i sent steve Hoca's video and he responded about his life philosphy. for those who don't know i somewhat described my situation in a previous thread.
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to protect my identity and my father's i will sensor out names with fake ones. but i would like some input from the men here.
here is the post i sent to my father by steve.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wPMtGziuYFE&NR=1[/youtube]
i essentially told my father that i felt steve was spor on correct.
and this is my father's response.
I really do not agree with what this guy is saying. To me he is off base with his analysis. Even his examples (training to run a marathon. etc) have absolutely nothing to do with the dating game. If you put Pretty Ricky's picture with his muscles on the web, dime honies from all over the world will holla back. And I could do the same if I showed my pictures from my last show. When my white friend Jimmy put the pictures from his first bodybuilding show on line, he got hundreds of hits from all types of honies that wanted to meet him. When I first met Jimmy he was a 23 year old virgin and a real nerd. He said only fat black girls would even talk to him. Jimmy had zero confidence in himself. Google Jimmy the bodybuilder to see someone that changed his life. When we went to a party after bodybuilding shows, cute girls would come over to Jimmy and he would ask me what to say to them. He was really afraid of women and danced like a chicken. I personally witnessed his change. Jimmy took the high road, and did not play the victim role. No pity party for Jimmy. He came from a stable middle class family (I met his mom, dad and brother) in New Jersey, was an outstanding high school athlete (swimming and track ) and number one in his economics class at Penn State. And in white world he is considered handsome. Yet, he still really struggled with girls because he was too immature and did not have a plan.
The guy in this video has some very deep problems, and is a very poor example to use as an indicator of the state of the dating game in America . This guy has adopted the victim role, and he will be this way for the rest of his life. I do not see you in this guy and if you see yourself in him this would concern me. Obviously, this guy has no plan to change his status. This guy is planning to fail, and you can be one of his constituents if you desire to. Being angry and mad because things have not gone your way at 60 years old may (or may not depending upon you efforts to improve your life) have validity. But to constantly seek out the negatives of life as a justification for your anger and to use that anger to rationalize your isolation from social opportunities when you are 28 years old will garner criticism in any forum.
Men mature physically and mentality at a significantly slower rate than women when they are young. Yes; the women’s lib movement has added an aggressive posture to the already early dominance women have over men. But then this dominance reverses (usually when men begin to acquire provider/protector status) and women become the aggressor and will go to any length to get a man. The vast majority of American men (and women) are not ready for the emotional aspect of having sex at a young age (teens and early 20’s). Do you think you were ready to have sex in high school? I know I was not. And the type of sex I had in college could have wrecked my life (and almost did) as it did to some of my college friends. I had something called sex in Korea with working girls. None of it made any sense to me until I was 27 years old.
You are intelligent enough to know you cannot just arrive in Germany to meet a nice girl at 32 years old with no history of social interaction with women and expect to meet a nice girl and be happy. That is a recipe for disaster. No one goes to the major leagues without sending some time in the minors. You must play the game to learn how the rules affect the player’s actions. If you are too angry or broken to play, then you will fail. There is absolutely no doubt about that. Women react in different ways to the same input depending upon the environment they were raised in. You are now in the process of acquiring the tools to make you a desirable mate (the provider/protector role), and this is universally understood by women. As women mature, looks and social status become less important than resources (a good job), stability and honesty. This is why the honies at Howard ask about your major; and you already know this. However, no woman wants a 32 year old man with high school social skills. The water can be cold and sometimes scorching hot, but you must get in the water and learn how to be mobile in it regardless of the temperature.
There are a lot of virgins (male and female) in America because we teach abstinence as a way of preventing STD’s and teen pregnancy. We do not teach our youth how to properly use contraception and demonize teen sex as morality corrupt. Do not forget the article about the wedding were the bride was proud to be a virgin. She felt her purity would be an important part of a successful marriage. The “Just Say No� slogan and campaign during the Regan years messed up a whole generation of white people. It was a total failure; just like the Bush abstinence program. Do not forget when most young men your age were trying to meet girls your mom and Mr. Robinson were trying get you to become a holy man; AKA no sex; just you, God and the Bible. You lost a lot of valuable street time during this phase of your life. This is when you started to become introverted.
The rest of the countries in the western world see teen sex and sex in general as a normal part of human interaction rather than a mistake or an error in judgment. In the rest of the western world men and women share in their sexual pleasure. In America a woman gives you sex in exchange for some type of commitment. The fundamental basis for sex in this country is distorted. And this creates a lot of distrust between the sexes. Women withhold sex because they do not want men to take advantage of them. Women withhold sex because they feel it is the only bargaining tool they have and it must be used to maximize an advantage in the relationship. And ultimately, the majority of American born and raised women do not really enjoy sex with men because the pleasure aspect of it becomes important only after they have use their sex to secure the tangible pieces (home, a man, kids etc) of their lives.
You need to get off the fence and start playing the game. You need some game experience before you go to Germany or anywhere else. They got unda cova ho’s in Germany too. And you need some skills to recognize them. Being a nice guy and a good person is not good enough. Bad things happen to good people all the time. And the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I know you understand these issues. So let’s move on. Sometimes you act like the freed slave after the Civil War that will stay and work on plantation for food because he is afraid to leave. Yes; you will get to eat everyday, but you will always be a slave.
You have been emancipated James, but you must chose to leave the plantation on you own. And if you chose to stay, you will have many friends people like the guy in this video. Moving to Germany only changes where the plantation is located. Your enslavement is mental (underdog mentality).