kristy wrote:
Hmm. I've bought drinks for guys. All I got was a "thanks", and then they'd go and pick up the large breasted blonde sitting to my right. lol
I honestly do not drink alcohol-at all. Zilch, nada. I have no problem with others drinking around me, but I don't do it.jackal wrote:Honey, if you bought me a drink, you'd have my full attention.
About your question, women have to be careful when they are buying drinks for guys. It can seem like you're assuming the dominant position and feminizing them--taking their balls away, figuratively speaking. It might be better to just smile at him with that interested twinkle in your eye, see he gives you an interested smile of surprised delight back, and, if he does, then ask him to buy you a drink. And when you're talking with him, act like you're interested in or impressed by what he tells you. This is the way to stroke the male ego (without getting your hands dirty).
I think the first drink you have with someone is the important one. If you chat and things go well, then you could buy your man a drink and it will seem like a nice gesture (unless you're going out with some ultra-traditional mafia dude), since the focus is on the conversation now.
As far as what you said, I really appreciate that. I was just using it as an example to show that even women can go through that as well. (Feminist side! aaahhhh! )
I won't feminize anyone or take their balls away. I prefer them to keep their balls, because I have no use for them. And even ultra traditional mafia dudes are cool. I guess it's all about just trying to see the personality first, and then maybe if it seems okay, maybe asking if doing something is alright, then it won't offend the other person. I dunno. I am still 500% clueless when it comes to the opposite sex. But again, I am very thankful for your advice.