open and sociable would love parties right?

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Post by Contrarian Expatriate » September 2nd, 2018, 8:11 am

To be intelligent is to be a misanthrope because only then can the true nature of people be appreciated. To the misanthrope, ordinary people are a bore at best and a threat at worst. Finding the diamonds in the rough is a lifelong ordeal and takes the skills of only the most discerning.

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Post by Cornfed » September 2nd, 2018, 8:22 am

When you think about it, if you have a 130+ IQ then you are just as far removed from the snivelling multitudes as a person with Downs Syndrome, just in the other direction. We wouldn't blame downies for not relating to average organ banks on their level, so why should we blame intelligent people?

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Post by Winston » September 2nd, 2018, 8:54 am

The German philosopher Friederich NIetzsche had a great analogy in his books. He said that if a man attains too much wisdom, knowledge and intellect, and becomes awakened or enlightened, he will be like one who climbs a very high mountain. At the top the view may be magnificent, breathtaking and beautiful. But there will be very few people if any. So he will be lonely and feel alone.

Very true. That's a great analogy of what it's like to be too intelligent or intellectual.
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Re: Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by Will N. Dowd » September 4th, 2018, 10:40 pm

I have almost no friends so I must be a genius.

Seriously though, I do have very few friends though and even then I hardly ever see them. Do I really want any more though? Not really. Most people make a lot of stupid mistakes and as a result have a lot of problems. I've concluded I'm a high IQ introvert that shuns most people and things because they are simply stupid, and/or a waste of time.

I'm a deep thinker and question almost everything, and most things that people do and take for granted I often see as illogical.

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Re: Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by CodeHarder » September 4th, 2018, 10:43 pm

My brain is ten times bigger than other people's. It's like having ten times more friends *built in* so why should I seek out or require so many other brains or rather "friends" as much? My brain is the bestest friend ever and its never coming second, third, fourth, firth, tenth or further place.

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Re: Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by Zambales » December 7th, 2018, 3:29 pm

Why is it many give out detrimental names to those with only a few friends such as "loner" or "weirdo"?

Don't they realise that some of us have high standards when it comes to friendship? Anyway, I'm sure there was a study compiled not so long ago regarding the number of close friends the average person has over a lifetime and the figure wasn't high at all. Two or three.

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Re: Intelligent People Have Fewer Friends, Here's Why

Post by Neo » December 7th, 2018, 4:21 pm

Sometimes you realize your friend is not really your friend. Sometimes your "friend" is secretly jealous. Although he has lots of good things, he may not want to see you with something good, and may seek to lie to you to discourage you, or he may try to sabotage your efforts behind your back. I've been very disappointed by many people when I finally realized that they were just lying to me profusely for the sake of their egos or even to take me down.

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