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LOL good question. They coped by practicing Buddhism and letting go of attachments and expectations to outcomes. lol Also, they do not like feeling "pressure", but prefer peace of mind. They did push me to get good grades before, but when that didn't work, they just dropped it. I eventually realized that getting good grades made no difference in my life. After school, everyone realizes this, but they still keep the con on children for some reason.
Anyway, here is something interesting to share with you guys. During Chinese New Year, I talked to one of my cousin's sons. When I told him that Asian moms in the US are more strict and old-fashioned than in Asia because they are trying to preserve their culture, he gave me another explanation:
He said that the real reason is not because they are trying to preserve their culture, but because by moving to a Western country, they are expected to excel and have a better life and better standard of living. So they have to show achievements for it. That is why having their kids excel in school and becoming a doctor or engineer or something prestigious is so important and mandatory to them. That is why they are under so much pressure to get their kids to be the top achievers. Mainstream parents in Asia aren't under this kind of pressure, so they are more relaxed about it.
Does that make sense?
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