From all you guys say, Phils really sounds like a special case. I don't know of any other country in Asia where the majority of mainstream women are attracted to father/grandfather figures. Sure, if you've got big money (the definition of big money varies according to country/city size/etc.) and it shows, there will be a lot of women who pretend to be attracted to you. Just understand, its your income and asset base that they truly value. If not, why are upper middle class and above Filipinas so difficult to attract for typical western expats in Phils? Why is it that your magical mature western charms don't work on them? Let's keep this real please.ladislav wrote:
And get this- usually the older you get the younger a lady you want. And in many countries in Asia that is the accepted way to do things. I was recently in Manila and I met a guy who was 62 and he was living with a 19 year old girl. Not one person said anything derogatory about that. An older man with a young lady will called " skillful, rich and smart" . In the Philippines a man's age does not matter. Never has. Especially if the guy is a foreigner or has some money/is established. Girls prefer someone like that to a bird-brain, irresponsible, flaky and weak AND poor 21 year old.
If you are worried about her looking like your granddaughter, well, consider getting yourself to look younger. I have had hair and teeth replacement, dress and act young and have no problems at 50- people think I am 30+ actually. But still the Philippines is full of bald headed, fat bellied men with more wrinkles than the biggest dune in Rub Al Khali parading proudly with a young Filipina. No one would give them a second look.
And keep this in mind. Say you are 50 and the girl is 20. When you are 60, she will be 30. When you are 70- she will be 40, and when you are 87, she will be 57. You will look roughly the same.
There was one guy in the Philippines, he was 78 and his wife was 28 and they had kids. This only evokes an endearing smirk of admiration from the locals.
A quality girl who truly loves you will stick with you even if you go bankrupt and she has to work full-time to help cover expenses. I've seen lots of relationships like that, but usually between partners with a modest age gap or less.
For older guys who wanna date very young girls, its totally doable in many parts of Asia. But please don't delude yourself into thinking that its anything more than a clear and often temporary trade - their youth and beauty for your financial resources. Sure, nothing is impossible. Perhaps you will eventually find a young beauty who truly falls in love with you, not the income and assets you bring into her life. But such a case is very exceptional based on my experience to date.
Final point, I agree with Lad that looking and acting younger than your age will definitely help. If you're 50 but truly appear to only be 35, you can probably generate the same attraction as a true 35 year old. And when the girl finds out your true age, she's much less likely to bail if she's from a poor country like Phils than if she's from the west or even developed Asia.
