Winston wrote:Escape to Freedom,
Welcome! Wow I never expected a lady to have such experiences in the US. You are a rarity, or else one that we've experienced here.
How did you find this site? What part of NYC did you grow up in? I heard that NYC has something for everyone?
What about your looks? Have people told you that you needed to improve your appearance? Are you thin? I can't understand how a female can experience this. Have you ever approached any guys? If so, what were the results?
How come you never conformed to what others said?
Where would you like to escape to? What about Moldovia? Have you ever been there? I think you should try Europe. People are more authentic and intellectual there. And if you go to Italy, guys will hit on you all the time. I think you would have a lot of fun and refreshing social experiences.
Glad to see your post.
Winston, thanks for replying.
Now to answer your questions:
How did you find this site?
I found this site through a male friend who linked me to one of your lectures on YouTube. It was the one about how difficult it is to meet people and how you have to change your personality to fit in with "in crowd." I was very impressed with your observations. My friend and I have had similar experiences to yours to varying degrees. He's also considering moving abroad.
What part of NYC did you grow up in? I heard that NYC has something for everyone?
I grew up in Brooklyn. Yes, I know Brooklyn is considered "hip" these days, but I can't afford to live in those overpriced areas. Also, most of the residents in those areas are children of wealthy, liberal parents from leftist private colleges. They move here to become "artistes" or as I like to say, "slum it with the common folk" while Mommy and Daddy foot the bill as they try to "find themselves." I wouldn't be able to relate to them.
What about your looks? Have people told you that you needed to improve your appearance? Are you thin? I can't understand how a female can experience this. Have you ever approached any guys? If so, what were the results?
No one has commented negatively about my looks, at least not to my face. I'm not fat nor have I ever been fat. People generally say "I can't believe a pretty girl like you is single. You must be very picky." Not really. I don't meet enough men in the first place to be picky. I have generally worked in predominately female environments. If you think female friends are going to help out you another female, you can think again. I'm hear to tell you the sisterhood is one big facade. It's difficult to meet genuine friends of the same sex. Most of them are competitive and petty. You even see this behavior when you do volunteering in NY. Most of the time, it's a vanity project for people. It's not to help others, but to show off what amazing liberal "do-gooders" they are. The friends I've made that are genuine don't live in NY.
As for dating, one guy I thought might lead to something serious told me I didn't share his religious identity, so his parents would never approve, so I should consider converting to his religion. Another guy I happen to meet at work who liked me told me he couldn't consider anything serious because he had just been recently divorced and has a son to support. As you can see, you can end up single because of unfavorable circumstances very easily.
How come you never conformed to what others said?
I did try to conform for many years until I had an epiphany in grad school that it wasn't me that was the problem; it was them. The rampant leftist, liberal agenda I had to deal with on a continual basis made me realize that what I've been experiencing all these years was a
serious spiritual conflict . I realized the problem all along was that I was a conservative amongst crazy liberals.
Where would you like to escape to? What about Moldovia? Have you ever been there? I think you should try Europe. People are more authentic and intellectual there. And if you go to Italy, guys will hit on you all the time. I think you would have a lot of fun and refreshing social experiences.
I have been to Europe, specifically France, Italy, Germany and Moldovia. My experiences there were positive, but I didn't spend enough time there to get a good feel about whether or not those places were for me. I also need to move somewhere where my degrees and credentials are recognized and that would be other English-speaking countries such as NZ and AU. I am hoping this site will help me determine where I should go.
