chanta76 wrote:Winston,
Since you have friends in Taiwan hit the clubs..try the bars. You mentioned you see lots of pretty girls in Taiwan walking by. Again...if there is allot of of pretty girls in Taiwan that means more fish in the sea to pick from.
I don't know about not approaching girls in Taiwan ..because I never been there BUT I been to South Korea. THose two countries maybe the same in social context. What I did was approach Korean girls in the streets and I met other Korean guys who were into it too. Was it easy? No ....but we did get dates and met girls. It help to speak some Korean but some also ENglish but it also help to dress and look nice.
You see you mentioned a social construct in that in Taiwan you not allowed to talk to people randomly....but social construct are meant to be bend or broken ...again it doesn't hurt to approach or cold approach girls in the streets. Most guys just don't know how to approach correctly and yes you still deal with rejection and lots of guys ego can not take it and therefore blame the women or society etc....
Typical East Asian girls tend to be cold and sometimes social retarded when you first approach them...it's like you have to plow through all that until see feels comfortable. Once you got comfort...and she opens up ..East Asian girls make very girl friends and it's hard to get rid of them....
I hate to say this but you mention about the Philippines...with the Philippines it's allot of social economic condition and that's part of the reason why it's easy to get the lower class girls but I remember reading your post that you had a harder time getting the middle class girl....hmm....
No offense man but it's like you having a hard time getting quality girls...I mean high quality girls. I mean I never met you in real life. There is internet persona vs the real life persona.
Since your Taiwanese American....you can use that to your advantage. One you can emphasize your American part to just randomly cold approach girls...if Taiwanese girls think your acting weird..Well your an American and this is what they do back home. With your Taiwanese part you can have access to the Taiwanese girls that prefer Taiwanese men.
It's kind of like me. I'm Korean American....I have access to Korean girls that only prefer Korean guys but also because I grew up in America I'm different enough that I can attract the more liberal Korean girls that would maybe go after western guys.
So I don't know why you keep thinking Taiwan is so hard. I mean I don't think Taiwan is any better than Korea....in a social context.
I think it's your game....
I don't think that if Winston use all his social and mental skills to find a way to cold approach random girl in the street or at any other places,he will have any kind of success.
Let's get real here..what Winston is living is what some guys are living too,be it in the US or any type of countries where females males interaction are not fluid.
I know quit well i think how mainstream Chinese or East Asian type woman like and expect to be.
I've spend a lot of time chatting with ladies from SK and Taiwan especially.
I know a lot of French Chinese man too and spoke with them.
For sure some of the East Asian ladies are more open with western man,let's say white man,but their culture make them to be quit closed and being on the defensive side.
They are not obnoxious,arrogant vulgar type like in the US but they have this feeling to be princesses who deserve a lot from males.
What surprised me was how immature,how shallow most of my SK chatting girl where.
They where most of them in their 20's and none of them had boyfriend,or had any kind of experience with males.
It's so repressed their that it's quit forbidden to kiss on the street and beside graduating from school working like a slave,nothing count.
The competition is hard,the pressure enormous..no place for easy sex,for fun and relaxing.
The Taiwanese ladies whom i chatted with seemed to me more open but still where quit traditional.
One of them was quit ready to receive me in her home but said that her parents would not accept but if it was from her,she would do it.
It was weird because i just knew her for some few days..maybe she was special.
I'm pretty sure than a handsome white dude,with high social skills and a good bank account can score correctly in Taiwan but not by doing the cold approach style.
Still he would have to meet woman in orientated places and have a good social circle to be introduced there.
I'm just wondering what happen if a quit pretty Taiwanese female hit the clubs,the bars or some kind of venues like that,how she will score coming alone and being by herself?
That wouldn't surprise me that she would not stay alone a lot of time and find a way to make new friends or have sex easily.
If it's Winston or any regular guy(even the handsome one to some degree) do the same thing..hitting alone discos,clubs,bars and so on..i'm pretty certain that no woman will approach them and that he will stay by himself all night.
That's a classical situation experienced in most of countries here..if a male come alone to place where people are in group,he will be seen as a creep,a weirdo especially if he tries to enter the group or flirt with woman.
Winston can say what he wants about his qualities but that won't change anything in how he is seen in the street of Taiwan.
Not to be rude,but his look is totally not in his favor their for sure.
He would be ranked quit lowly in this department so that another big hurdle to overcome.
Still i think,as he said previously that when he was skinnier and prettier,it doesn't change things decisively and i believe him because no matter how the guy is handsome,females are females,they don't react as males and they need to be secured in their environment to give some positive signals.
The handsome dude would get better chance in a disco being with a circle of friends and behaving like a gentlemen and Winston look a like will have a lot more trouble to get what he wants.
Also if Winston is specifically interested only by the super gorgeous ladies,it's a doomed situation to begin with.
I just understand that he's having a hard time in Taiwan,that no woman look at him,that he is considered unattractive and that won't change.
The only answer is an individual one because i don't think that he will find a way to change this in Taiwan.
When Winston is hardly perturbed by the sight of a hot babe in Taiwan,this woman don't even see Winston..Winston doesn't even exist for her and she has no feeling when she see him walking in the street.
She feels nothing,niet,zilch,not even a slight perturbation in her brain.
In my opinion,there is just the happier abroad option(and that's another story too because nothing is done easily)or stay in Taiwan and live a zero sexual life (besides prostitute) or retreat to a temple and becoming a monk or taking medication to block all sexual urge transforming himself into a zombie.
