Ok tell me this then:celery2010 wrote:Winston, you're in east asia, you wouldn't approach random people in the street without an angle. It's the same in NYC, London, Japan, Korea and China. People would think that you're trying to sell them something.
You need to find a situation that is a logical opener, like asking for help, asking for an opinion, etc. Or someone already in a store/cafe, bar or a more isolated situation, like late at night in Ximending, or in a smaller city.
More realistically, you need to meet people the way most people do, by activities, through friends, through work, while traveling, etc.
2 questions/tips:
1. Do you speak Mandarin well? This makes a BIG difference. And how well do you integrate into Asian culture? It doesn't seem like your personality meshs well with asian culture.
2. Find a way to meet/get introduced to women. The easiest way to do this honestly is to teach English. You'll have tons of students, co-teachers, etc. And it will be easy to meet them.
3. Have you tried meeting other Taiwanese-Americans? They may know other people and get you more socially integrated. You don't sound very active or social in Taiwan. Try other methods of meeting more people besides dating sites.
I also prepared a post that i was going to add to your dress/style thread, but i'll add it here for you benefit too.
Suppose I walk into a Starbucks or coffee shop and there are cute Taiwanese girls sitting there. What could I say to start up a conversation? You tell me, and I will test it and even film it with my spy cam pen.
You gotta understand that these girls have a cold, cold, repressed body language, which is common in East Asia, and does NOT feel comfortable in cold approaching.
Why didn't I feel this cold wall in Russia or Eastern Europe? Can you explain?
I am not imagining this cold wall. It is real and everywhere in Taiwan around girls.
I've met many girls in Taiwan through the normal ways. But all they do is friend me on facebook. They hardly ever write me back or make time to go out with me. What can I do about that?
I don't know any Taiwanese Americans here that are nice or open. They are pretty stuck up and snobby too.
Yes I speak some Mandarin, but if you don't have any novelty appeal, a Taiwanese girl isn't want to talk to you. You gotta set yourself apart somehow.
Of course my personality doesn't mesh well in East Asia. Do you know any nonconformist person who fits into Taiwanese culture? lol If I did fit into Taiwan, I don't think my fans here would have liked me. I would have turned out very uninteresting. I'm sure you know what I mean.
I've known many years ago that I didn't fit in Taiwan. Taiwan's vibe is very innocent, goody two shoes, and repressed. I can't be myself here at all. That's why I never came here to settle. I only came here to pass through, but have wasted too much time.
When nonconformists and conformists try to socialize, there is this wedge between them. Even if they are both polite, it is apparent that they are on different wavelengths. After a while, both parties feel like there is no chemistry. Have you experienced this? Has anyone else experienced this?
