Capster78 wrote:I don't understand why people care so much about age. My wife is actually about 8 years older than I am and she is filipina. But because she takes such good care of herself, she looks much younger than I do.. And I work out 3-5 times a week..
What it really boils down to is if your personalities match and your compatible.. Age is not a factor and making it a factor puts you in line with what american chicks do to men.. how can you blame american chicks for being shallow, if your being shallow as well..
My wife is amazing, and I actually enjoy the extra maturity and life expirience she has over some of the younger women who are immature. However, if I had met an 18 year old girl that was mature... age would not cross my mind if we got along really well.
Also I think its better if men are realistic and stop playing with speculation.
Often men think a FSU woman around 21 isn't mature enough, if he's say 40. Why would this be the case? How many 20something in major cities where a majority of us live in the US think be ready for marriage by 21? They aren't! Especially the ones in school. If you're in college and don't screw up, you're out by 22. By then you're looking to get your first job.
A man's fear is that with obvious Anna Nicole-Smith and that old fart Texas Oil Man marriages believe most women are after what little they own. Again this is laughable and goes back to that article I posted that men who feel like this don't have much to loose to start with. If you think you've "made" it by owning a car, a home and having a well-paying job, can't you rebuild if for some reason you lost some of it? How come it doesn't upset you more when you loose your job because company profits are more important than the obligation a company has to a community?
I don't know what happen to her but I found a 18 year old Polish Girl who didn't care I was 41 or Black, but is convinced I am against her being too young for a serious relationship.
What these women want is stability to in order to have children. Listen its simple, if you see your friends getting married at a young age and then divorced (common in the FSU) and its usually along economics (no job) and maturity lines (heavy drinking) then wouldn't you be looking for something more stable? The Western Culture answer to this is to get an education so you can get a job, so you can be independent
of such behavior, get it? The answer elsewhere is to find an older stable man. Independence (for women) only gets you more money and maybe a bit more status, but haven't you noticed and this is why Western Women are actively trying change it have more status being married than being single?
There is a growing chorus out there that says Marriage in the traditional sense is outdated, but is it?
I again suggest people watch "Century of Self" which is free on the internet and runs about 5 hours but its worth it. For humanity to survive children need to be born, for societies to continue and traditions to be passed down, children need to be born. Now there two ways to do this, remove women from the equation and do it all in a lab and cloned tissue or preserve marriage and expand equality across the board.
I see it like this, not interested in kids at all, even their kids?
Get a woman 40+. I can assure you the sex is just as good or better than with a younger woman and even better if she takes care of herself.
I think men have watched too much p**n and its screwed up reality. 95% of woman under 30 are looking to be mothers at some point, so even if she says she's not interested in having children, the closer they come to the reality that they are coming to the end of their reproductive lives, many scramble around to find a decent, reasonable man to have a children with, this is universal in all cultures. Technology however has allowed women to pay anywhere from $30K-$40K to go to sperm banks and use IVF. That is out of the reach of a majority of woman however and most will opt for getting drink and allowing some man they have no intention of seeing again to get them pregnant.
If you want children and I would argue stability at home, marry a woman under 30. This allows you some wiggle room. This is especially needed for women making the transition into Western Culture. It takes roughly a year to get the language down enough, it takes another year to get familiar with your surroundings and driving and I personally think the last thing you need is pile motherhood on top of that.
If she's going to be home all day, alone, then having a baby makes sense and gives her something to do, you know what they say about idle hands...
Finally if you're not some overweight, balding guy, then having a somewhat younger wife will not look odd anyway. The average age difference I think in western culture is I think 9 years.