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This isn't your ordinary Chemistry class.
Chemistry in a relationship isn’t necessarily going to be the same as chemistry in the scientific world. Chemistry in relationships can’t necessarily be quantified. They can’t be measured with tools or numbers. Chemistry in a relationship can’t be conjured up in a lab. But it’s a different sensation entirely.
The chemistry you feel in a relationship is the kind that gives you some kind of emotional high – where being around one another just manages to lift you off the ground and take you up to the heavens. There is chemistry between you and your partner whenever you start to feel that attraction within you. You don’t necessarily see it with your eyes. Nor can you taste it with your tongue. But it’s a feeling that just transcends the body’s traditional senses. You feel chemistry with a person whenever your heartrate starts to quicken and your body starts to warm.
A lot of people are going to be misled into thinking that all it takes for a relationship to work is love. That’s a load of baloney. All around the world, millions of couples who are in love are still prone to breaking up. Because the truth is that love alone is never enough to sustain a relationship. Love alone can’t solve all of a relationship’s problems. Love alone will not be enough reason for two people to stay together forever. There are many factors that go into determining the longevity of a relationship, and love only plays one part of it.
One of the most important factors – and one that is often overlooked – in determining the success of a relationship is compatibility. Compatibility is the ability of two people to merge two separate lives into a single entity without minimal resistance. And a lot of what makes two people compatible with one another is chemistry. Sure, you could be in love with someone. But if you’re just incompatible and if you fail to have chemistry, you are bound to give in to the dysfunction of your relationship. Your love will not be enough to save you from the toxicity that stems from your incompatibility.
So that’s why along with making sure that you’re really in love with one another, you also have to ensure that you have a relationship with great chemistry. And how do you do that? Well, you just have to continually work on building a connection with one another every day. But you have to know that sometimes, not even your greatest efforts will be enough.
So how do you know if you and your partner are actually compatible with each other? How do you know if you actually have chemistry? Well, here are a few signs that you can take note of.
1. You both feel like you’re alone together even when you’re in a crowded room.
Even when you’re in a crowded room or in a public place together, the both of you can still feel like you’re in an intimate and private setting. You still feel like you are both alone and that you can be completely yourselves because you have each other.
2. You share common interests and passions.
You won’t have difficulty finding common ground with regards to your interests because you are passionate about the same things.
3. You have an unfounded mutual respect for one another.
Respect is just plain essential in strong relationships. This needs no further explanation, really.
4. You are always comfortable with being honest with each other – even when it’s inconvenient.
You both know that you have a strong and deep emotional connection with each other when you feel comfortable just telling one another the truth at all times. You would feel more uncomfortable with lying to one another.
5. You both place each other on equal footing.
No one is above or below in the relationship. You see each other as equals; like true partners.
6. Time seems to fly by whenever you spend time together.
You lose track of time whenever you’re together. You have so much fun that time just almost ceases to exist.
7. Neither of you are withholding of physical intimacy.
You don’t mind coming off as clingy or needy with your partner when it comes to physical intimacy. You know that both of you are always going to welcome the other with open arms.
8. You both share a similar sense of humor.
You laugh at the same jokes. And the best part of having a similar sense of humor is that you make each other laugh as well.
9. You can be comfortable spending time with each other in total silence.
Quality time for the two of you doesn’t always have to be exciting. Even just sitting in silence alongside each other is enough for you two.
10. You never run out of ways to have fun with each other.
Regardless of what you’re doing or where you’re going, you always know how to have fun as long as you’re with each other. You find great joy and happiness in just being with one another. You are both so happy with whatever time you get to spend together.
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Westerners tend to emphasize how important it is for couples to have equality, common interests, and being on an equal footing with each other.
This isn't true in many non-Western countries though, especially most of Asia and Africa. They often view men and women as having distinct, separate roles. And sometimes opposites can attract.