Very nice observations! You are starting to understand that "Russian soul" that Americans have no clue about! I've seen similar concept in French people, also surprisingly very similar culture in many ways, but Russia and FSU have many differences and it is much deeper than Americans see it, even on this site there is basically one teaching: "be a man, you should use your woman, she should not use you". Well, for Russians/FSU this is viewed as a recipe for disaster. How can you build a relationship based on mistrust? It's not America anymore! There are genuine Russian girls that actually believe in love and dream about a caring guy, some state on their profile that they "DON'T want a rich man", but rather a guy who cares about them! Now, it could be a lot of BS, but American girls NEVER EVER write anything close to it!CheezeRaider wrote:I’ve visited several Russian state universities and witnessed many Asians men dating Russian women. I am here now, and talking to many honest quality good girls and I have no problem. I’m not interested in flirting or one night stand and they are offering their numbers, and wanting to introduce me to their girlfriends if the girls in question already have a boyfriend.
Since Winston wants to be an idiot again, the club ratio I was stating was to imply the girls were at the clubs alone, by themselves, because most of them did NOT have boyfriends. Not once have you ever admitted, perhaps you were doing something wrong or didn’t have the right attitude. You always blame others for your short coming.
Don’t misdirect the reader by questioning whether I’m Asian or not. This isn’t about you, the only one Winston whose sole experience in Russia as the mater expert. And neither is message writing for you. It’s for the other readers so they can benefit. As I said on the OP, I don’t wanna hear your excuses.
To the readers, I am here now. I didn’t come to Russia to sex monger, nor to find a wife, but to understand and to witness the truth about Russia. In SOCIAL LIFE, it truly is greener pasture here. Yes Russia has many problems, but if you want a healthy social life this place is it. There are cons here, such as its minus 37 C, and many of the infrastructures are 30 years in need of upgrade, but there are spots popping up all over the place with modern amenities. They are making slow progress because many of the people here are now learning about what real entrepreneur is. The economy here is nothing like the West. You’ll have to forget what you think you know of Russia and learn to understand why they do what they do with open mind. It’s a bit of the wild wild west feeling here, but it works for them. You’ll have to weigh the balance of pros and cons for yourself.
I am told by many local Russians the Moscow and SP isn’t Russia. So stay away from these cities. Go south or east, it’s there you’ll find the Russian soul thing Ladislav often talks about in his many writings. This brotherly feeling he often tries to explain, but seems to fall deft ears. I am beginning to understand what he means now. These people are not superficial. They say want they mean and don’t BS. They have no concept of PC from my observation.
I’ve been leap frogging from Hotels to Hostels, and I recommend skipping hotels unless the city in question doesn’t have a Hostels. Hotels are boring because your in a room by yourself, but at the hostels, you can meet interesting people.
Funny enough, in the Hostel I’m currently in there is a South Korean man who have been coming and going from all the FSU countries since 1997. Until just last night he was juggling 2 Russian girls, both 27 years old. He was sharing his experience with us at the hostels about the dates they just came from load. He was telling me race and age don’t mean shit mean shit to many of these girls. The preference they write are because they simply never thought much about it, But once you start to talk to them and speak to their soul, the open up. He said he actually took Russian language course in Russia many years ago, ( what I got out of it was, learn Russian and your dating pool will expand geometrically) What stood out most was that he also said Moscow and SP isn’t Russia and to avoid these cities.
Another guy at the hostels is Dutch from Holland, his been here for 3 months studying Russian martial arts. His study also lead him to learn the language and his been my guide at times. He is also juggling several women from Yekaterinburg. He also says the samething about Moscow and SP. But in his finding, his not getting laid either, he gets many dates, even tons of flirting. So let me paraphrase what information he shared with me and as I experiences little bit myself.
‘Good girls do not sleep around, they know finding a good guy is hard and giving out the putty lessens their value. They’ll flirt and date, but that’s it. Now if you are serious about the relationship, you have a strong chance of homerun, but you need to prove you’re serious. In addition, those foriengers who chose to stay are treated as a local boy in a good way.
But for foreigners like us, it’s extra hard. They know we’ll be leaving soon, so they won’t take us seriously. Good girls are looking for relationship, not a one night fling.’
Yes you can find sluts, but you’ll be P4P one way or another. If you’re looking for a wife, Russia is it. If you’re looking to monger, f***ing go to Thailand or visit Nevada, it’s cheaper in the long run.
As for me, I got lucky and made friends with quality girl in another city and as I keep moving west every so many days until my visa expires, they try to introduce me to their friends in the new city as my guide, if they have contacts. Even if they have boyfriends, they have tons of girlfriends who are single and I get introduced and get another guide in the city.
There is a difference in kissing ass and being respectful and being a gentlemen. If you behave as the later, they will open up to you.
I will leave this with you for now. I am here NOW in country. I’m here to speak the truth and to encourage you so you can go forth and discover the truth as I have. Or you can believe the individual who won’t even take responsibility for his son who he brought to this world. Complain about his life instead of doing something about it. Yet he would fear monger you into not doing something because he wasn’t successful. But I hope you’ll make up your own mind as a man should, as we were always meant to as a man. And go forth to live the life you make for yourself. You decide.
And one other thing, life in Russia isn’t so miserable that any girl would want to leave their family. Those days in Russia are over. You’ll find some, but GENERALLY, these good girls would rather find a local boy and stay here with her beloved family. Let’s be honest here, isn’t this the kind of girl you want to find? Girl who is family orientated. Thank about that. And as I mentioned earlier, you have to speak to her soul and winner her heart. If not you’ll end up with a GCG (green card girl). Don’t think with your dick gents. Use your head and heart!
And no Winston, I'm not drunk this time.
Part rambling and part Live from Russia, signing out for the night as I got a date to go))).
Great advice! Just buy a ticket and go. If not Russia, go to Kazakhstan, it should be very developed with many Asian-looking Russian-speaking girls.
I bet your life is now changed forever! People that had never left America change forever once they spend a few months in Russia. Whole new way of thinking and doing things opens up.