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Fellas, it's been a while since I'd posted. In particular, I was getting a bit bored of all the troll/flame wars about pretty much nothing.
What I noticed that's change, since I'd taken a short break, is that my opinion on dating/relationships have completely solidified. In general, right now, I have zero interest in women, foreign or American. I notice that frequent posterers here, still have that pining for someone *special*, that 'Little House on the Prairie' gal but from another continent. Well .. for those guys, good luck, but my sense is that your chances will dwindle in the decades ahead, as the world gets hooked, via Hand held tablets and media on-demand. I don't see this trend slowing down anytime soon. It's what some call the Digital Frontier and now, it's no longer an American thing but a global malaise.
Seeing escorts on a scheduled basis (Quebec is my nearest Canadian outlet), has really liberated my psyche from the nonsense of this idea ... that men need women. In reality, it's basically not true. Since my last relationship with a Brazilian woman had ended, I've been pretty much, boycotted all relationships. And now, it's normal; I see no reason to have someone *special* in my life. I like to work, take classes, do my hobbies, and periodically boink. And once the aforementioned are carried out, then life is good.
Good to see you back S Parc. I'm glad you're happy with your life and not so obsessed with having a relationship with women. You're also lucky to live in Canada where prostitution is legal for the most part, unlike in the United States. Anyway, Repatriate and NorthAmericanGuy have left the forum, and Have2Fly has not posted at all since he moved to Eastern Europe. I miss many of the old time posters that used to frequent the forum, but Winston has a habit of driving away many old members unfortunately. :p
Well, I'm actually in Boston MA (on the NE USA corner of darkness), so it's still a 5+ hr road trip for some Quebecoise R&R but not a big deal really.
Yeah, I agree with the old timers not finding this place inviting anymore. It's really too bad because for the most part, we do have a type of subculture 'society' here, meaning one of normal (make that sane) people, not hysterical bi-polar drama kings.
Your on the wrong forum, try this one - www.internationalsexguide.info
Then you can talk about banging random chicks for free and for pay as much as you want with ton of like minded people.
Its pre-occupation with feminism that has driven some away and the racism that wasn't benign as many thought it would be at first.
Yes, I'd mentioned the above in PM to other old timers. I didn't want to re-attract the flies to the honey by making a thread about it.
As for WSG, yeah I know all about it. My angle was more on the psychology of *belonging* and how that renders men into pining for AWs, while local, and then, chasing FWs like wild rabbits, when out of town/country. It's a type of addictive pattern where the only end result is some fleeting sense of approval from others.
That's where I've called BS and have decided that in the end, a man, especially in modern times, needs to stand alone. The b*tches may have the reigns of society but they don't own any particular person's soul.
I haven't chatted to my Chinese woman for a couple of weeks now. I'm beginning to see that it might really be true that the happiest folk on the planet are single men and married women.
Instead of chatting to women and generally feeling miserable I'm back to acquiring wealth and generally feeling quite alpha.
On the other hand I got a smile off a VERY hot Chinese girl at work today. When an Asian girl dresses to impress, she's in a different league to any Western woman you've ever seen . Long hair, boots, plaid skirt and milky white legs. Oh, I can see this ship sinking again...
I quit my boring cubicle slave job and now I'm Happier Abroad...
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You two are totally where I'm at. S_Parc is wise to go to Canada. Here in So. Cal. there is always the TJ option. And then the Chinese women. I love them, too. I might go for a single mother who cooks and is really charming. Her friend, also my friend, is super ambitious and practical. I can never buy these two lunch. They always insist on paying. They look nice and dress nice. One thing is that they argue in front of me in Chinese. I have to calm them down and then wonder what they would be like alone with them. Maybe their cuteness is an act. Proceed with care! Getting busted for p4p in the US would suck big time.
I agree that with the globalization and dating sites all around the world,women are having the upper hand obviously.
I've remarked myself how the situation is degrading regarding Thai ladies, so the general trend as being overly picky or not replying is coming there too.
The same guys who are flocking desesperatly trying to find their souls abroad,are ruining the scene as some of them throw insane amount of money and transform these ladies in prima queen wanabee.
The chances will dwindles for sure in the next decades but we are not still in the next decades.
Even in remotes places around the world,a regular young women can find a sucker, having the p***y on her side playing on in internet.
