MrMan wrote:In the old days, a woman staying home, taking care of children and helping her husband was socially acceptable and respected by society. Men were in charge in the home. Now women hear these voices telling them the husband shouldn't be in charge. The men do to. Women aren't happy if the men are in charge because they are brainwashed by feminism, but they aren't happy if the men aren't because of the way they are designed. That's my theory.
It's also socially acceptable to be unfaithful by up and leaving a decent husband. Women are told that there is some kind of emotional state of euphoria they can be in all the time by being in love, and if they don't find it, there are movies, talk shows, and other women telling them to go look for it.
Also, in the old days, women didn't have the economic support from work or through the courts to leave on a whim. Now, courts can actually incentivize divorce. If I made a contract with you to build some device for me and you didn't build it, I could sue you to make you do it or get money back from you. If a woman agrees to be faithful to your for life and renigs, not only do the courts not penalize her, they may actually reward her. A man has to marry a woman who is committed to marriage whose morals go a lot further than what is required by the law.
It's kind of like the sexual revolution. Though sex is pleasurable, living a wild sexual life doesn't ultimately lead men (or women) more satisfied. But there are voices and trends in society that promote the idea of being promiscuous, while the social consequences have been lessened. It's bad for society.
Unfortunately we are not going to go back to the old ways. And most families now need 2 incomes to survive. Also appliances and supermarkets, and a smaller number of kids, have largely removed much of the work of stay at home women.
All you can do is look for an old fashioned woman, or a woman who has tried this new feminist way, was not happy, and realises she is better off respecting and looking after a man.
It has to be a woman prepared to work at something, that won't run to the divorce court for a quick house and car, the minute she is not happy. This 'true love' is BS. It has to be someone you are happy with in the day to day life, with the same goals and values and standard of living, and who sees those things as goals to work for, not expectations.
I don't believe any promiscuous person is truly happy. You cannot find happiness in a person, never mind a bunch of people. Happiness comes from within. And if you are happy you can share it with one person, that's all. That already is commitment enough.
