Although I know nothing about Winston's quarrel with this strange character, I have to say regarding this "amnesia" that I have never had to repeat myself 17 times to someone who simply refuses to listen to reason on the scenarios where IMBRA is unfair, but rather acts like a zombie and keeps coming and coming and coming.
I mean...is this Stefan's lover? Why the f**k does Chemist care so much about this guy Stefan when Stefan can very well come talk with Winston himself.
OK. I just saw that website...and I can understand that, if there is some kind of feud going on between Winston and Stefan...then there is obviously some good ammunition that Stefan has.
But that would mean that Chemist is either Stefan or his lover.
I did not know from initially looking at HappierAbroad about this prostitution angle nor about this business of releasing pornographic photos of oneself (the biggest crime being the poor quality of those photos).
The anti-IMBRA cause does not want to be linked with promotion of that kind of stuff (although stopping feminist laws against men seeing whores and evangelist laws against porn are valid men's rights issues).
Everyone I know who opposes IMBRA would never promote the idea that a man see a prostitute.
But no heterosexual male with a life would bother to produce an entire website dedicated to condemning another man for having that attitude either. Are Chemist/Stefan religious freaks?
And where I would agree that the prostitution and porn and abortion criticism's leveled against Winston would be valid criticisms if made by someone who doesn't obsess about it all and doesn't think new laws need to be enacted (against the first two anyway)...I don't see at all why this Chemist/Stefan combo saw any problem with a man shacking up with an 18 year old.
Most real men would say that that is not just legal but recommended.
Anyway, since I started talking about the separate issue of IMBRA, an issue that has nothing to do with prostitution and porn, something good has come out of it.
Chemist actually helped the anti-IMBRA cause a lot because it got me started again on the subject and I was able to write to some important people in Washington in the past few days and I got an interesting response from someone in the US Justice Department that shows there is concern for men's rights.
I don't waste my time.
I am normally far too busy to work on this.
If I were available full-time like Grunt, I would ask Men's Rights advocates to raise $20,000 for me to work 4 months on this sort of thing.
Who here can work full-time for men's rights for money?
There can be some reasonable cash involved.
Anyway, here is some text from the draft of another article I will publish this week. Chemist gave me the inspiration to write it:
Simply put, the US Constitution says that all police matters such as domestic violence are to be left to the states. While the entire IMBRA law + VAWA and all federal financing for feminist organizations are anathema to anyone who fought for the US Constitution in the US military, many men including myself would bury the hatchet with the feminists and let them continue to collect their illegal federal grants if they helped remove the most atrocious part of IMBRA.
I wouldn’t mind if a dating website did a sex offender check on me and other customers in order for me to be able to meet women on their site.
There would be a one-time delay to be accepted as a good guy…kind of like waiting to be carded at the door of a bar.
What I do mind is the clause that forces foreign women to “sign in writing� that they read a man’s background BEFORE communication can begin. This would be like a bartender forcing every man in the bar to refrain from speaking with anyone woman present until after the woman reads and signs a lot of inappropriate personal history.
But even that isn’t the real problem. If I could start to say hello to a woman in a bar while the bartender passed her my background, we would still be talking and she could glance down at the document at any time and decide if she wants to continue talking.
Frankly, it wouldn’t matter if the document that a woman has to sign just states what the man’s favorite color is: the logistical nightmare of getting each woman to sign will lead to serious violations of the Right to Assemble as I will now show via three realistic scenarios A and B and C:
A)
1) I am in Moscow on a Saturday morning with a flight back to Boston the next day. Someone I had flown to meet that week turned out not to be the love of my life.
2) Because it is 20 below Celsius outside, I go online and find someone else in Moscow and write to her. This woman had given her phone number to the agency with the hope that this information would be given out to American men. But the online agency cannot give me her phone number or forward an email from me until after the woman reads her email.
3) If the woman has no email (dating sites have left their profiles up) the woman will never see an IMBRA notification to approve and the man will never get her phone number.
4) If the woman will only read her email when she gets to work on Monday, she will approve of contact but the man will be home in Boston, possibly forever
5) In Russian culture, unlike US culture, the woman probably would have met the man Saturday night if she had become aware of his interest Saturday morning.