I wouldn't look for somebody who is special in my set of value,just a person who doesn't have the common defects of our females at home will be a good catch.
Here's the thing, if you have a sliver of doubt ... go with it. Never give any woman the benefit of the doubt. This is where your male intuition is rock solid. I already know of a Chinese woman, soon to be a USA citizen, who'll dump her man for me, because she sees me as 'alpha' and him, a *pushover*. I have no interest in her because her p***y-whipped man could be a business liaison in the future and thus, keeping him on my good side is good for business, whereas having some *roll in the hay* isn't worth the maelstrom (and lost financial opportunities) which would follow.
Here's it's either Nevada ranches or zippo. Really, don't play games with Uncle Sam. And you'd be amazed at how few New England men even know that Quebec is a great place for that sort of activity. It's not just Crepes and Jazz festivals
That's about the most realistic perspective one can have on these matters.
And I agree, P4P in the US is absolutely way too risky. I used to frequent this Asian massage place (ie a rub and tug) near my apartment once in a while until a similar place got shut down in another part of the city. The newspaper articles published the names, addresses, and mug shots of the guys that were at the parlor during the bust!!!! Absolutely ridiculous.
I plan to keep all sexual activity relegated to 2 trips to South/Central America per year. It's just not worth paying/trying to hook up with women here!
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You nailed it!
Mongers went into FSU after the wall came down and promised the ladies the world in order to get into their pants. In the collapse of the Soviet Union, the economic pain was wide spread and deep. Women looking for a way out used the ONLY THING OF VALUE THEY OWN.
I don't know why more men don't have this basic understanding, give women too much credit and then complain when things don't work out.
Not to be mean but this is it -
Women have value in any SOCIETY for being the barer of children. Women have value in any SOCIETY because the biological symbiotic relationship between heterosexual men and women.
That is IT!
This is why men date BROKE women. Ukraine, Thailand, Argentina are developing countries where the median income is less than what YOU can get on Unemployment! I make almost as much as they make donating Plasma, you are using your higher economic position to date these women, you accept it, they accept it, it works.
This is why dating Middle/Upper Class Women doesn't come up as much in FSU as it does in say SEA. This is because even in Ukraine/Russia there is no financial barrier to higher education. The poorest and the richest go to the same schools, meaning they (The rich) only were lucky to be born to a family with resources. The poor girl will get the same quality education and be just as curious and informed as the rich girl would be.
I fully understand why Western Men get burned out on poor SEA women, you have very little in common because their economic situation keeps them from experiencing things we take for granted in the West.
Which is quite funny about the debate over Upper Class women in Manila or something. Even a so-called famous person in Phip World is nobody outside of that world, so why should you care? In LA dating B, C and D list celebs is no drama at all, if you are where they are, why not take a shot at them?
Then I remember who goes down there....
American men, at least when I was a kid, were brainwashed, by the likes of armchair feminists, like my sister, that women were unique and special. My whole life, I'd been hearing these glowing reviews of Gertrude Stein, Susan B Anthony, Marie Curie, Mary Tyler Moore, and Deborah Harry. And thus, I assumed that my female classmates and my sister would one day grow up to be significant persons in society. Instead, it turned out to be the opposite. they became loud mouth imbeciles, and my illusions were vanquished in my twenties. I guess many men hold onto fantasies their whole lives.
This public humiliation goes on, in every city in the country. The Boston police have also been known to confiscate the vehicles of men, who've seen pros cityside, as if the 60 annual homicides didn't provide 'em with enough work already
Which is why I avoid any dealings in Los Angeles, not even lot lizards when I drove trucks, talk about low rank women, yikes.
AMP's are overrated IMHO, go down to Brazil and go to a Clinica like Kin or Francebel (http://www.francebel.com.br/) and you'll never go near another AMP unless you have a thing for FOB Asian women.
I really hope my plan works out (talked about elsewhere on this forum) but if it doesn't... I will be making a trip down to Brazil AND Argentina. When I get back I won't desire sex for awhile I would have it sucked and f***ed out of me... After trips to three FFK's in Germany and doing the Ukrainian chick I was sort of done with casual sex for awhile.
You see websites like "Backpage. com" offering p4p. Why are these so available when it's against the law. It seems like it gives law enforcement unlimited work. Why not shut down web sites?Perhaps this is getting too far off this forum's topic. Is this "incall" becoming tolerated?