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Discuss culture, living, traveling, relocating, dating or anything related to the Asian countries - China, The Philippines, Thailand, etc.
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The video opens to "it's estimated that one in five men wont' be able to find a bride". It roughly means 80 women to 100 men. It doesn't mean "1 female to every 5 males".
However since only a smaller % of women are considered most attractive, you have multiple men chasing after the same attractive women. Also, for men unable to find a bride locally, some resort to spending 20,000 RMB ($3,200 USD) to import one from Vietnam or elsewhere, which contributes to gender imbalance in rural Vietnam.
With relaxed population control policies and modernization, the gender imbalance has been decreasing.
http://www.scmp.com/news/china/policies ... orlds-most
"On the mainland, a traditional preference for boys has encouraged selective abortions that resulted in 115 boys born for every 100 girls from 1994.
It peaked nationally in 2004 with 121.2 boys born for every 100 girls, and some provinces have seen the ratio climb as high as 130. But the figure has been falling for the last seven years and stood at 113.5 last year."
If you want to play the numbers and ratios, ditch places like incel boards. For younger guys (or at least younger looking or be able to fit in) try college classes like arts, music and dance. When I was in college I didn't know how to dance, so I took modern dance & ballad dance class. It was like 30 girls to 3 guys and I got a girlfriend out of it.
I don't have a talent for dance, but the beginner classes aren't that hard (unless if you're completely out of shape, in which case you need to work on that first). For more recent example see 1 million dance studio videos and look for beginner class performances:
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_ ... e+beginner
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_ ... e+tutorial
You don't need to be as good as Lia Kim. It's a healthy hobby and much easier to be chatty with girls in class than trying to yell over the loud music at clubs.
At KCON which is held annually in NY and LA, they have dance workshops and random dance games where everyone who is a fan can join in. They don't care if you're Asian, Mexican, White, Black, fat, skinny, skilled, total beginner, whatever. Everyone is there to have a good time. This video was taken in NY from last Sunday:
P.S. If you're of the mindset that it's a waste of time unless if success/scoring with women is somehow "guaranteed", please ignore this post.
In China, due to the one-child policy, it is not clear if these women are really missing.
It is more likely that the second child was never properly registered after birth and data of them are missing in the census.
https://news.ku.edu/2016/11/22/study-fi ... -overblown
Anyway, China has about 1360 million people and missing 30 million females or so is not such a big deal.
There are many countries, usually Western and pro feminist, where ordinary men have no chance to find any reasonable female. Not because there are not enough women, but because many of these women show up with totally exaggerated demands, are full with drugs, single moms with plenty of boyfriends, have behavioral issues etc. etc.
At a purely individual level, I don't see how statistics will have that much of an impact because you just have to find ONE out of a country that has more women than the total population of Anglosphere. I don't think there's a great chance of becoming a statistic if we look at it from an individual perspective. I can see why this will become a great concern at the national level, and I do feel sorry for those guys that don't even get the short end of the stick but no stick at all. I'm sure many of them are decent men. Though the gender imbalance is real, I feel that the Western media greatly exaggerates it. Now China has a two-child policy, but the problem is more and more couples in the big cities can't even afford to have more than one child even if they want to, because due to the ruthless capitalistic development it's getting tougher and tougher for your average Chinese man / woman. I have a female friend who's originally from Hebei but lives with her family on the outskirts of Beijing, her dad has owned a factory there for many years, but soon they may be forced to relocate out of Beijing because the municipal government plans to invade that area with some development scheme, and neither her nor anyone in their family are considered Beijing natives in an administrative sense. And as far as I can see, much of Hebei is not a pleasant a place to be in, not that Beijing or any of the big cities are when it comes to living a peaceful life.
The gender imbalance in China is real, but is a problem mostly in the countryside. Cities are much more balance and some favor men.
China has repealed the one child policy (of which there is a lot of misinformation about) but I'm afraid it is too little, too late.
Make the most of going abroad while you still can.