6) Remember that it was her wish that her phone number be broadcast to anyone who might be interested.
7) Thus the logistics of the “written approval clause� has violated the US Right to Assemble as well as the UN Charter of Human Rights.
B)
1) I am in Moscow and popped into a dating agency on a Friday evening at 4:30PM after business meetings took most of the working day. I plan to fly home to Boston on Sunday.
2) Someone wonderful catches my eye and the agency employees immediately phone her and tell her VERBALLY that my IMBRA check was fine. She wants to meet me.
3) The employees tell the woman that she must rush to the agency by 5PM close of business to sign the affidavit that she read the IMBRA check.
4) The woman says she cannot make it by 5PM but could meet me at 6PM at the Pushkin Café (Moscow’s best meeting place).
5) The agency either tells us both that the meeting will NOT take place because of IMBRA or the agency fudges and lets the two of us meet. Obviously, the employees will have better things to do than show up at the Pushkin Café at 6PM with the documents to sign.
6) Alternatively the woman rushes to the agency but arrives only at 5:15PM when the employees are gone…but the American man is waiting outside the locked office doors to meet her and they both happily go on their date.
C)
1) I have plenty of time to spend in Moscow when an agency makes an appointment for 9AM the next morning for a woman to sign IMBRA documents and meet me.
2) The agency employee is late coming to work the next day, however, and the woman and I had arrived on-time and started talking outside the locked agency doors.
3) As the woman and I leave the building to start a nice date, the agency employee sees us and screams “You are not allowed to talk with each other yet!�
4) The woman and I laugh as we keep going on our way. What is the employee going to do, call the Moscow police and say we violated a US law?
5) Here IMBRA has violated my rights because the agency might have to hate me for making them liable for whatever happens to our friendship.
You can see how the above scenarios, seldom discussed even on ODR, outline the circumstances under which many agencies do NOT comply with IMBRA because it would be simply too ridiculous to do so. In B and C, the woman’s expressed desire to be with someone particular is blocked or attempted to be blocked by the US Nanny State. In A, the woman’s previously stated desire for her information to be given out is blocked and, after she corresponds with the man who is home in Boston, she can be very angry that her wish had not been granted on Saturday when the man was still in her home city.
They bring to mind the book “1984� where the government actively hampered interpersonal relationships. The climax of that book was when something the protagonist Winston said in private was “disclosed� to his girlfriend Julia and their relationship destroyed. That book was written anonymously, by the way. Few know that Eric Blair wrote it because his fake screen-name was “George Orwell.�
The Attorney General and the feminist organization TJC can stop the impending challenge and bury the hatchet if they simply note that the signature clause must be modified to adjust for the fact that people are not always online where they can click on a webmail button that qualifies as an IMBRA signature. Many of the best Russian women have no Internet connection and the Internet cafes are going out of business because the young male gamers DO now have home connections. You cannot ban the old technology of phoning and snail mail. The best compromise is that women who want phone calls and snail mail also get a call or snail mail from the agency, at the earliest possible date, with the results of the background check.
1) Verbal “signatures� must be allowed (recorded if need be).
2) Pre-signed IMBRA waivers must be allowed for women to sign who want to be called by a man on a Saturday when agencies are not staffed
The provision of the background checks must not slow down communication that otherwise would have occurred with no law.
Meanwhile, the rules of Internet anonymity, upheld in the CDA decision, must still apply…meaning that the men and women are really only giving their real name and backgrounds based on the honor system. IMBRA, curiously, respects this…which shows the real intent of the law was different from its stated intent. Because real criminals can use fake names, IMBRA only hurts the innocent by harassing them in scenarios like the 3 described above. If harassment was not the purpose of the law, authorities must respond favorably regarding verbal signatures and pre-signed waivers.
Otherwise, we can get the courts to scrap the entire law plus the continuation of federal funding for the organizations that got it enacted.
Please read
http://www.onlinedatingrights.comPlaintiffs needed to fight IMBRA and VAWA which legally codify foreign women as little children unable to defend themselves against evil American men
